- [Narrator] Most men today are unsure
if they are men or boys,
and men often will ask themselves,
what has to happen before I actually become a man
or what has to happen before I actually feel like a man?
By the end of this video, you will know where you stand.
I am going to go over the four stages of becoming a man.
The first stage of becoming a man is the squire stage.
This stage lasts from birth
right up until 13 or 14 years old.
This word comes from the Middle Ages
where the squire would assist the knight.
During this stage, the boy dreams of adventure.
They dream of becoming a big, powerful knight one day
and how they will change and save the world.
They are very naive and they think they can do everything.
Oftentimes, they lack respect and self-discipline
and they require guidance,
and oftentimes, when they cannot do something,
they'll get very frustrated and upset with themselves.
A lot of growth happens during this early stage.
The squire's always trying out different things
in order to see what he is good at.
Near the end of this stage,
they will begin to take on knight-like qualities,
like loyalty, persistence, truth, and honor.
The second stage is the knight stage.
Most of you watching this video are in the knight stage
and it's one of the most crucial points in your life.
This stage lasts from puberty right up until your late 20s.
This is the time of your life
where you usually seek challenge, adventure, and fun.
I like to think of this stage
as the burning fiery stage of a man's life,
where you have this deep desire within you
to go out and conquer in all aspects of life.
But this can also be a very difficult time in a man's life
because this is the time where you will have to choose
between what your parents want you to do
and what you want to do,
and on top of this, you are probably very unsure
of what you want to as a career
and you're probably very unsure about your life in general,
but these feelings are completely normal,
and you should not be worried about feeling like this.
In fact, it's exactly what you should be feeling.
It's important to live in the moment
without a lot of responsibilities,
and I'm personally in the knight stage as well.
The next stage is the prince stage.
This is a very interesting part of a man's life.
As princes, men are focused on building,
establishing, and creating in the world.
If you want to start a business,
this is usually when it happens.
This is where you have a clearly-defined purpose
in your life.
Some of you may be thinking, I don't know my purpose
or what I want to do, and I don't know if I ever will.
A massive difference between the knight stage
and the prince stage is that the prince possesses
a valuable trait called patience.
A knight is not patient.
He is running wild
wanting everything to happen to him right away,
whether it is business, success with women,
you need to have patience and trust the process.
But a trait that is equally
as important as patience is faith.
You need to have faith
that you will get to where you want to go
as long as you take the right steps along the way.
A prince is not overly concerned with the outcome,
but he is very concerned with the process,
and he is constantly course-correcting
and improving the way he does things.
A prince will build his kingdom, and during this time,
he will probably find a queen to stand beside him,
although this can happen at any point in man's life.
The final stage is the king stage.
The king is calm, relaxed, reflective,
and more importantly, he possesses wisdom.
You cannot really change a king.
A king has strong beliefs.
He knows who he is and what types of people
he wants to surround himself with.
A king has built his kingdom,
from his business life to his family life.
He does not waste his time worrying
about small things that don't really matter
because he's focused on the bigger picture
of running his kingdom.
If someone is around him who he does not resonate with,
he will kick him or her out of his kingdom.
This is also the part of man's life
where he wants to give back to the world.
There is no right or wrong stage to be in.
I know mentioned ages when I went through the stages,
but those are just general guidelines.
If you are 30 years old and you still feel like
you are in the early knighthood stage, this is okay.
Everyone's journey is subjective.
Do not judge yourself.
Reflect on your life
and take action to get where you want to go.
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