Hey guys, let's explore
the true sigma versus alpha differences
and figure out which one you most likely are.
I’m also going to give you six celebrity examples.
And we're going to explore some of the things that
all men can do
whether you're sigma alpha or even beta
to be more appealing
to the kind of women you want to get
without compromising who you really are.
Now, having grown up with
an alpha dad and a sigma brother,
I think I have probably a little bit more of an insight
into the true differences
between these two groups.
So, welcome to just the tip Tuesday
let's get into it.
One, autonomy versus community.
So, the sigma male tends to be
the lone wolf of society.
So, they're alone but not lonely
big difference.
So, they tend to prefer
their own company over most other people
even though they do require some connection of course.
But they would rather be alone
than compromise their values or standards
by being with anyone
who doesn't meet their high standards
including women or any one particular woman.
A good example of a sigma male
is Keanu Reeves.
They also prefer not to lead
but not to follow.
So, they can step into leadership
if need be or if they really see
that somebody is not doing an adequate job
then they will actually want to step into that position.
But they don't feel that they have to,
they don't feel diminished
if they're not in a leadership role.
I’m going to give you a really good example
of another very well-known celebrity
not really in Hollywood
but you'll recognize the name later in the video,
which might surprise you that
he's actually sigma not alpha.
Now of course, versus the alpha
who prefers community and prefers to lead.
So, while an alpha is comfortable in their own company
they like to be in a group
and they like to be the leader of that group.
And they do feel uncomfortable
if they have to follow somebody else's lead.
Because they feel that they can always
do a better job and they often can.
Celebrity example of an alpha
is Charlie Sheen.
So, an alpha male may or may not be lonely
depending on how close his friendship
and acquaintance connections are.
So, if he has some pretty good close connections
and a good guy group
then he might not be quite as lonely
as if he's lacking that.
And this can apply to
his romantic relationships as well.
So, if he's got a really good close
network of guy friends
he will potentially be a little bit less
longing towards having a romantic relationship
but he will definitely long for more
romance if he's interested in a relationship
than a sigma male would or does.
And while an alpha man
also has high standards
for what he wants in a woman
if he's really lonely
or longing to have that connection
he may be more likely
to compromise on those standards
and then don't regret it
than a sigma would.
Number two, rebel rebel.
So, the sigma male is definitely
a man who goes against the grain
just because he doesn't like
being told what to do,
what to say, what to think.
And will usually buck at trends
no matter what they might be.
Whether their lifestyle, society,
clothing any of those sort of things.
He goes to the beat of his own drum.
And they may express
their rebellion in their style, in their dress,
in their points of view,
even in their career choice.
A sigma man would never be caught dead
in the latest fashion.
And sigma males are often
confused for bad boys because of their rebellious nature.
Whereas an alpha man
will only go against the grain
if it's in direct conflict with his
values or beliefs or ideals.
So, an alpha male will go against the grain
if it's important enough to him, but not just because.
Whereas a sigma will tend to
want to resist just for the sake of resisting.
And while an alpha male will follow trends
like for example, fashion trends,
they're not actually followers
they're usually the first ones to jump on a trend
and make it popular among the masses.
So, there could be lots of trends
but it's the alpha who decides,
which trend is going to be popular
because those men are the ones that are like,
all right, this is going to be the new style today.
And people tend to follow
because of their confidence.
Number three, golden silence
versus speaking up.
So, you probably know that
the sigma man is the strong silent type
or at least they come off as the strong silent type
because they tend to keep their cards
close to their chest.
They don't reveal a lot about themselves
and they come off as very mysterious
sometimes even to the point of being
closed off or having a wall
to get to their inner their inner world.
Whereas alphas actually tend to wear
their heart on their sleeve.
They're very outspoken about their opinions
and their beliefs and oftentimes
personal stories that
really a sigma would just never tell you.
Even if you get really close with a sigma or
seemingly close and you know a sigma
for a long, long time
it may take forever for you to learn about
maybe something that you wouldn't think
should be that private at all.
But sigmas tend to be a lot more private
about their lives than alpha men do.
Neither is wrong they're just different.
And because the sigma man
often keeps his opinions and thoughts to himself
when they actually do speak up.
People tend to listen more and pay more attention
and give more credit and credibility
to what they have to say
because they often don't say anything
unless it actually is important
and credible at least, that's how it comes off.
Whereas people do listen to alphas
because they're very outspoken
and often animated and gregarious
and all of that.
But people don't necessarily believe everything they say
because they tend to come with big stories.
So, while people listen to alphas
they don't necessarily give as much credit
to every single thing an alpha might say.
And this is part of why
women do tend to find sigma males
really appealing.
Because they have this mystery about them
and women always want to get in there
and be the one to crack
the man code on the sigma male.
She's the one that's going to
get all those little secrets out of him
and earn his trust and be the one.
Whereas it's a lot easier
to get inside the mind of an alpha
because usually alphas share whatever is in their mind.
Now, that doesn't mean that
an alpha is not also appealing to a woman
because an alpha has the characteristic quality
of being so outspoken and
unapologetic about their thoughts
that, that comes off as being very confident.
And women instinctively
translate that into an alpha being
ready, willing, and able to stand up for her honor
and protect her.
Number four, mysterious versus open book.
So, kind of going back to
the same thing we just kind of discussed in the last point
is that a sigma man is
quite mysterious whereas
an alpha is usually an open book.
He's got nothing to be ashamed of,
nothing to hide, everything is just put out there
with just this array of confidence.
Whereas the sigma man tends to be
confoundingly private.
Like, it's really hard to get in there.
And there's actually a YouTuber recently
who released a video on
sigma versus alpha differences
and he actually just went to a website
and read some of the traits off of the site
and then determined that he thinks he's a sigma
but he's so not.
If you actually look at what I've shared with you today
and the few more than I’m going to share with you
he's definitely not a sigma.
And there's nothing wrong with being alpha or sigma.
You may even have some crossover
in these qualities
but definitely he's not a sigma male.
And later in the video I’m actually going to share
how to spot a sigma versus
alpha YouTuber.
Number five, shadows versus spotlight.
So, this one's going to maybe seem
a little obvious now that you've
heard some of the other ones that I've given you.
But let's go over it anyways.
So, a sigma man tends to be
more comfortable in the shadows
than in the spotlight.
Whereas an alpha man
tends to be more comfortable in the spotlight
than in the shadows.
Now of course, either one
can adjust to either being in the spotlight
or in the shadows if necessary.
But their nature and their tendency
is to want to be in a certain place.
So, sigma will tend to
avoid situations where they have to be
the center of attention.
Whereas an alpha will tend to
gravitate towards situations where
they get to be the center of attention.
And this has nothing to do with ego
they just do well in certain situations.
So, again, even though
a sigma can tell a good story
it has to be really important for them
to get that story out there.
So, it's unusual for them to share it
vocally, publicly.
They might share it in a small group and even that
is a bit of a stretch.
But the alpha loves a good story,
they're great storytellers
and people love hearing their stories
because they're so adept at them.
And again, whether a man is really mysterious
or really boisterous
women are drawn to both.
Number six, and this one is where we're going to give you
the celebrity sigma that might surprise you.
So, six is eccentricity versus relatable AF.
So, of course, the sigma man
tends to be the men who are
definitely on the eccentric side.
They do not walk to the beat of everybody's drum
they walk to the beat of their own drum.
They tend to find the unusual interesting
and people often think of sigma's as kind of odd
but in a strangely appealing way.
They are definitely the men who would vote independent
that is if they believed in the voting system at all.
And just before I give you the celebrity example
I’m going to go through the alpha on this one.
So, the alpha man on the other hand,
are very relatable
that's why they're so popular
everybody loves them because
they instinctively find a way to
connect with every different kind of person.
They tend to delve more
into more common interests that
most people like.
They might know a lot more about sports
and politics,
I mean not politics,
but things that are really common
amongst masses to have an interest in.
So, they can generally talk to anyone about anything
and make that person feel really comfortable.
And he's interested in things that
other people are interested in.
Not because he's insecure but just because
he values being able to have those
conversations with people that are common.
So, the celebrity example
for a sigma male
based on eccentricity and the rest of these
is Elon Musk.
So, Elon is definitely a sigma male.
Now, you might think he's alpha because
he is in the public eye and
he is a leader
But he's in the public eye and he is a leader
because no one can do as good a job as he can
that's definite and he's adapted to being
able to speak publicly
and be the public figure for his companies.
Because that's the most profitable thing for his companies.
And it just makes sense.
So, while he is eccentric
and he does have the qualities of being the lone wolf
in his thinking and his being,
he may appear to be an alpha
because of his strong presence in the public eye.
Now, an alpha man another good example
or a celebrity example of the alpha man
is Gerard Butler.
Everyone knows Jerry is my Jerry
and he is definitely an alpha male.
He can assimilate into any group
and be the leader
even if he's just been there for one day
or he can allow somebody else to be the leader
but he's very comfortable being in the lead,
he's very comfortable sharing stories,
he's very gregarious,
he's very outspoken,
wears his heart on a sleeve.
And of course, based on all of these celebrities
that I’m giving you are
examples based on what I can see
not having known them of course.
Number seven, social norms.
So, while the sigma man
finds convention boring,
the alpha man uses convention
to be able to more easily connect with people.
And remember to stick around to the end
because I’m going to give you
how to become more attractive
to all women no matter whether you're sigma or alpha.
So, back to social norms.
So, the sigma man
tends to drift in and out of groups
and never really fits in.
Not that he'd ever really want to
he feels some sense of connection
with whoever he's with at the time
but he doesn't feel the longing to have some kind of
long-term attachment to a person or group.
Whereas the alpha man
tends to have a group of buddies
he might even be the guy who
still have the same group of buddies since
you know, high school or even before that
and he's still connected with them
and social with those people
and any other group that he gets into.
He's really involved and settles in quite quickly
and becomes part of the pack,
usually the leader.
Whereas the sigma again tends to
not readily and easily attach to a group.
He may never attach to a particular group,
but he'll stay as long as it feels good
as long as there's no expectation
or need of longevity.
So, here's one area where it is going to make an impact
on your potential relationship with a woman.
While a woman is drawn to
the mysteriousness of this sigma male
she will actually feel safer and more comfortable
with the consistency and connection
of the alpha male.
Now, since you stayed all the way till now
I’m going to give you three bonuses.
Ready? Bonus number one,
disturbing the peace.
Sigmas can sometimes be
disturbers just for the sake of it.
When things get too normal or boring
they will sometimes
stir things up just to see what happens.
It might even be a psychological social experiment.
Usually it's nothing nefarious,
but they can be.
But an alpha will only stir things up
if he really believes
that it's for necessity's sake.
They have a reason or purpose behind it.
Bonus tip number two,
fall hard fall harder.
So, because the sigma male
tends to be very inward drawn
and closed off to people in general
it will usually take him a lot longer
to fall for someone.
But when he does fall,
he falls hard.
So, there's a naughty in that.
Okay, he falls hard but not fast
and he may become or feel
more attached to that connection
because he doesn't have other close connections.
So, once you actually get in there,
there's less of a chance that
you're going to lose him or a woman's going to lose him.
Because he'll be more attached to that person
who he's finally allowed in
because she deserves to be in.
Whereas alphas because they do
have other connections
and they have close relationships
with other people in their lives,
they tend to fall faster
because they let everybody in
and they share and they develop
emotional connections right away.
But they don't get quite as attached.
So, there is a deep attachment
but because they have other people
that can also fulfill some of that
need for connection and intimacy
not necessarily a *** intimacy,
there's not as much intensity
to the need for it to work out
compared to a sigma.
And because they have a lot of connections
and they've experienced a lot
more connections with women,
they tend to know
when they've really met a keeper, that's the alpha.
Okay, and number three,
this one is going to be a bit of a surprise
maybe, but if you're a sigma
you probably won't be surprised.
So, number three is
introversion versus extroversion.
So, at first glance
and this is completely surmised by moi.
I would say that there are more likely to be
sigmas who are introverts
then there are sigmas to be extroverts
and there are more likely to be alphas
who are extroverts than introverts.
Now, it's definitely possible.
There are definitely introverts who are alpha,
but I would say that there are far more
sigmas that are introverts than extroverts.
So, an alpha could be introvert or extrovert definitely,
but a sigma is probably more likely
to be an introvert.
Just by the way they experience the world
and are present in the world.
And remember that introversion
and shyness are two different things.
Celebrity sigma example, Luke Wilson.
Celebrity alpha example,
his brother Owen Wilson.
The best way to know the sigma
versus alpha differences
is whether your heart and thoughts
are under lock and key
or if you're an open book.
Do women prefer sigma versus alpha?
They like both, they like either.
So, the best way to attract
the kind of girl you want to attract
is just to be the kind of guy
who attracts that girl.
So, be your best self
whatever that authentic self is
the way to be a real man to her
with all the traits.
Well, not all the traits but with the traits that
all women love
is to watch my video on
traits all women love
and how to be a real man to her
without compromising who you really are.
So, I'll put those somewhere.
And as promised
the way to know if the YouTuber is sigma or alpha
is whether or not he is in front of the camera
or behind the camera.
So, the sigmas tend
to be behind the camera.
They might do voice over but there's going to be
images or animation
or b-roll or footage not of them on screen.
Whereas alphas will be on screen
front and center.
So, which one are you?
Do you think you are more sigma or more alpha?
There is no wrong answer
put it in the comments below and be sure
to watch the video
on how to be a real man to her
traits all women love.
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