weight loss on a keto diet is relatively easy to achieve but keeping that weight off proves
to be almost impossible to a lot of people and that's because there are three really important
rules of dieting that most people ignore and these three rules are important for work relationships
and any other thing that you want to do in life that's difficult to do most people try to ignore
their emotions they push them away they don't want to know about anything negative that's
happening in their life and that's the topic of today because that is a huge mistake we need to
see and understand our emotions in order to be successful at our diet at our jobs at our lives I
remember that when I was overweight I would avoid looking in the mirror because I didn't want to see
but when I had no choice but to look in the mirror for whatever reason I'm doing
my hair or whatever and I would see the weight and how I looked when I let myself
see it sometimes I could just block it out but when I let myself see it
I mean I did notice is that how quick I was to push those negative feelings to the side
and one is where I want you to understand that that was a mistake I was making because
sorry because I did about my weight I didn't want to feel hurt or sad or any
negative emotions but by not allowing myself to feel bad about it there was nothing to fix
there was nothing to solve the truth of the matter is though
I did feel bad about it I did feel sad about it and there was something to solve but every
time my mind my my brain tried to give me that information when I looked at myself and I saw that
and my brains tried to say hey Violet deal with this I push to the side which meant another day
that I lived overweight not doing anything to try to solve it that means that I lived 70 plus
pounds overweight longer than I needed to because I didn't put in the effort to research why was it
that when I tried to lose weight it wasn't working right I tried it didn't work I wouldn't look at it
because it was hurtful and I would move on what I was ignoring was that emotions tell us what to do
the way that I solve being angry is going to be very different than the way that I solve being
sad or scared or annoyed or frustrated Etc so had I allowed myself to feel angry sad frustrated or
whatever else I felt about being overweight I would have realized that there was a problem to
solve that needed more research more data more I needed to figure out what was I not doing why
was the weight not coming off I want you to think about it like this do you like your job so some of
you just said yes I like my job and if you said yes to that there's nothing else to do that's
a positive response to the question there's no problem to solve but if you said no then there's
something to solve because I'm doing a job that I don't like now here's what's interesting when
I asked you if you liked your job and you said no you probably had a negative feeling that came
to you and if you let that feeling sit with you you're much more likely to change your job than if
you push that feeling away quickly and acted like it wasn't there and that's the part of the puzzle
that I want every Wellness Warrior to look at and really understand I want you to figure out
am I pushing my feelings away when it comes to my food intake when I'm out in the world at a
party and I'm offered fun foods to eat or some other scenario occurs where I have to take a
decision am I going to eat this food that's going to harm me or am I going to say yes to my health
which means no to the food and find something else but that might be inconvenient right because
maybe that means I don't eat till I get home or maybe that means that I'm not able to eat
off this menu that's in front of me because right and I feel like this is part of the reason that we
don't end up succeeding because emotionally that feels hard right that I'm not looking the
same as everybody else or that I'm not getting to be I'm not getting to be on the easy route
so many people will end up not following their diet and so stay in a negative situation because
you're not letting yourself notice the emotions that happen in these situations I want to make
sure that I'm clear that being emotional isn't negative and it isn't positive it's
kind of neutral because it's just about gathering information if I'm feeling happy there's nothing
to solve there's nothing to fix is if everything is good but if I'm feeling negatively some kind
of negative all that's really saying is that there's some problem in my world that needs
an adjustment it needs a correction and the only way that I'm going to know that that's happening
is to let myself notice that I'm having a negative reaction emotions help us to decide what's going
wrong and then help us to figure out how to fix it and that's back to the idea that every single
day I have decisions to make about what I'm eating how much I'm gonna work today how much effort I'm
putting into my relationships and all the other important decisions that we make on a daily basis
the way I feel impacts the decisions I make and therefore impacts the direction that my
life is going to take so if you want to be able to stick to your keto diet
acknowledging how you feel about what's happening in your life means that you get to make real
decisions about what's happening in your life and that means you actually can fix those things
rather than what we tend to do what I know I was doing which is self-soothing with food this video
is part of a three-part Series so for more of an in-depth discussion of decision making and how you
can improve your life click on the playlist that's right there and I'll meet you in the next video