This video is about = "The Secret to Stopping Fear and Anxiety!" I'm going to reveal powerful steps
to hopefully stopping your fear and anxiety in your life... To find out more please stay tuned
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Fear and anxiety can destroy our lives, and have a very detrimental effect on our mental health
not to mention our confidence too. Sometimes we go about our lives with the idea that anxiety is
just normal, and we sometimes avoid situations and people because of it..."I can't handle phone
calls it gives me anxiety...I'm afraid of dogs can't come to your house....I don't like big crowds
that gives me major anxiety....I'm afraid of losing control it's best that I don't come to the party...."
Social media in particular makes people almost laugh and joke about their insecurities, which is
almost like kicking yourself when you're down. We make these throwaway statements and assessments we
just assume that it's normal gospel and therefore live life limited. I have made this mistake all my
life = out of fear and anxiety, I've talked myself out of many things, situations and opportunities...
For example for a man, perhaps walking across the room and talking to a woman he finds attractive
gives him major anxiety! Most of the time the man will talk himself out of doing so because of these
fears = the fear of potentially getting rejected and the anxiety of potentially embarrassing himself
in the process..... before even stepping across the room he's lost the battle in his mind,
and as this woman walks away, he blasts himself "oh man! Why didn't I speak to her?! I'm such a fool..."
"I'm so stupid..." then continues to repeat the process for the rest of his single life. Fear and anxiety
is not working in your favor! You think it keeps you safe but it's actually holding you back...Let's
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One of the best ways in stopping my personal fear and anxiety was first recognizing it instantly!
We are survivors sometimes in life, perhaps through trauma or difficult moments, we've just learned to
cope with things... I was once mugged on a bus and was threatened to be stabbed years ago! I just
gave him my phone and money terrified! When this happened I was sat at the top deck of the bus (the
double decker in the UK) right at the back! Since that moment I refused to go on a bus for a long
time, I was terrified. For one year I never got on a bus. I'd either pay for a cab, jump off the train or
I'd even walk! I was always running late because I refused to go on a bus, and I'd say "I'll never
take a bus again, I was mugged no way! Now I know this is an extreme example, but noticing is the
first step! Our mind goes into "fight or flight mode" when we're met with any kind of fear and anxiety...
we immediately tense up.... get stressed.... panic we talk faster.... we pace around the room
we lose our cool...that never helps because fear and anxiety not only have a mental effect on
us, but a physical one too. Whenever I thought about a bus or going on one.... my body would tense
up...I was terrified. Seriously I was so scared that my palms would sweat, my heart would race...
and I would just panic... Does that resonate with you? When you have even mild fear and anxiety do you
get these types of feelings and reactions? Well you should acknowledge it straight away. Notice
noticing your emotions, and by doing so that's a powerful step in stopping it once and for all...
Your fear and anxiety is trying to protect you.... the incident on the bus for me was just
bad timing, bad luck and again.... we were sat at the back of the bus on our own at night time as kids....
but all those other times when I was on buses etc during the day in lovely areas when nobody
or nothing was going on.... it was okay! That's my mind playing a trick on me, which i'll touch
on in the next point, but first of all notice your fear.... notice and recognize your anxiety...
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People who really struggle with fear and anxiety have an "inner critic" inside them
fueling these feelings and emotions. The inner critic or critical inner voice is
a concept used in popular psychology to refer to a sub-personality that judges and demeans...
the inner critic often produces feelings of shame, deficiency, low self-esteem and depression. It is
common for people to have a harsh inner critic that can be debilitating. When I used to see a bus
the inner critic inside me would go into overdrive of panic and fear = "what if you get mugged again...
what if they have an even bigger knife.... what if you lose control....what if something happens!? Avoid
the bus! Avoid the bus! Do not go on the bus!" It's almost like an inner dialogue between yourself
and the inner critic and therefore you just assume that somehow it's got your best interest at heart...
So I avoid the bus.... and then go walk for miles to get to my destination through dark alleys
and horrible neighborhoods in the freezing cold at night, and that critic would give me comforting
lies "this is better than the bus... this is better trust me..." The origins of the inner critic could
be from a toxic parent, an abusive teacher, an older sibling or an amalgamation of all those
negative influences from your childhood and as a result this critic lives rent-free in
your head... dictating how you live your day-to-day life and assuming somehow it knows best for you,
when actually in reality it's actually wrong most of the time! Whilst the inner critic gaslights
manipulates and abuses you, makes you feel afraid, gives you crippling anxiety, believe it or not
under the surface it's trying to protect you! It's saying = "I know what's best for you...
trust me I know!" but the problem is unfortunately it is also holding you back, and actually making
your life more difficult and stressful than maybe it should be! A fearful life riddled with anxiety
is not a pleasant one, and the longer you listen to that inner critic that is what you're gonna get...
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So if you follow the advice hopefully you can acknowledge your triggers and understand why
this is happening with your inner critic, so what's the solution? What's the secret way
to stopping fear and anxiety? Disclaimer = I'm not suggesting you'll never get fear anxiety and
so on again that be false, you're human we all are we'll all have moments where we're fearful
anxious in our lifetime for different reasons... but the following affirmation and statement
has changed my life for the better and is powerful and effective when dealing with this
and that is = "I can handle it!" It's simple, easy to use to any scenario-= are you afraid to get on a bus
after getting mugged by a thug? "I can handle it! I can sit there and travel my destination...."
Are you anxious about asking that person out on a date? "I can handle it! If I get rejected
there'll be others!" Are you afraid of losing your job with rumors of the company downsizing?
"I can handle it! I'll get another job, change careers, i'll be fine!" Are you anxious about
moving to a new place, city, country? "I can handle it! I'll adapt to my new surroundings and thrive...."
Are you afraid of being newly single after years of an abusive relationship?
"I can handle it! I'll heal recover and eventually find something better...."
Here's a real world example of using this affirmation for the better =
Just the other day I faced the person I had not seen or spoken to in a long time....
there was a big falling out... animosity... drama... and my decision was to avoid them at all costs...
as a result I used to walk opposite the street, not go to certain venues because I was afraid about
how I was going to react towards that person...but finally I said to myself = "no matter what happens
I'll keep my cool and honestly I can handle it!" Eventually I did so it felt like an enormous
weight off my shoulders finally! I cannot stress how powerful this affirmation is, it really does
work apply it to anything that you're thinking about, trust me, and silence that inner critic just
keep saying = "I can handle it!"whatever it is, "I can handle it!"......Lastly lean into fear and anxiety....
growth doesn't happen out of avoidance, especially in the things that trigger those emotions....
Disclaimer = I'm not suggesting you that you lean in to toxic people relationships, fearful
circumstances like that... instead I'm talking about the things that hold you back, cause you
more stress and discomfort. Let me use the example of the man who is fearful and anxious about asking
a woman out he finds attractive = doing nothing and walking away gets him nowhere.... he remains a chump
and bemoans the dating world! He says "I can't believe I can't meet a woman! It's annoying etc!"
But if instead he says "I can handle this! I'm just going to go for it!" Well now he's living!
The inner critic is a liar - always has been - always will be. It wants to keep you where
you are, keep you safe under its control! Fight back "I can handle this, you're wrong inner critic!"
The inner critic will then pull out all the stops to try and make sure you listen, and in a twisted
way it kind of wants to bring you down and make you fail....but you've got to fight back prove that
inner critic wrong! The more you lean into fear and anxiety with that affirmation, the quieter it gets,
and you will hear it chime in and pop up from time to time, but you'd have to build up that resilience
and confidence in yourself to shut it up, and push it back down when it rears its ugly head....
I cannot stress to you how powerful this is, try and apply this to your life now....
and hopefully see the tremendous changes is going to make moving forward....