Second, gain the proper perspective. In this episode, we are continuing
with the second out of seven steps answering the question.
How to turn a negative experience into a positive outcome? This is dynamic. It's powerful. Get ready.
So, my name's Doug Andrew and I've helped many many families throughout the 48 years that
I've more or less counseled and taught families how to be responsible and accountable. Teach
their children, their grandchildren. My wife and I have mentored many troubled youth. I'm on a board
of teenage suicide prevention. My wife has spent countless hours thousands and thousands of hours
at the christmas box with little children who also feel down and they have negative
experiences. They've been abused and they're in protective custody. Your heart just goes
out to these young people when they feel like, "Goll,y why does life suck for me?",
is sort of their vernacular. So, I'm going to go into step number two. If you have not watched
the first episode of the first step. It talked about getting the proper perspective by having
an attitude of gratitude. But in this step, I'm talking about the big picture perspective. So, here
we go. So, if you did not watch the first step. I explained that I have a 20-page document that
I created several years ago called the negative experience transformer and it goes through all
seven steps. This is step number two and as you begin to go through this process of transforming
a negative experience into a positive outcome. This second step is critical because once
you sort of have this mental shift into what you're grateful for which is step number one.
Step number two is to think about the big picture. Gain the proper perspective.
For example, years ago was hunting up in Alaska and the plane you know the floatplane drops
us off and says, "You know what, the weather doesn't look good." If the lake freezes over you will have
to walk out to the nearest airstrip which is 20 miles away. Guess what the lake froze over?
Now, it did thaw out the day before the pilot returned. But we had relentless rain pouring
rain we had over a hundred mile an hour winds. Our tent poles got busted. It was horrible and
I was soaking wet for a week. This was in the month of October in Alaska out in the middle of nowhere
and I kept thinking, okay, I can endure anything for 24 hours and I had to convince myself of that
seven days in a row. I can endure anything for 24 hours and then I got to the next 24 the
next 24. So, but I began to realize this is just a small moment in time. Let's look at the big picture.
You know, during our normal lifetime sometimes a negative experience is just a tiny tiny drop in
this bucket we call life and so what we need to do is begin to realize that why do we go
through experiences like this? What is life all about? What's the real purpose of life and
it's to gain experience not to have everything go hunky-dory. Now, I'm a Christian and in the
the bible we are taught, you know what the rain is going to pour on the just and the unjust.
We're not exempt from going through trials. In fact, Christ said and the night before
he was crucified that he was the true vine and the father's the husbandman. But he says,
any branch in me because he was talking to his his 11 remaining disciples that beareth not fruit.
That his father in heaven is going to cast him out. It doesn't have any use for them. If you do
bear fruit you're going to be purged. Why? So you can bear more fruit. It's sort of like when you
you have to prune a tree. I teach my children and grandchildren deem it an honor when you have
negative experiences you have setbacks. Because this will help you grow strong. It's sort of like
a butterfly or a baby chick. If you will take a chrysalis and you watch it because
several years ago with our grandchildren at grandpa's camp. We have an annual grandpa's camp.
We gave all of the grandchildren a jar with five caterpillars in it and they washed in oz.
They made their little cocoon the chrysalis and a couple of weeks later when it began to emerge in
the measure of its full creation as a monarch butterfly. What are they always tempted to do?
Help it out and if they do what happens to the butterfly it dies and so they will never forget
that lesson because I want them to know when they are going through a tough time mom, dad, grandma,
grandpa, we will be there to give you a hand up. But never a handout. We don't want you to be a clam on
the bottom of the ocean so to speak waiting for plankton to float to you all the time. See, America
was built with an eagle on the top of the flagpole not a clan. Where you go out you're you're in
motion and you're adding value in the world and as you do that you will learn to overcome. So when you
gain the proper perspective many times I need to attribute one of my favorite books it's called
the majesty of calmness. It was written as of the recording of this episode over 115 years ago
by William George Jordan. It is a book our family loves when we study it as a family everybody
devours it and we have conversations discussions around the dinner table. It's the theme of many of
our family vacations with a purpose. I'm going to give you a quote from two short paragraphs
in that book and you'll think it was written for our time yesterday. Now, before I share with you
this profound a quote from the book the majesty of calmness. If this is intriguing you. If this
is helping you and you can think of somebody who would benefit from watching this episode be sure
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experience transformer all seven steps and also a copy of my book entitlement abolition
for free you simply cover some of the shipping and handling. So get ready, I want you to listen with
your heart more than with your ears. This is just a snippet of what is in this book by William George
Jordan written over 115 years ago and you'll think it was written yesterday for our time. He's
talking about how to have a majesty of calmness when things aren't going right in your life.
Here we go, he says when the worries and cares of the day fret you and begin to wear upon you
and you chafe under the friction, be calm. Stop rest for a moment and let calmness and peace
assert themselves. If you let these irritating outside influences get the better of you
you are confessing your inferiority to them by permitting them to dominate you.
Study the disturbing elements each by itself bring all the willpower of your nature to bear upon them
and you will find that they will one by one melt into nothingness like vapors fading before the sun.
The glow of calmness that will then pervade your mind. The tingling sensation of an inflow of new
strength may be to you the beginning of the revelation of the supreme calmness that is
possible for you. Then in some great hour of your life when you stand face to face with some awful
trial. When the structure of your ambition and life work crumbles in a moment you will be brave.
You can then fold your arms calmly look out undismayed and undaunted upon the ashes of your
hope upon the wreck of what you have faithfully built and with brave heart and an unfaltering
voice you may say, so let it be. I will build again. Now, that's just two paragraphs out of this book
it's a two-hour read. I would highly recommend you search for it. I have an addition myself
where I do it forward because it's public domain and that's found on my website three-dimensional
wealth. This is one of the most critical things when you're going through a negative experience
is to gain the proper perspective at the end of the day is this going to matter that much.
I will overcome. Does that make sense? So, if you want to learn all seven
steps to transform a negative experience into a positive outcome this is only step number two.
Be sure and watch the other episodes subscribe to this channel and also I want to gift you a copy of
this book called entitlement abolition. In here you'll also have the opportunity to get a copy
of the negative experience transformer as well as several tools that are available that I talk about
in this book. This retails for twenty dollars I'll pay for the book. You simply contribute a
nominal amount towards the shipping and handling. I'll cover the rest of that cost. I'll fire out
a copy to you plus a there's options there for if you'd like to listen and learn or watch and
learn. There's even an 18-hour master class but I want you to begin to empower yourself and be
able to lift others up because we all go through negative experiences in life and this is about you
and your brighter future and helping you care about those that you love.