one of the things that i've dealt in ministry and being as a pastor is helping people sometimes to
recognize certain things that hold them back from moving forward in their relationships or
moving forward in their life with god a lot of times they're this invisible chains that hold us
back to a particular event or a particular person and they're not actually like demonic spirits but
they are soul ties now i understand so many people say well this is just a charismatic invention of
people who do deliverance this is totally not true and we're going to dive into the scripture and
look at what bible talks of what bible says about soul ties and most importantly how for us to break
ungodly soul ties let's start with the first verse genesis chapter 44 verse 30. it says now therefore
when i come to your servant my father and the lad is not with us
since his life is bound up in the lads life it will happen when he sees that the lad is
not with us he will die so one of the sons of jacob is saying to joseph in egypt he says that
jacob's life is tied his life his soul is tied bound up meaning together bound up to the life
of benjamin so that means that jacob had this soul tie to his son benjamin partially it was because
joseph was gone and then the mother of joseph and jacob and benjamin she died a child birth of
benjamin and there was this very strong tie that jacob had to benjamin now let's look at another
example and this example that most people hear about david and jonathan in first samuel chapter
18 verse 1 it says the following now when he had finished speaking to saul the soul of jonathan
was knit to the soul of david and jonathan loved him as his own soul so i want you to see
one soul is knit to the soul it's pretty much like bound up it's connected it and so where we get the
idea of soul ties it's when your soul becomes knit together with another person's soul david's
soul david's emotions david's inner being not his spirit but his soul was tied up like chained bound
knit together with the soul of jonathan now let's look at the people of judah the tribe of judah
in second samuel chapter 20 verse 2 so every man of israel went up after david and they
followed so every man of israel went up from after david and followed sheba the son of
bichi but the men of judah clave unto their king from jordan to jerusalem in king james version
claimed meaning they they got attached they got knit together they are they're they've
closely followed they got pretty much infused with with david the rest of the israel israelites
they walked away from david but the men of judah had this close connection to this leader of theirs
their king so as we're seeing already parents can have very close ties to their children
friends can have very close emotional and soulless ties to their friends and
people can have these ties to their leaders people in authority teachers pastors
or somebody that they look up to as a person of authority let's look at uh one more shechem was
strongly attached to the daughter of jacob dinah or dina and i want you to read once you listen
to the verse genesis chapter 34 verse verse 3. his soul so it talks about shechem his soul was
strongly attached to dinah the daughter of jacob and he loved the young woman and spoke kindly
to the young woman it's interesting that it followed on the footsteps of him raping her
you know they they had a physical connection and then something happened
she becomes connected to him and he becomes strongly attached he becomes connected knit to
her soul and a lot of times that's what happens when people have sex they develop soul ties
sometimes these soul ties can develop not through sex they can develop through an obsession that you
have with the person or some kind of a thing that you go with a person that can really anchor you in
that's not even physical like for example david and jonathan this wasn't a physical relationship
it was very emotional relationship that they had same thing with jacob and benjamin he had a very
close almost like unhealthy dependence upon his son because the other children of jacob
noticed that if benjamin is gone jacob is going to die and that's not healthy now
the bible talks about husband and wife have this relationship in genesis chapter 2 verse 24 it
says that a man should leave his father and his mother be joined to his wife and they shall become
one flesh they are knit together there is this knitting together between husband and wife
and then we're going to look at one more verse and then i want to talk about how to begin to break
those unhealthy soul ties so as you as you're noticing there's healthy soul ties and there are
unhealthy soul ties so soul ties in themselves are not bad the problem begins to happen when we have
unhealthy soul ties by which we are controlled dominated manipulated or we are dragged on by
our past or we are still connected to some kind of a previous relationship of our past
that we need to move on from colossians chapter 2 verse 2 it says that their hearts
may be encouraged being knit together in love and attaining to all the riches at the full assurance
of understanding to the knowledge of the mystery of god both of the father and of
christ so we as believers we are knit together to other believers in love not in control not
in guilt not in domination not in some kind of a you know where somebody exercises this domination
over you but in love we are knit together as different parts of our bodies are knit together
so is we the members of jesus christ we are knit together not just to the lord but to each other
we are knit together in love god is in the business restoring your soul if certain parts of
your soul are stuck somewhere else in the previous relationships in the previous episodes of your
life in the previous seasons of your life maybe through certain activities that you were involved
in that some portions of your soul are stuck somewhere else the lord wants to restore your soul
in fact the bible wants us to worship god with all of our soul that means he doesn't want us to give
fragments of our soul to an abusive relationship he doesn't want us to leave fragments of our soul
portions of our soul and these particular things in some kind of a previous relationship
he doesn't want to have hooks people to have hooks to our soul and for them to hold us back
he wants us to worship him with all of our soul a hundred percent of your soul not just with
your mind not just with your spirit but with your soul with your mind with your emotions
and the bible even says that in psalm in psalm 23 verse 3 it says that he restores
my soul so maybe your soul got broken down as you went through relationships as you went through
maybe abusive relationships perhaps you went through relationships where you were manipulated
controlled you were taken advantage of god forbid raped molested maybe you had a very unhealthy
dominant parent authority that just dominated your life and destroyed and broke your soul down
perhaps you had somebody in authority in a spiritual place who destroyed or took certain
portions of your soul and just crushed them the lord wants you to worship him with all of
your soul he wants to remove all the hooks from your soul and he wants to restore your soul so
you can become a healthy being in your soul the devil wants to tear your soul to pieces
and this is where the main verse about soul ties comes from in psalm 7 in psalm 7 and verse 2
it says lest he tear your soul like a lion rending it in pieces while there is none to deliver
so the devil like a lion wants to tear your soul to fragments to pieces to portions so you're no
longer a whole person you're a person with holes you're a person with hooks you're a person with
fragments you're broken down that's what the devil wants but god wants to restore your soul god wants
to bring your soul back so that it with your soul you can praise him and worship him fully so
in the conclusion of this message what do we want to do if you found yourself today with soul
ties if you found yourself with hooks broken pieces in your soul i'm gonna give you just
four hours to consider number one is to repent of ungodly soul ties repent of any sexual sins
repent of depending on someone even if it's your parent even if it's your ex-boyfriend even if it's
spiritual authority where you lost your even individuality where you lost your personhood
you got so obsessed with this person you got so maybe admiring you you admired this person
so much or perhaps you were so fascinated or perhaps you were so weak and this person took
advantage of that and you let that happen repent of any known sins where you've opened the door
for your heart for your soul become a prisoner broken and tore to pieces by the enemy because
of willfully going into relationships that god didn't want you to be in or allowing yourself to
go so deep in depending on the other person that you lost who you are you lost you lost the freedom
to think to make decisions and the freedom to be who you are and who god made you to be
number two is renounce ungodly soul ties renounce ungodly soul ties of codependence
maybe on your parents where you can't function today and you're over 30 years of age
and you can't be you you can't make decisions because you're so dependent in an unhealthy way
renounce any soul tie you might have to your ex-boyfriend or your ex-girlfriend perhaps to
somebody who victimized you renowns these soul ties perhaps somebody that you had a one night
stand renounce those things repent of them and then renounce them maybe you had the situation
that this guy had it with the daughter of jacob renounce those things because these are spiritual
these are like little hooks connected to your soul dragging you and keeping you from going forward
where god wants you to be number three remove any objects that connects you to that person or that
event especially if it's relationships that ended romantic relationships all relationships that were
very toxic and unhealthy gifts objects different sometimes people have different scarves different
little necklaces earrings perfume cologne they have different um notes photos
um anything that gets you connected to those things and just let the lord lead you to that
this is not some kind of a law or a legalism where if something that connects you to that
just remove that from your possession remove that from your life because that thing is over
and whatever that it was over with it needs to die together with it it doesn't need to
that does not need to drag into your future remove those objects that connect you to those soul ties
i know people who sometimes hear a message like this and as a pastor you know i deal with people
who are trying to get married and sometimes they had a previous relationship where things
didn't work out and and they feel this like drawing toward that person they know
they shouldn't be with that person this person already the other person already
got married and they still feel like man but this is this is it for me and they feel stuck
and the moment they take the objects the pictures the the notes the even the i remember one person
scarf that was holding her back remove it god just opens the door and they're able to move forward
into the next thing that god has for them and number four is receive restoration from the
spirit of god this is the work of the holy spirit now you might need counseling you might need
professional help but holy spirit is honestly the best helper i'm not in any way discrediting
or belittling or minimizing the importance of counseling or therapy or professional help but the
spirit of god is your helper as well he wants to repair your soul he wants to bring your soul back
he wants to renew your soul he wants to put you back together he wants you to be whole again
not a person with hooks and holes but for your soul to be whole again
god bless you in jesus name as you go in the process of finding restoration for your soul