he's got her what do you think
but just love look like in the modern
world oh my god give me a bigger
question Lance any sort of love is what
connects people to feel like they exist
everyone's definition of love is
different so whether technology has
helped or hindered that probably depends
on how you define it in the first place
the conversation is often framed you
know is technology harmful does it make
people more lonely we don't know you
know we just understand that they may
modify the way we go about meeting our
basic human needs but they don't change
our fundamental human needs rabbit I
can't spoon me
how important is love in your life like
are you at your current age and what you
want to do are you concentrating on your
your own creative work and artwork and
what you're doing or do you make a big
priority out of like romantic
relationships our love has a really good
question because I just kind of got to
make a choice right now to go to Europe
to find the guy I loved for many years
and he also loved me a long time I guess
we are to enflame for sure seriously
people will understand so me and two
inflamed it's just a little high level
because you have you can have many soul
mate but you can own you only have one
to enflame in this life I remember when
I first started to fall in love with you
like it was last night before that I
would just live in my life like I knew
everything suddenly this bright light
hit me woke me up
howlite was you right now really really
really lucky the relationship I mean now
is you know we're Aquarians born on the
same day like this there's an emotional
kind of swirling world that I can't even
compare to any other relationship or
even think about trying to you know look
back at something else and apply it to
this its own new universe keep walking
keep walking and stuck now turn around
360 degrees
slower slower yeah
you know what does love look like in any
world at any time I know that you'll has
life goes on that it is actually and
probably in a hackneyed way it is
definitely the antithesis of fear look I
can say anything to you it's nice what
about you feel like you say anything to
me no what what do you mean what can you
not tell me you know like personal or
embarrassing thoughts I have I mean that
at a million a day really look tell me
one love in the modern world that is a
very broad question I think it really
does come down to the individual and
what everyone's you know needs are no
span sized I don't think it's a good
idea I think so these girls are bowing
at her it'll be fun more fun together
I'm sorry it makes me uncomfortable you
think it's gonna last forever cuz you
kind of you kind of do have to think it
will last forever cuz that's how you
stay in that love bubble because you
think you're gonna be with this person
and it ends and ultimately end so it's
sad keep waiting and I care about her
love is an intense thing to talk about I
don't know it's always the same breakup
the same conversations the same issues
yeah if some transgression wasn't the
cause of it then it's a you know it's
you know it's it's some sort of
emotional lack of communication or just
inability to to tolerate a person after
a certain point you know Isis 8-under
eight years I can't believe how petty
the argument was that actually ended it
we came home and he told me to put my
shoes by the door where he liked to put
the shoes and I didn't want to be told
where to put my shoes I wanted to sit on
the sofa and relax for a second so we
fought about that for like ten minutes
and I just had to finally stop you know
I had it finally stopped so just I just
got
do it anymore I couldn't this couldn't
be in that place anymore we just made
each other feel like about
ourselves little chips will end they may
into death I mean they go great then
you're just screen out then you can
someone's gonna watch their favorite
person die but so uh but we they're
still the most important thing so was it
like being married well it's hard for
sure but there's something that feels so
good about sharing your life with
somebody how do you share your life with
somebody at this point I you know I
don't know what I would do without her
and I know that's been said better but
it taught it's horrifying actually if
it's you know I can't imagine not being
with her and for what it for whatever
reason you know so yeah this is getting
stuffy I'm a little bit Jade I did just
go through breakups so it is a little
hard for me to like speak about this in
a sort of a neutral tone the separation
is really kind of what stops me from
from starting it because separation is
just always so brutal you've shared all
these moments of somebody and you've
been so intimate and you have to say we
can't do that anymore how do you know
when it's time for a relationship to end
that's one of the most difficult things
in the world
relationships really end themselves I
don't feel like you know I don't seek
out to end relationships and I don't
think people do as time goes on you know
people change we fall in love with one
version of someone and then we expect
them to stay that way but they never do
so I suppose we're supposed to learn to
really embrace the unknown embrace
evolution and learn to to kind of flow
with it as a living organism yeah that's
also the hard part going without crying
apart changing without it scaring the
other person I'm so madly in love I'm so
madly in love and then I do evolve and I
start learning about stuff and I start
going off my own direction and growing
and learning about new stuff and getting
excited about things and this person's
not really with me or even if they could
be I decide well they don't get it they
don't get the new meat I don't know if
you've ever gone through that you wake
up one morning and you look at the
person next to you that you were madly
in love in this love bubble with and you
just feel nothing for them and there's
no going back no I'm telling y'all that
she had me this bad tonight after you
were gone I thought a lot
about you and how you been treating me
and I thought why do I love you
very hard to break up with somebody that
you love love is not necessarily and
enough cuz I've you know I've been
divorced and I just went through a
breakup Wes in a month ago so you know
the idea of heartache and and the
limitations of love is fresh
I've definitely not been proud of who I
became in a relationship how much of a
stranger I became to myself I guess but
it does make me very sad that you can't
handle real emotions theater they are
real emotions how would you know what
what
say it am I really that scary say it my
fiancee note we live together and we
both work from home and she's created a
creative person's voice in the
illustrator so she's always working
crazy hours and I'm always working crazy
hours and we're always looking for the
next pitch which is coming from from the
web or from an unknown source you know
we don't have a regularity to a work
flow in that way and I think those
things get tied up in your relationship
and it becomes more than just love
essentially you need to be a team you
need to go to work together are you are
you serious he's gonna pull it boy he'd
be stupid not do good I see what you
said yeah yeah here Samantha you're good
one recently I was thinking about
relationships like shoes and how it's
cheaper to buy new shoes then work on
the shoes that you like really love and
care about and getting new soles cuz
it's expensive I was like I never want
to treat my shoes that way I think I
never want to treat a relationship that
way I don't want to like wear something
out until and not take care of it until
it's broken or like until it's unfixable
a lot of people are questioning
paradigms that are sort of crumbling
around them I think we live in a moment
where basically every illusion every
central illusion in our society is
exhausted I think monogamy is another
one of those institutions that people
are looking at and saying this really
doesn't work it hasn't worked for a long
time I was single for I've been singing
my whole life and this is my 34 years
old and in my first relationship of my
life I had relationships that had
emotional components to them but they
didn't have longevity or real
connectedness so I'd have long-distance
relationships which I've come to think
of or pretty much just a kind of
shielding yourself from true intimacy at
a certain point I started to get to this
age where I thought this is never
change for me greg grew to accept it but
I also felt like I felt like well I'm
missing this really fundamental human
experience like I have this really fully
formed life in every aspect but this
part that people think is like so
significant and important how do you see
people connecting and starting new
relationships in the modern world I
think technology has obliterated
boundaries so we are all sort of unified
and accessible in a way that we haven't
been before um emotionally it makes it
trickier technology changed the
availability of sexuality look um when I
was a teenager I had no outlet to go
online get into a chat room meet someone
and then decide to like drive over to
their house and have sex life I was 16
years old or 13 years old bike over to
their house or whatever I mean those
options just were not available to me
isn't like a huge percentage of
relationships now just all found online
like 10 years ago that was like the
shame she graduated magna laude in
computer science and she was on the
Lampoon so that means she's funny and
she's brainy that I think is quite
positive I feel that's like a really
good development and I love Asian fusion
so yeah me too really yeah the best and
this bartender supposed to be incredible
oh really oh yeah you took the mixology
course right
I did I did you look that up yeah haha
that's as sweet you're so romantic
oh yeah you can put in like Free Tibet
no leather shoes motorcycle uh balding
that could be your thing there's
somebody who's so into you like I don't
wear shoes either man hairs for losers
you know I remember when AOL you know
and people it was exciting to sit around
a chat room and and chat with a stranger
and meet her at a Denny's in the suburbs
and not her you know and that would be
like the the most exciting thing of all
time the mind-boggling concept and so
you go meet a stranger and that was
unfulfilled alternately in like and then
now you have tinder you know where sex
has become so profoundly technologically
transactional technology is a great
thing to help enhance and maintain and
protects the relationships you have in
normal life but I don't think that it
can be for me personally a substitute
for the real-life interaction I feel
like it's a bit of both that's probably
good and if it kind of allows you to
continue to have those bonds or
strengthen those bonds while people
can't physically be in the same place
and I think that's really good thing
it's like to be alive in that room right
now what do you mean what do you
tell me you tell me everything that's
going through your mind tell me
everything you're thinking in the future
I think probably you will have more
chance to improve the technology like we
are far away but we can use technology
to touch each other even even we far I
guess my good hope about the cat the
technology is about improve more close
to human nature not just like separates
the human nation me to you me know how
my first lot long conversation was like
first time we ever like hung out was
about relationships and all we talked
about almost exclusively for several
hours was relationships how they work
and how they function and how they fail
and what makes them fail and what makes
people behave the way they behave how
relationships disintegrate and turn and
change and and how they're still kind of
amazing regardless
you