Handsome, well-earning, and settled
Dennis kept making
the biggest first date mistakes
that cost him time, money, and effort.
Despite having all these great
high-value man traits
Dennis failed to make a good impact
on first dates with high value women.
In fact, the only women
who wanted a second date with Dennis
were losers,
users, and gold diggers.
So, why was this?
To find the answer
let's look at the biggest first date mistakes
Dennis made with Emma,
the surprising things he learned,
and what happened with his next date
with Julia.
Welcome to just the tip.
Let's jump right in
number one,
he tried to influence her
with his money and success.
Wait, what?
Surprising things he learned.
This is the first
and probably most common
of the first date mistakes
a lot of successful men make.
They assume
all women
are only interested
in how much they make
or have.
And yes,
what you make or have
is an influence
even on a high value woman
but not because she's a gold digger
unless she is of course.
But a high value woman
isn't a gold digger.
The reason an actual high value woman
wants to know how much you make or have
but not directly
is because she wants to make sure
you're financially responsible.
Remember I've said in a lot of videos
women's primary need is to feel safe
physically, emotionally,
financially the works.
So, it's no wonder
Dennis and many other men
who are doing well
would want to influence with
the amount of money they have or make.
Let's take a closer look
at Dennis's situation
and his date with Emma.
Dennis has an excellent job
and makes six figures.
That's pretty good.
He invited Emma to a fancy dinner
for their first date.
Wait, this is a mistake.
Maybe it is.
So, the date was going pretty well
at the beginning
and then later Dennis realized
that he kind of asked the date
and any future possibilities with Emma
probably within the first five minutes.
Within the first few minutes of conversation
he started talking about his net worth
and the fancy car he drove
and his expensive lifestyle.
Of course,
as you can probably imagine
Dennis thought he was providing
proof of financial responsibility.
But the more he tried to impress her
with his money
and his high
priced lifestyle
the more she felt like
he was trying to buy her.
Okay, so be honest
have you ever bragged a little too overtly
to a woman trying to impress her?
If you have share your story.
The next of the biggest
first date mistakes Dennis made
was number two,
he talked about his ex way too much.
And in a negative way
looking back after the date
he realized that Emma kept
trying to change the subject
but our captain Dennis
thought he was actually
making the right move
by sharing the nasty
stories about his ex
in an effort to both win sympathy
and try to make her feel
that there was no risk of him
going back to this woman.
But no one really likes to talk about
how your pork chop
ended up on your plate
especially while you're eating it.
Wait okay.
You know what I mean
I think.
But that's probably how Emma felt
when he kept talking about his ex.
But let's have some sympathy for Dennis
because he thought he was doing the right thing.
Now, the next of these big first date mistakes
might actually surprise you.
Number three, he overdressed.
Okay yes, in other videos I've talked about
putting your best foot forward.
But I've also talked about
making that best foot
about 10% better
than your regular foot.
Okay, I'll explain just stick with me here.
Now of course,
again he was trying to impress her because
he thought that's what would be most important
is to wear his very finest,
he wore a three-piece suit
with tie and everything.
He took her to the fanciest restaurant
so it was appropriate for the restaurant
why didn't it work for her?
As I've said generally
you want to dress appropriately
for the given environment
maybe just about 10% better
than you normally would for that environment.
But in this case,
Dennis actually went a little too far
because it was way out of bounds
of what his normal attire would be
even for a fancy restaurant.
And again, you're probably thinking well yeah,
but what are you supposed to wear to the fanciest
restaurant in town?
Well, I agree with you,
which brings us to number four,
overspending on a first date.
Okay, wait what?
First of all, when you over invest on a first date
there's nowhere to go from there
except for possibly where you can't afford to
or don't want to make it the standard.
Otherwise once again,
she'll feel like you're trying to buy her.
And frankly it just won't be that
comfortable in experience.
If you're uncomfortable
in a dating experience
that extends to the whole experience.
You want your date to be comfortable with you,
feel natural with you
so you can later get into your
nature suit
when the time is right.
Unless again if she's a gold digger
but you should be vetting them
before dating them
and spending money on them.
In Dennis's case
Emma seemed a little confused
and was feeling a little awkward.
She probably felt like
he was showing up for a job interview by this point,
which would have been confirmed
by Dennis's next biggest mistake
he made on his first date with Emma
and that would be number five,
treating the date like a job interview.
You know you've probably done this
almost everyone has.
But there's nothing less interesting
than a dull
conversation on a first date.
And the most dull conversations
are the ones where you list
or recite a bunch of questions that are
pretty standard
but definitely boring.
He actually said things like
I have two siblings
how about you?
Sorry Dennis.
We are here to learn from each other
you are not alone.
My parents don't live in this town
what about yours?
He might as well have said
I use Sensodyne
what kind of toothpaste do you use?
Actually that
could have worked if it was made in a funny
as a jest for what a boring question.
Have you ever done this on a date?
Share your stories.
So, like a lot of women
who experience this kind of conversation where it's just
interview style back and forth,
nothing very exciting
she was probably already losing interest.
But at the same time remember,
she's a high value woman
so she was probably giving him
the benefit of the doubt.
I mean he did
bring her to a fancy restaurant,
he wore a three-piece suit
she could tell he was actually a little awkward
in the suit.
So, she was patient
nonetheless consciously patient.
Consciously having to try to like this guy
is not the same as being
compelled,
as being
the man being irresistible to her.
But by the end of the date
when Dennis had made
one of the biggest
first date mistakes
Emma had almost completely lost interest.
What was mistake number six?
He didn't touch her at all.
A lot of girls,
a lot of women I know even still tell me
that a guy often
won't even offer a hug hello
and they understand that
it's because of what's happening in the world
but then it makes it really challenging
for him to touch her
in any appropriate way
during the date
and without that
contact that physical contact.
It's really hard to keep
tension alive in the interaction
because intimate contact,
physical contact is something you don't just
do with anyone.
It's something you share with someone you're
you know a little bit more intimate with.
And remember,
if you've never met this person before
like maybe you met online
you can always ask like hey, I’m a hugger
let's hug hello.
And she can always say no, no, no not yet
or I don't feel comfortable with that.
But if you already
have met her in person or know her
she knows she's attracted to you
enough to actually have a date.
So, it's pretty safe
to say hello,
I’m so glad to see you, you look amazing.
But no touchy, touchy
will leave a guy in the friend zone
by the end of the date.
And he was so busy
trying to check off his list of things
to tell her
about basically why "logically"
she should like him
that he failed to even like touch her hand.
By the end of the date
he already knew
that he wasn't winning with this one
and she seemed a little bored.
She was polite
but he could tell that the sparkle that was started there
was gone.
So, by this time
he definitely knew
he couldn't make a move
because it wouldn't be well received.
So, credit for him
for knowing that at that point
even though he probably or possibly
could have recovered by this point.
But if he had touched her early often
and appropriately like I've mentioned in other videos,
he would have had a chance
to go in for a hug,
go in for a kiss at the end of the date,
go in for a second date.
Have you ever been a Dennis in this story?
Share your experience.
But there is good news
by the end of this date with Emma
he asked himself
why does this keep happening?
He knew he was the common denominator
and maybe it was the girls,
but maybe there was something he could do.
So, he decided to take
a break from dating
and start learning
then he found my channel
and watched a lot of videos.
He said they helped him figure out
what he was doing wrong
on these first dates
and now he is dating successfully.
Go Dennis it's your birthday.
Sometimes it's going to be his birthday.
So, what changes did Dennis make
on his next first date with Julia
that made it a successful date
and had her asking him out at the end?
Mostly the opposite of this video.
But he threw in a few extras
that I’m sure contributed
to Julia asking him out
for a second date.
If you want to know exactly
what he did on his date with Julia
let me know in the comments I might do a video for you.
In the meantime, if you have any funny
or embarrassing stories
that others can learn from
spill the tea.
Thanks for being here God bless.
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