Why do men ghost? Why do men suddenly disappear?
This frustrating dating phenomenon.
Today, I'm going to give you the six reasons men ghost and you'll be surprised to learn that
a lot of them have nothing whatsoever to do with you.
Stick around.
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Hey, it's Mark here from Make Him Yours and today, we are talking about one of the most
frustrating dating phenomenons you can possibly experience
- ghosting, disappearing. It can happen to both men and women,
but I get a ton of questions, a ton of queries on why do men ghost.
Today, I want to talk about the reasons behind men ghosting, why they ghost
and give you a bit of an idea as to some of the reasons it can happen. It doesn't
necessarily going to bring the guy back, but what it does do is give you an
increased understanding and also a realization that a lot of the time,
it has nothing to do with you.
So the first one is probably the most obvious, and it's simply the fact that sadly,
he may have lost interest.
The man can lose interest for all sorts of reasons during the dating period.
Maybe the nonphysical attraction just wasn't there. Maybe he sensed that the values that
you and he shared weren't matching. Maybe he sensed that you guys weren't compatible.
Maybe that was a red flag that he saw - something in there in your personality,
something you said, something you did,
you don't know what it could have been, but the reality is that
men losing interest is one common reason that men will ghost.
The second reason men can disappear or ghost is because he's met another woman.
And as much as it sucks, he's decided that for whatever reason,
he's found more compatibility, more interest, et cetera in her.
Unfortunately, a lot of men won't always tell you in this situation, they might not
want to face confrontation and not want to hurt your feelings, so they ghost away, and
sadly, they might just want to keep someone on the back burner,
so they ghost away for that reason.
I'm going to talk at the end of this video about the overall sort of concepts and why
you should be thinking about this, but the reality is another woman is a reason men ghost.
A third reason men ghost is that you may have come on too strong. Now, this is one of the
factors that can be within your control and you don't want to blame yourself. You don't
want to take on all the responsibility of him ghosting. That would be crazy and you'll
see there's a lot of reasons that men ghosts that have nothing to do with you, but one
that can have something to do with you is coming on too strong, and it's always good
to take a healthy look back at the situation and go, is there a part I could have played?
You never say it's completely not my fault.
There's nothing else differently I could have done, but you never take on all the responsibility
of it all either and completely blame yourself. You want to take a healthy self perspective
back on it. Maybe ask a friend to review it for you and just say, is there anything I
could've done differently? Do you think I could have come on too strong with him? Coming
too on too strong can be a function of your emotions kind of running away with you, and
it can be a red flag for both men and women.
So make sure that you kind of just check yourself
and didn't trigger that fear of commitment in a man by coming on too strong.
The fourth one is a cause that surprises a lot of women
and has nothing whatsoever to do with you.
It's fear of rejection or fear of intimacy. You see, when we get close, when we start
connecting with someone, and this applies to both men and women, we get vulnerable,
which means we get scared, and if we're scared of being rejected, the safest way out of that
is to make sure we reject them before they have the chance to reject us.
There's some men who once they start getting close on a subconscious level, feel that fear
of rejection of you potentially rejecting him for who he is and start to pull back themselves.
You can't control this and there's not a lot you can do about it. Fear of intimacy is similar.
It can be he was hurt by someone he was intimate with in the past. It doesn't have to be a
lover. It can be a brother or a sister that he may have lost. It could be a mom or a dad
that he may have been very close to and lost. If he has associated intimacy and love with
deep emotional pain for whatever reason, then he's going to pull back once things start
getting really intimate and close between the two of you, and really, there's nothing
you can do about it.
Number five is fear of commitment. So men are brought up with different beliefs relating
to commitment as our women. We've got another video on
why do men fear commitments. I'll put that link in the description,
but men are growing up and taught how you're going to have all this freedom
and excitement when you're young. They're taught the Hollywood
scene of, you know, American Pie or the Hangover, and they get these images of what it's going
to be like when they're single, and when they start to feel more and more committed and
more and more like that, that life that they were so entitled to, that party life is being
taken away, sometimes they'll ghost just because they feel like where, where is this?
I'm supposed to have the parties and the threesomes and all this other stuff.
Man will ghost away because of fear of commitment and this is it,
this is often something from their upbringing
that women aren't necessarily raised with or identify with.
Now, the fear of commitment could be deeper as well.
He could have been in a past committed relationship and had a really bad outcome.
Similar to fear of intimacy where his fear of commitment is a lot deeper seated.
In either case, again, this one is not your responsibility
and it is a common reason that men will ghost.
And number six is big life problems.
Stuff can come up all the time.
I remember one woman who made a comment on one of my videos said
that the guy she was talking to had ghosted, but she just knew that his mother had gotten
really, really sick. And if someone intimate, he's close to, someone he's intimate with,
something big has happened in his life, he's lost his job, a man will go off and deal with it.
Especially if you're just seeing him casually and you're just dating,
you'll go to bottom of the priority list. In some cases, this is quite healthy.
He needs to go and deal with his stuff and he needs to go away
and take care of business, and he's probably not going to want to think about a relationship
or starting one with you at this stage. Something you can't have control over
but which can absolutely cause men to ghost.
So I hope this video gave you some good understanding as to why men ghost.
I'm going to do some extra follow-up videos on the factors you can control,
some of these factors you can have influence on why men lose interest,
what are the red flags, how you can avoid kicking in that fear of commitment.
We've got lots of videos on this sort of stuff. I'm going to do some more.
So the factors you can control, I'm going to teach you exactly how to control those
and minimize your ghosting, but you can't always control it, and you'll stress yourself
out and get anxious if you try.
So make sure you don't beat yourself up or take on the responsibility for the guys who
ghost because a lot of the time, it has nothing whatsoever to do with you.
Don't take it personally.
This has been Mark from Make Him Yours. I hope you enjoyed the video, and I hope you
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