Hey ladies, Amy North here, welcome to my channel.
For those of you who don’t know me I’m a relationship coach from Vancouver Canada
and author of The Devotion System — a program I’ve personally designed to help women get
the love they want and deserve.
And today I want to talk about something that so extremely important to be aware of, and
those are the red flags of a new relationship.
The thing is, when we become smitten with someone it can be easy to overlook all the
startling signs that the guy we’re with isn’t right for us.
Now before I share these five red flags with you I’d like to quickly ask that if you
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Now, let’s get started.
1.
He’s controlling
You say you’re going out with the girls and he gives you a hard time.
You say you’re going to have a quiet night in and he gets upset.
If the man you’re seeing is trying to call the shots or keeping you on a short lead then
that’s a huge red flag.
Since being a healthy relationship requires both partners to have their own lives, if
he’s trying to control your then that’s a sure sign to call it quits.
The tough thing with this one is that you may not noticed his controlling tendencies
right away.
In fact, you may even mistaken them for him being a gentleman.
Still though, if you notice that he’s been jealous of your other relationships, or he
feels the need to decide where you go and who you spend your time with, then your relationship
with this kind of man is bound to end in disaster.
Rather than investing all your time and energy into him, take the hints and get out.
After all, you should always choose yourself over a toxic partner.
2.
He knows more than you’ve shared
Let’s say that you’re out to dinner with your guy and you tell him a story about something
that happened in the office that day.
Before you can even finish the story he’s throwing around names of your co-workers and
asking detailed questions.
Seems strange, right?
If the man you’re seeing seems to know more than the information you’ve shared with
him it’s safe to assume that he’s been snooping.
For instance, he may have checked out your work website, or maybe he’s been creeping
your Facebook friends.
Whatever it is, that’s not normal.
Same goes for it he knows your plans before even before you’ve shared them with him.
That’s most definitely red flag that something is up.
Maybe this means he’s been stalking your friend’s Facebook wall, or perhaps he’s
taken a peek in your phone, whatever it is, if you guy knows more than you’ve shared
then beware.
3.
He shows up unexpectedly…
a lot
Once in awhile it’s cute to surprise the person you’re seeing with an unexpected
visit, but if your guy keeps showing up unannounced, then there may be a bigger issue there.
And as much as I hate it say it, your man may be having some major trust issues.
If you notice that your guy is borderline stalking you, then that’s a huge sign of
some deeper rooted issues.
Again, it can be easy to mistaken this for flattery, but it’s important that you don’t
confuse the two.
A key part of being in a loving relationship with someone is trusting them enough to be
their own person.
If your man can’t, well, neither should you.
4.
Your friends don’t like him
Just because you’re blinded by infatuation, it doesn’t mean your pals are.
That’s why their judgement can be so helpful when it comes to your relationships.
So then, if the majority of your friends don’t get along with your guy you’re seeing, or
they have nothing good to say about him then take note.
Sometimes it’s a matter of clashing personalities or brief introductions, but remember, your
friends can often see when trouble’s a brewing long before you’ll clue in.
On the other hand, if your new guy is constantly making excuses not to spend time with your
friends or is questioning your relationships with them then something’s up.
Don’t ignore these seemingly light comments or you’ll be dealing with a much deeper
issues as time passes.
5.
His stories change
He tells you that he’s going to the gym then later he mentions how it’s been months
since he last worked out.
He says he didn’t get up to much last night but then you see his Facebook is full of photos
from the bar.
If you guy’s stories are constantly changing then alarm bells should be ringing.
Honesty is key in any relationship, and if you can’t trust your partner, then there’s
no point in working to keep the relationship alive.
If you’re interested in learning some tips to improve communication with your man then
visit my site, www.coachnorth.com and watch the free video presentation.
You’ll also learn all about my Devotion Sequences there, which are phrases I’ve
come up with that are guaranteed to make any man crazy about you.
You don’t want to miss this one!
Well that’s all the time I have for this video, as always thanks so much for watching.
If you have any other red flags to share that I didn’t mention — because yes, there
are loads — then I encourage you to post those in the comments section below, along
with any questions you may have for me.
I always love hearing from you and I’ll do my best to reply as soon as I can.
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So then, until next time take care and good luck!