People also think too- like money just buys happiness and it absolutely is not
the truth, you know I'm saying, like you gotta be right inside otherwise none of
-it means nothing. -no absolutely they get everything then
this is this is something? This is everything? This... mmm
Asalaamu Alaikum guys before I start I just want you to say I'm raising money for a girls school
that's been built by my friend in Gambia. Link is in the description and by the
end of the video you're gonna know why I've picked this particular project.
Okay before we begin I wanted to share a profound clip by the famous rapper Eminem.
When I think about my accomplishments, like that's probably the
thing I'm most proud of- you know is that, it's being able to raise kids.
Now this clip alongside that footage or bit of news that's going around of a
hijab' spitting at a police officer and this whole raising money for the girls school
has got me thinking- how is all this related?
okay so the first 10 years of
any person's life are the most important in terms of the upbringing. What we learn
in the first 10 years stays with us for the rest of our lives. In fact during
this time even our brain is the most receptive it will ever be. It's in a
state called Theta, which means it is very suggestible this is a state that
hypnotists and therapists try to induce to reach our subconscious. Now this vital
stage is missed for most of us yeah. Mum spends most of the day in front of
dramas or cooking, whilst dad is out most of the day working, so this upbringing is
done mostly by the school-
which are pretty much unstable teachers and a colonized curriculum.
What?
Or it's done by music which is filled with
promiscuity, intoxicants, stereotypical gender roles- girl chasing
after the boy, boy thinking the girl is somebody he can make it rain over
what?
Or TV yeah. Even these small kids programs glorify girls chasing boys. Or
pursuing an unrealistic standard of beauty. Or the fact that success is in
being heard and being seen. This is done by exposing oneself, giving away one's
dignity, being vulgar-you get the point. If it's not that then ask yourself which
female role models do our girls have? I don't know about you but the most famous
female role model or scholar that I can think of is Yasmin Mogahid.
The rest are just Beauty youtubers who are trying to conform to the mainstream or just
trying to dilute their Muslim-ness. Of course I'm not talking about all of them
but I'm talking about you know the ones that are famous.
Whilst all of this is going on
BANG, that's when our girls are entrusted with the hijab.
Yes take the hijab, go out
there and represent the entire religion yes there you go. If you don't though it's
Haram yeah? Go and do it now yeah. And of course the only source of Islam that
these girls have to understand the hijab/ what it represents is madrasah, which is a
couple of hours a day in which they're just learning the Arabic yeah, they're not
really learning the religion. And when they look around in their circles be it
you know TV, music, friends, the religion isn't really seen as something cool. In
fact even if you look in the media it's just constantly being demonized.
yeah so it's just a headache,
they don't like standing out- this cloth makes them stand out as it is and now if
they're now you know affiliated to a religion which is constantly linked with
terrorism that's just not what they need is it?
So...
after painting this bleak picture, what is the solution? Let's look at what's in
place for the boys and when you compare it with what is actually in place for
our girls it's pathetic. In fact if you look in some countries
the women's section in the mosque is isn't even open. You gotta put study circles
in place yeah, and if your girls are MashaAllah are practicing have good
manners encourage them to be youtubers.
-What? -Yeah you heard me mate because the
other girls are literally drowning drowning in the dunya they need these
role models. Stop keeping these gems that you have, in your little family
so they can just benefit two or three people, no, we need them mate.
And of course dads
yes dads
you've gotta Iove your daughter's.
Spend time with them.
Give them your love because if you don't they're going to go out there and get it
from other people and those other people will not love them unconditionally like
you. They have an agenda, they will use and abuse them and break them further.
And if someone like Eminem, who has been around promiscuity, Fame, money, you name
it... if he understands the importance of being a dad then why can't you?
This my baby
and nobody gonna touch him
Even psychologist Simon baron-cohen says that
boys or men tend to be systemisers whilst women and
girls tend to be sympathizers ie more in tune and in touch with their feelings, so
they need that from a young age from their father, so they know what sort of
standard to have when they get older.
So in other words what I was trying to say was
it is unreasonable to hold hijabies to a high standard when the
relevant foundation hasn't been put in place. Rather than putting them down, we
should try to understand the origins of their behavior and put support networks
in place rather than hoping they will correct their path just because
they're wearing a hijab. If you're sisters and you're like- alright that sounds all
well and good but that's a long term advice, what can you give us for now.
Islam is the only thing that is truly looking out for you without expecting
anything in return. Everybody else wants something in return.
The sooner you realize that, the sooner your marriages will become better, your
role as a mother will become better, your role in life will become better.
You'll feel liberated, you won't be used, you won't feel the need
to trying to aim for a standard that's unachievable by society and by these
Instagram models and by these magazines and movies. And now you can see why I am
supporting this girls school in Gambia and now you can also see how I linked
the school, with hijabies, with Eminem.
There you go guys, it's okay to be impressed you know I'm saying? It's okay.
Alright I'm gonna leave it there until next time...
people also think too like money just
buys happiness and it absolutely is not the truth
you know what I'm saying like you gotta be right inside
Asalaamu Alaikum