Hi, I'm sex and relationship coach Caitlin V
and today I'm going to teach you
the most important tool
for lasting longer in bed
and controlling exactly when you ejaculate.
That's right. If you learn nothing else,
but you are able to put this technique into practice,
then that alone will help you to
end premature ejaculation forever.
That's right.
Now, what is this tool that I'm talking about?
What is this practice that once put into
and implemented in your life
can actually change the way that you have sex.
Change the way that you relate to your body.
Change the way that your partner relates to your body.
Give you an endless amount of confidence
because you know exactly where you are
and that you can cum when you want to,
where you want to.
That tool is edging.
Now, edging is just a practice.
It's something that you can incorporate
both in your masturbation
and in your partner sex,
and all it is, is a process of learning exactly
where your point of no return is,
so that you can get close to it without crossing it.
So, the point of no return,
the point of ejaculatory inevitability,
we've all been there.
It is the place where you know,
you cannot stop this train,
the momentum is there,
you're going to ejaculate.
Now, does it always come hand in hand with orgasm?
Men you might know that your orgasm and ejaculation
are actually two separate processes,
but that's another video.
Right now I wanna focus on how you can use edging
in order to end premature ejaculation and control when you
cum.
So Caitlin, how do you edge?
Well, I'm glad that you asked.
The process of edging is the same as masturbating, right.
You just pleasure yourself.
You use the same techniques to stimulate yourself
up until the point of no return and not past it.
So, say you assign a 1-10 scale to your level of arousal
and 1 is not very arousal at all,
and 10 is ejaculating at the point of no return.
You are going to stimulate yourself
up until like a seven, eight, nine
at which point you will stop.
You'll stop stimulating yourself
and you will let your arousal subside.
This is to give you time.
This is to give your body time to decrease the amount sensation,
the closeness, the arousal level.
There's a couple of things that you can do.
You can literally just take your hands off
and let your arousal subside that way.
You can pinch gently
the tip of your penis between your thumb and forefinger.
That encourages blood to leave the penis
and therefore, decreasing your level of arousal.
But... and if you are having sex with a partner,
if you are edging with a partner,
this would be just you saying
hey baby we gotta take a break,
and stopping all stimulation.
Maybe you start going down on her.
you just start fingering her,
you go get a glass of water, you make out for a little bit.
Whatever you gotta do,
let your body return to a lower level.
Maybe a three or a four on the arousal scale.
Now, once you're there,
you can go back to having sex,
to masturbating, pleasing yourself, stimulating your body,
and again,
you'll notice that your body starts creeping up
closer, closer seven, eight, nine, and then you stop.
Most men find that they can edge
in other words get all the way up to that nine
and then let their arousal subside
between three and five times
during a masturbation or a sex session.
You'll have to figure out exactly what works best for you.
I recommend that you edge no less than twice
each time that you masturbate or have sex.
The more that you do this,
the more that you practice this,
the better you will get at knowing exactly
where your point of no return is,
and once you know exactly where that is
you know exactly when to stop.
You'll be confident that you know,
okay, right now is the time that I need to pull back.
I need to pull out I need to chill.
This kind of knowledge about your body is so powerful.
You will never feel like you are at the whimsy of your body
or its desires or its arousal ever again.
You'll feel like you are the person in control
and you will be in control,
and you'll know exactly when it is time for you to reach
the point of no return.
And you can make it happen when you are ready to,
and super awesome side benefit of edging
is that it will give you some of the most amazing
orgasms that you have ever experienced in your life.
No lie, I want you to try it right now,
and I want you to go
rate in the comments on a scale from 1- 10,
how awesome edging was for you.
I want you to go into the comments,
you don't have to explain what it was like,
it's enough to just give me a number, okay.
Compared to like the average orgasm,
compared to the average masturbation whatever,
give me a score on how awesome that orgasm was.
One of the first clients that I ever taught edging to
told me that he had and I quote,
"a bone crushing orgasm"
as a result of edging.
Which... yeah take it or leave it,
that's an interesting way of describing it,
but I was really excited for him.
He was really stoked for it,
I actually ran into him a couple months ago,
and he was still excited about it.
So, edging, edging just a process of getting yourself
up close to the edge of the point of no return
without going over it.
Use a scale from 1-10
in order to determine how close you are
to the edge
and when you get to about a eight or even a nine,
take your hands off,
do a light pinching,
take a break from sex, whatever you've got to do
in order to let your arousal subside.
Make sure that you bring yourself
to your edge at least two times,
but probably no more than five
unless you practiced
and you know that that works for you,
and when you do,
make sure that you write a comment below
saying that it worked for you.
Any other questions that you have,
or anything that you want more information on,
that would help you
to have the most amazing sex of your life.
Go do this, go edge.
It's okay if you fall over the edge
a couple times accidentally,
it happens to everyone.
It's part of the learning process.
This is coach Caitlin V, signing out.