This song was made to be and made to feel like a toxic,
modern-day Brandy and Monica. (laughs)
Like, the boy is mine, but like the girl is mine.
You know?
I was just so excited to work with Kehlani.
I've always been like a huge fan of hers.
She's one of my favorite artists in the world.
We're in the studio together for the first time,
I was so excited, and she was showing me all these songs.
And, I was working on my album at the time,
so I was just stoked that she even showed me the songs.
This was one of the songs that she showed me,
and I said, "This is toxic as fuck, I have to have it."
The saying is, and I don't even know if I believe this,
'cause I feel like this is toxic people saying this,
but there's no room to cheat
if there's not space in the relationship.
In this song, there's definitely a problem
with me and my man, and that's how the best friend
kind of wiggled their way in there.
If you're in that situation,
if it's dead, just bury it, just let it go.
I feel like dealing with something like that,
I automatically feel guilty for those kinds of feelings.
And I feel like it's totally natural and valid,
but putting yourself in a situation to follow through
with what you know is gonna be a mistake,
that's like an immediate guilty feeling for me.
Everyone makes mistakes,
but I think there's just some mistakes
that hurt other people more than others.
I think that line is so important because it is validating
that you can have crushes on other people,
you can have feelings for other people,
you can have connections with other people.
But again, it's about stopping yourself in that moment
and preventing anything you can do
from hurting your partner,
if that's the situation that you have.
If you guys have had the agreement
that it's more of a monogamous situation,
then the promise that you make is more important
than anything, so you just got to stick to as much you can.
When I first heard,
"I hate that you ain't your best friend,"
immediately took me to like a first defensive place.
Like, I've never done that.
That's crazy.
But then it took me to a, that's my worst fear,
because I have really beautiful sisters,
and I've heard crazy stories
of people cheating on their partner with a sibling.
And, that was just always my worst fear
because they're really beautiful.
Or like my friends, my friends are really beautiful
and I'm not really like, I'm not really worried about it,
but that is a fear of mine
just because I know so many people that have done that.
Then it took me to another place
of definitely meeting someone that I was interested in
or had a crush on for the first time,
and they had another friend in the group and you're like,
"Damn.
Damn, I think I chose the wrong one."
So the best friend codes are different
depending on what the situation is
and what that relationship is.
So, if you're like just meeting someone for the first time,
like I said, and you're like kind of interested
in them a little bit,
and then they have a friend who might be fine
or you might connect a little bit more,
then, I don't think it's totally terrible.
However, once I get in relationships and I'm dating someone,
their friends are just strictly their friends.
Like I just lose all sight
of how I would be attracted to them.
Kehlani
I love Monopoly, but I don't think it's a secret
that it literally takes like three hours to play
and it makes everyone have like a personal argument
at the end of it.
Kehlani
Someone who treats me like royalty
has to have a few different qualities.
The first one is trust.
The second one is respect.
And the third one is just going out of your way
to do things that you don't have to do,
but the other person loves.
The back and forth, it brings the energy up a lot.
It's gonna be a problem,
and that bridge makes you feel
like it's about to be a really toxic problem.
I'm just gonna ask everyone watching this video
to reflect on anything they did
that they weren't supposed to.
It's a rush.
Like doing something that you aren't supposed to
is such a rush.
But I realized very quickly,
like me doing something like that,
that I wasn't supposed to be doing, that was like a secret,
once that rush dies,
the whole thing pretty much fizzles out.
So it's fun while it lasts,
but 10 out of 10 do not recommend.
I think the main thing that made me
and Kehlani's voices mesh so well,
and me and Kehlani's energy mesh so well,
is that we both grew up listening to the same kind of music.
We're very influenced by like early 2000s,
'90s, and we kind of are a little bit all over the place
with what we listened to growing up.
I always say like my generation is kind of the generation
of borrowing things from all of the other generations,
and I think that we are definitely a testament to that.
So I'm a huge game person.
Like I host game nights at my house sometimes.
Well, we play Monopoly Deal a lot.
We also play Uno.
But every single time we play that as a group, we fight.
But I really love, what I haven't played in a while,
is Risk.