so yeah admittedly I was a little bit taken aback by the age difference
hi, welcome! so a lot of people have been asking me about my opinion on Momo and
Heechul so honestly when I first found out about it
I googled their ages cuz I was like Super Junior is this 2006, when did Super
Junior even debut? 2005, close enough! I was never like a really huge fan of
Super Junior but at the same time as a second gen Stan... someone should make a
compilation of me just like iterating that I'm a second gen stan to kind of
prove the point that second gen stans are indeed, funfact,
annoying! so yeah admittedly I was a little bit taken aback by the age
difference but at the end of the day that's literally all I know about the
relationship so though I can you know speculate or start pertinent conversations
surrounding something that may or may not relate to their relationship, I
actually don't know them and I don't know the dynamics of their relationship
and if my opinion is based on something that ultimately holds very little value
given the fact that other factors are ultimately unknown then I really don't
have a concrete opinion about it, that being said, idols dating is a super
important conversation to have so I really wanted to you, you know kind of
collect my thoughts on the subject in general and talk to you guys about that
so let's do that! actually I'm going to stop you right
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video and share it with friends you don't have! since the beginning of time
dating and kpop has been a huge nono however I do feel that in 2nd gen
Idols were a lot more open with what they were searching for in a significant
other, I feel like idols would often express like who their ideal type kind
of looks like or was like and I feel like this might not be as common as it
is now, let me know what you think! I feel like I just don't hear about it as much
but then again as a child when I would hear my idols say like this is my ideal
type and like ''RIP That's not me'' I remember
the height thing being a being like what's your ideal height for your
significant other and they'd always be like 153 centimetres and I'd be like ''what the crap
is this?'' but I digress so yes dating and kpop has always been you know really
taboo and I don't know if anyone remembers but 2NE1 had a five-year dating
ban which was very odd considering the fact that Dara and Bom were both 25
years old and you know people found that so odd that they were banned from dating
anyone but it was kind of like the norm right this unspoken norm that idols just
shouldn't date and as much as I'd like to say that you know times have changed
at the same time you know not too long ago
Hyuna and Dawn were kicked out of their company for coming out and saying hey
we're dating and I'm sure there are more layers to that story then provided in a
simple company statement but the truth is any time an idol comes out and says
''I'm dating this person'' it is met with incredible amounts of backlash. kpop has
like this magical wonderful yet strictly controlled and managed image and dating
is just one of those things that shatters that image because obviously, Oppa
can't love anybody except for me! that was me imitating someone by the way I'm
not a Koreaboo...anymore and I want to talk about that mindset just a little
bit because I think it's definitely important conversations to have. some
people feel a need to protect their idols and them wanting to protect their
idols sometimes they just take things too far and I've touched a bit about
this in my toxic fandom video where I talked about my own experience with
toxic with fans but this is kind of a different facet of that same issue and
it has to do with love, obsession and sometimes people do fall in love with
their idols to a point where it's unhealthy aka the Taemin incident of
2010 which we will talk about today maybe another time, but I think it's
important to be reminded of this fact that we don't know these people and we
likely never will, you know, what they portray in videos that we see obviously
it's close to their personalities right I'm not trying
say that kpop idols are fake, but I'm saying that you know what we see of
same reasons and because of this controlled image a lot of them is
actually just like a blank slate for their fans which just means that people
can kind of fill in the blanks with whatever they see fit, and so of course
it's understandable that some people fall so deeply in love with their idols
because ultimately they've made up most of them in their heads, when in reality
you do not know them you're probably never gonna meet that you don't know
what keeps these people up at night you don't know their views on politics, on
religion, because they ultimately just keep that stuff to themselves and there's
always like these scandals or something that comes up that surprises the hell
out of everyone because it goes against this image that people have created for
them, I remember this situation with Daehyun from BAP where he was
pictured with like cigarettes and everyone was like oh my goodness it was
the end of the world when in reality like you know he's an adult who can do
what he wants to. I'm not talking culturally, okay take that out of the
question because I'm not reading Korean comments I'm reading comments through
international fans, everyone was shook about this everyone was like going crazy
over the fact that he had a cigarette and this is coming from international
fans because we've just conditioned ourselves that these idols are the
epitome of pure, these idols are the epitome of what we've made them to be in
our heads, same kind of goes with Taehyung from BTS, I was gonna say BAP oh Frick, I'm not
super up-to-date with this situation but like it seems some people think he's
holding like an e-cigarette or something like that and people are going crazy
when a reality he's an adult and he can do what he wants on that note there was
like a video of him reacting to Hwasa in a mamamoo performance
and he was just making faces like that he was enjoying the performance and
people were like..... it's understandable don't get me wrong I'm not trying to
like shame anyone I know what it's like to be young and dumb, I still know what
it's like to be young and dumb, but I can say I've never held an idol to that high
of a standard because I always had this thought in the back of my mind that like
I'm never gonna meet them and I don't, frankly after all the fan fics I've
written about them, I don't want to meet them because it would be awkward
I think we all used to read cringy fanfics back in the day, I can't be the
only cringy bitch on this block, it's fine! but at the end of the day it's just
this entire fantasy that people have over their idols and when that fantasy
is shattered people tend to get upset because how could you someone, who I've
written 5 fan fics about, break my fantasy... on my internet! But I
totally understand the need for comfort I totally understand how people use kpop
as a tool to comfort themselves I totally get that I'm not trying to shame
anyone because kpop helped me through a lot but it also caused 12 year old me a
lot of heartbreak, but we find comfort in different ways but sometimes as fans
we can take that comfort a little too far and we start rumors about people
because we're not happy about they're dating someone and these rumors can be
very harmful and that's what I'm seeing with especially with Heechul, there's a lot
of rumors going around and you know I'm trying to look into these rumors and I
can't really find any basis for them I can't really find any sources that
confirm them at all so it's really just people saying something and then running
with it because it looks bad, given my fifth scandal, oh I know like a little
bit what that's like, I'm not gonna put myself on that same scale but I know a
little bit what that's like to like have people think that you said or did
something that you have not actually done and it's kind of frustrating
because how do you go to each individual and be like um no I didn't do that no no
sorry I didn't say that no I know I said this, but I didn't actually say it
like that, anyways it's a whole ass mess so I
understand wanting to find comfort in kpop I'm not judging anyone, I was 12
once we were all 12 once, maybe you're 12 now, you should.. probably don't don't tell
COPA but when you take that need for comfort and you start trying to ruin
people's lives with it that's when it becomes very problematic but I
definitely understand why an idol would be like no I don't want to come out and
say that I'm dating this person because of the backlash because every single
time anyone has come out as a couple you read in the same articles they have been
met with extreme backlash so my honest opinion on all of this is
that we do need to see more kpop couples I think it would be very beneficial for
people to see their idols dating to see that their idols are not you know above
human that they're not actually gods that they are actually just human beings
do you ever just think about this just think about this so I had this thought
you know because there's a lot of k-pop idols that are like ''Oh, I idolize this
Idol, I love this Idol'' and it's like if you really think about it just think for
one second, you became a kpop idol and that's your Idol! your Idol was literally
you at one point your Idol probably wrote fan fics about their idols and had
to delete them all but yeah that's my opinion I think it would be great if
more and more idols who come out and say hey I'm dating this person but given the
current economy I just feel like it's just it's a little bit harmful it's a
little bit toxic too you have to experience that so you know I get it but
yeah those are my thoughts and that is the end of the video I hope you liked it
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