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>>> WELCOME BACK. WAS SO MUCH TO DO AND SO LITTLE
TIME.
TIME.
TIME. MANY OF US FEEL LIKE WE'RE NOT
DOING ENOUGH TO KEEP OUR
FAMILIES CONNECTED.
FAMILIES CONNECTED. WHAT A BETTER TIME THAN THE
START OF A NEW YEAR TO TRY SOME
NEW STRATEGIES TO STRATEGY NEW
BONDS.
BONDS.
BONDS. HAPPY NEW YEAR. DO YOU FEEL
THAT YOU ARE SUPER CONNECTED IS
A FAMILY?
A FAMILY?
A FAMILY? >> DO YOU WANT THE TRUTH?
I DO NOT.
I DO NOT.
I DO NOT. WE ARE SO BUSY AND FOCUS ON
SPORTS, STUDYING , AND SCHOOL.
IT A CRAZY ROUTINE.
I WISH WE WERE.
I WANT RECOMMENDATIONS ON HOW
TO DO THAT.
>> WE ARE WORKING ON CHOPPING
IT UP AND BEING MORE
SPONTANEOUS.
SPONTANEOUS. I'M ALWAYS TRYING TO FIND A NEW
ADVENTURE TO GO ON.
I KNOW IT IS AN ISSUE BUT I AM
CONSCIOUSLY TRYING TO STAY
CONNECTED.
CONNECTED. PATTERN INTERRUPTIONS.
PATTERN INTERRUPTIONS. >> WE LIVE IN A SMALL
APARTMENT.
APARTMENT. AND WE ARE VERY CLOSE.
VERY CLOSE VERY CONNECTED.
WE ALL SHARE EVERYTHING.
>> IT'S INTERESTING JASON THAT
YOU SAID YOU'RE LOOKING FOR A
PATTERN OF INTERRUPTION.
BECAUSE EXPERTS GIVE US TIPS ON
HOW TO CREATE THAT BOND AND GET
BETTER ACQUAINTED.
BETTER ACQUAINTED. AND THEY SAID ONE OF THE THINGS
IS TO ESTABLISH ROUTINES.
I FEEL LIKE YOU DO.
WE HAVE ALL THE ROUTINES.
AND HE SAID THE CHILDREN THRIVE
WHEN THEY KNOW WHAT IS GOING TO
HAPPEN NEXT.
HAPPEN NEXT. BUT I'M GOING TO START MIXING
THINGS UP.
THINGS UP. I THINK IT'S EXCITING AND GIVES
THEM SOMETHING TO LOOK FORWARD
TO.
TO.
TO. WHAT'S THE FEEDBACK THAT YOU
ARE GETTING FROM YOUR GIRLS?
>> LET'S PREFERENCE THAT BY
SAYING THAT THEY'VE BEEN RAISED
BY MOM'S ON CALL.
IT CREATED SOME SECRET THINGS.
THERE ARE THINGS I WILL NOT
TAMPER WITH.
TAMPER WITH. BEDTIME.
BEDTIME.
BEDTIME. THE OTHER THINGS I WILL
INTRODUCE A PATTERN
INTERRUPTION.
INTERRUPTION. STRUCTURE IS IMPORTANT.
AND KNOWING THE DIFFERENCE IS
IMPORTANT.
IMPORTANT. >> THE ROUTINE THING FOR US.
FOR MY BACKGROUND IN EDUCATION.
MY DEGREE IS IN BEHAVIOR
MANAGEMENT.
MANAGEMENT. MY KIDS NEED ME TO BE MORE LIKE
THAT PICK THE BIGGEST THING I
LEARNED IN COLLEGE FOR BEHAVIOR
MANAGEMENT IS ROUTINE , AND
GETTING THEM INVOLVED IN THE
ROUTINE.
ROUTINE.
ROUTINE. THE BIG THING IS ROUTINES WE
KNOW THAT THOSE ARE IMPORTANT.
THAT WHEN YOU LET THE KIDS MAKE
THE ROUTINE THEN THEY FEEL A
PART OF IT , AND THEY FEEL
EMPOWERED AND THEY WANT TO
FOLLOW THAT ROUTINE MORE.
THAT'S BEEN MY NEW THING.
WE'VE CREATED A TACO TUESDAY.
WE GIGGLE ABOUT IT.
AND NOW EVERY TUESDAY NIGHT WE
KNOW THAT IS OUR DEAL.
>> I WONDER WHICH AGE IS A GOOD
AGE TO START AT?
>> ARE FOUR-YEAR-OLD HE'LL ASK
IF I BROUGHT HIS WATER BALL AND
I'LL SAY IF YOU WANTED THAT'S
YOUR RESPONSIBILITY.
YOUR RESPONSIBILITY. HE GOES RIGHT INTO THE KITCHEN
AND GETS HIS WATER BOTTLE MY
OLDEST REMEMBER HIS HOMEWORK
PUTTING IT ON THEM I DON'T WANT
THEM TO ASK ME ABOUT IT BECAUSE
I HAVE OTHER THINGS TO WORRY
ABOUT.
ABOUT.
ABOUT. >>
ABOUT. >> ONE FAIL AND THEY ARE ALL
OVER IT.
OVER IT.
OVER IT. >> I THINK WERE TRYING TO FIND
OPPORTUNITIES TO RELAX
TOGETHER.
TOGETHER.
TOGETHER. FINDING OUT WHAT IS GOING ON IN
THEIR LIFE.
THEIR LIFE. GETTING AROUND THAT DINNER
TABLE.
TABLE.
TABLE. THOSE WERE THE BEST TIMES AND
DISCUSSIONS.
DISCUSSIONS. WHO IS ABLE TO DO THAT FIVE
NIGHTS A WEEK?
WE ARE TRYING TO GET BETTER BUT
IT IS HARD?
>> I KEEP BRINGING UP TACO
TUESDAY IF YOU HAVE BETTER
ROUTINES THE WEDNESDAY NIGHT IS
PASTA NIGHT.
PASTA NIGHT. IT'S OUR VERSION OF IT.
IT BECOMES A NATURAL.
DO WE SIT DOWN EVERY NIGHT AND
HAVE DINNER TOGETHER?
MOST THE TIME I'M DOING FIVE
DIFFERENT THINGS AND I NEED TO
WORK ON THAT.
BUT A COUPLE OF TIMES.
>> I THINK DINNER IS REALLY
TOUGH I WORK A LATE SCHEDULE IN
THE SHOP.
THE SHOP.
THE SHOP. BUT I DO TAKE ADVANTAGE OF
BREAKFAST.
BREAKFAST. I GET UP EARLY AND WE SIT DOWN
AND PREPARE FOR THE DAY.
WE TAKE ADVANTAGE OF
OPPORTUNITIES AS THEY COME
>> THAT'S PERFECT.
IT DEPENDS ON YOUR SCHEDULE.
IF DINNER DOESN'T WORK YOU JUST
HAVE TO CARVE OUT THE TIME.
>> I LAY DOWN WITH MY SEVEN-
YEAR-OLD WHEN HE'S GOING TO BED
AND THAT'S OUR TIME TO CHAT
ABOUT SCHOOL.
ABOUT SCHOOL. I USED TO TRY TO DO IT WHEN I
WALKED IN THE DOOR.
AND HE DOESN'T WANT TO TALK TO
ME.
ME.
ME. WHEN
ME. WHEN WE ARE ALONE TOGETHER
THAT'S A NICE TIME.
>> AND FOCUS ON THE CHILD'S
JOURNEY, SUCCESS , CELEBRATING
THOSE SMALL MILESTONES.
EVERY CHILD IS UNIQUE.
AND I AM LEARNING THAT WITH
BOTH OF MINE.
BEING PROUD WHEN THEY HIT THOSE
LITTLE MICRO-GOALS.
LITTLE MICRO-GOALS. STAY THE COURSE, WORK HARD.
OBVIOUSLY YOU KNOW THAT
ENCOURAGEMENT WORKS.
ENCOURAGEMENT WORKS. IT WORKS FOR ME AS AN ADULT.
YOU NOTICE THAT WITH YOUR CHILD
WHEN YOU GET THAT GREAT REPORT
CARD, THOSE WORDS OF
ENCOURAGEMENT REALLY HELP.
>> THERE IS NO DOUBT ABOUT IT.
ALL OF A SUDDEN REMEMBERING
WHAT I LEARNED 25 YEARS AGO IN
COLLEGE.
COLLEGE.
COLLEGE. TEACHING THEM TO BE PROUD OF
THEM SELVES.
THEM SELVES. IT'S THE SMALL THINGS.
MY DAUGHTER MADE A 96 ON HER
SPELLING TEST.
SPELLING TEST. IT'S INCREDIBLE FOR A CHILD
WITH DYSLEXIA.
WITH DYSLEXIA. AND I TOLD HER SHE SHOULD BE
PROUD OF HERSELF.
WHEN THEY TAKE THAT OWNERSHIP.
IT'S ALL ABOUT PUTTING
OWNERSHIP ON THE KIDS.
AND HELPING THEM FEEL THAT THEY
ARE PART OF THE DECISION.
THAT'S COMPLETELY DIFFERENT
WITH HOW I WAS RAISED.
STUDY SHOWED THAT PARENTS NEED
TO SHOW THAT LEADERSHIP INSTEAD
OF BEING A DICTATOR.
WHICH IS WHAT I WANT TO DO.
THAT'S THE WAY I GREW UP.
>> IT'S HARD TO REMEMBER.
IT'S A GREAT JOB.
BUT SITTING DOWN.
DO YOU FIND THAT YOU'RE HAVING
A DIALOGUE?
A DIALOGUE? >> I BELIEVE EVERY JOURNEY IS
PAVED WITH GOALS ALONG THE WAY.
MY DAUGHTER REMEMBERS THE FIRST
PINK CLIP THAT YOU GOT IN
CLASS?
CLASS?
CLASS? NOW SHE HAS A 17 AS OF
YESTERDAY.
YESTERDAY. WE LOOK AT WHERE WE HAVE COME
FROM.
FROM.
FROM. THE
FROM. THE LITTLE PAVERS THAT MARK THE
JOURNEY.
JOURNEY.
JOURNEY. AND I THINK IT'S IMPORTANT TO
CONTINUE TO DO THAT.
>> HOW IS ISAAC?
>> HE NEEDS ENCOURAGEMENT.
WHAT HE DID WHEN YOU HAVE A KID
WHO WHEN YOU PRAISE THEM, AND
THEN WHEN THEY DON'T DO WELL
IT'S A DEVASTATING ANY CRIES
FOR 25 MINUTES.
>> THAT'S A GREAT QUESTION.
THERE SHOULD BE TOO MUCH
EMPHASIS, TO HIM IT SEEMED THE
WORLD.
WORLD.
WORLD. >>
WORLD. >> THAT OTHER SEGMENT THAT WE
DID ABOUT THE POSITIVE SIDE OF
FAILURE.
FAILURE.
FAILURE. WHAT DID YOU LEARN FROM THAT?
WHAT WOULD YOU DO DIFFERENTLY?
THAT'S WHAT WE HAVE TO DO IS
ADULTS.
ADULTS.
ADULTS. >> MOMMY FAILS ALL DAY EVERY
DAY.
DAY.
DAY. >>
DAY. >> HOW DO YOU HELP THEM REALIZE
THAT IT IS OKAY.
YOU HAVE TO FIND A WAY TO LET
HIM KNOW THAT THE ONLY WAY TO
GET BETTER IS TO HAVE THOSE
SETBACKS.
SETBACKS.
SETBACKS. >> I SHARE MY FAILURES I HAVE A
LOT OF THINGS TO BE GRATEFUL
WITH.
WITH.
WITH. BUT
WITH. BUT I SURE THOSE ALONG THE WAY.
>> THIS LAST ONE IS REMEMBERING
TO TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF.CARA
KNEER IS COMING TO MY HOUSE
TODAY FOR A LITTLE R&R.
THE GIRLS CAN BABYSIT.
WHEN YOU DO THAT SELF-CARE YOU
ARE BETTER WHEN YOU FILL UP
YOUR OWN TANK.
HOW DO YOU GET SELF-CARE?
>> I'M TRYING TO MAKE TIME FOR
IT.
IT.
IT. >>
IT. >> DID SHE SAY YOU'RE BUILDING
A HOUSE?
A HOUSE?
A HOUSE? >> I WOULD NOT RECOMMEND IT.
IF YOU ARE WATCHING.
IT'S A LOT OF THINGS.
I WAS SAYING YESTERDAY DURING
REAL TALK.
REAL TALK. I HAVE A GIRLFRIEND THAT'S
ASKING ME.
ASKING ME. AND I THINK OF 1 MILLION THINGS
I HAVE TO DO.
I'M SO GLAD THAT I TOOK THE
TIME.
TIME.
TIME. >>
TIME. >> MY FRIEND KELLY SAYS IT'S A
VITAMIN G. IT'S A GIRLFRIEND
VITAMINS.
VITAMINS.
VITAMINS. THAT IS WHAT MY BLOG IS ABOUT.
HOW TO TAKE CARE OF YOURSELVES
AS A MOM.
AS A MOM.
AS A MOM. IT'S HOW TO TAKE CARE OF
YOURSELF AS A MOM.
>> AT THE BEGINNING THE MONTH
MY WIFE AND I SET A COUPLE OF
DAYS.
DAYS.
DAYS. AND
DAYS. AND WE COVER FOR EACH OTHER.
WE KNOW HOW IMPORTANT IT IS.
SO WE TRADE OFF.
>> I LOVE THAT.
THANK YOU SO MUCH.
A GREAT REMINDER , WE CAN