Hi guys.
This is Mat Boggs with Cracking the Man Code and I wanted to give you a quick insight into
something that just happened to me recently for how to really connect to your man and
really, really tap into the love center of his mind.
This happened actually just yesterday.
I was over at my girlfriend’s house and her dad came in from a long day of work and
he was all sweaty and grimy and dirty.
And so we’re getting ready for dinner and we’re sitting down for dinner and he kind
of takes a shower, he goes and gets ready, he comes out and come into the kitchen and
his wife (they’re been married 35 years) goes –
They’re from Mexico, born and raised, very authentic Mexico culture and she goes, “[Una
ey, una ey por Miguel?
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And the whole family goes, “[ey?
01:00]!”
And you could see the look on his face.
You know, he really liked it.
And ultimately, what she was doing – “[una ey?
01:10]” just means like “atta boy” in their family.
It’s like their tradition when they say “[una ey?
01:15]” for something – “[Una ey?
01:17]!”
“[Ey?
01:18]!”
And she was acknowledging him.
My best friend and I traveled the country 12,000 miles and interviewed over 300 couples
about what makes their marriage last and bar none, the largest, single greatest insight
that they all said was respect.
See, for a man, that is the single greatest key to being connected in a relationship:
when he feels like his thoughts are respected.
We want to feel in love, too, but our feelings of love get generated when we feel like we’re
providing for you, when we feel like we’re doing a good job for you.
So I wanted to give you three quick tips for how to ignite this feeling of, “Am I able
to make you happy?
Am I able to provide for you what it is that you want?” because men literally get a biological
boost when we feel like we’re providing for you.
In fact, research shows there’s a serious of questions men go through when deciding
whether or not they wat to commit to their woman.
And one of the biggest ones –you know, as much as you like to think it’s about you,
it’s about how we feel about ourselves when we’re around you, and one of the biggest
questions is: “Do I feel like a man in your presence?”
So here’s three quick things that you can implement right now in your relationship or
in a dating scenario that will help your man feel more like a man in your presence.
The first one is to compliment him.
Men don’t do very well with criticism because it strikes our ego.
It makes us feel like we’re not providing for you.
So if you want to influence him to do more of something or if you even want to just make
him feel like a man, compliment him on something that he did for you, okay?
A lot of ties women will use the words – you know, you like to acknowledge that you love
him so you’ll say, “I love you.”
An even more powerful thing is to tell him that you’re proud of him and tell him why
you’re proud of him.
Say, “Honey, you remember when you took me out last week and you took me to that really
romantic dinner?
God, that was awesome!
It made me feel so loved, so cared about.
That was just the best when you did that.”
Complimenting him on something that he did, telling him that you’re proud of him for
a particular reason is huge.
John Gottman, who’s one of the leading researchers of marriage in the world says that healthy
marriages have a 5 to 1 ratio: five compliments for every one criticism, okay?
Second thing: Ask for him opinion and then simply listen.
Men’s greatest, again, subconscious desire is to have their thoughts respected, so when
you ask his opinion about something and then just listen fully to his opinion – resist
the urge to jump in and share ideas because, women, it’s easy to communicate that way
because you feel connected and you’re cooperating and collaborating.
Men only interrupt each other when we’re being competitive and when we’re vying for
power.
So make sure that when you ask for his opinion, just listen and let him finish.
And the third one is to ask for his help with something.
Men love to feel like the hero.
They love to feel like they can provide you with something.
We love to feel needed, so if you can ask for his help with something, that will also
give him a biological boost, feel more like a man in your presence and he’ll want to
be in your presence and connect to you on a deeper level more.
So I hope you enjoyed this information.
Now, if you’re in Southern California, I want to personally invite you to a live Cracking
the Man Code seminar that I’m doing Wednesday night, June 9.
And I’m going to put a link right below this video so you can check it out.
If you’re not in the area of Southern California, I’m going to put a separate link where you
can download the entire seminar and watch it right now, immediately, from the comfort
of your own computer.
It gives you a ton of insights for how to understand and connect to your man and crack
the Man Code.
So anyway, thanks for watching, and I’ll talk to you soon.