Hi everyone Agnes here. Now today in this video I'm going to explain one thing that
I think is essential to learn and to also be able to apply to have a meaningful relationship and to
maintain it. Now it doesn't matter whether it's your brother or sister, whether it's your boss,
whether it's a friend or whether it's a romantic relationship. Okay, so if you're having problems
in a particular relationship today or you're having trouble attracting what you want
and then being able to keep it, you might be currently waiting for an apology or an
explanation or the return of somebody in your life. Then this video might really help you. So in
the next part of this what I'm going to do is I'm going to go through 7 steps for how to get there.
Okay, now what is it, what is the one thing? It's getting rid of old resentments from the past, from
past relationships and I would definitely start back as far as you can go - so parents, okay. Now
how, how do you do this? Now I'm gonna go through the 7 steps for you. 1st thing is write down a
list of all the people you resent? So go back as far as you can, write down that list okay and
it doesn't matter how many people are on the list it's just for you to get a clear picture of
where your resentments are okay. Now Number 2) You're going to write a letter to each person.
Now another little slant or difference here you can also do it via audio. Sometimes it's easier to
speak things out with the emotion. So whether you write it or do an audio that's up to you. Number
3) Then what I would do is burn it, shred it or flush it - obviously not with the audio - with
the written version and you might need to do this more than one time, some resentments are stronger
than others and we have more layers of resentment over the years with certain people. So if you
still feel that when you think of that person's name you still can feel that _ that little
thing that you get about that person then you might need to do it again okay. Now Number 4)
Sit in meditation after you do one of these and say 'I cast this resentment upon the source within
and I go free' or 'I cast this resentment upon the god within' or 'infinite intelligence
within,' whatever word you prefer just tweak it the way you want okay. And I would do that
every time you feel that _ about that person start to make a decision to do the letting go of the
resentment okay. Number 5) Using ho'oponopono. So say you have a resentment about someone,
you sit for a second and you say okay I'm going to do the ho'oponopono on this particular person.
Close your eyes and say that 'I'm doing the ho'oponopono about this particular person' and you
do it over and over whether you use the recorded version which I'll put the links down below for
or you do it just purely in your own mind silently over and over again. Either way it is a great way
to do as they say in the ho'oponopono circles - you're doing the cleaning, okay.
Number 6) Decide and make a firm decision to let it go. So it is a decision,
that part you can do in your mind - 'I make a decision, I'm letting this go.'
Now easy to say not always easy to do with certain people, but if it comes up again and again
then what you do is you go back and you repeat these steps okay. Now I'm going to add the
7th step, this might help you to let go okay, it's forgiveness. Now forgiveness if you can
think of it this way is not for them, it's for you. It's so that you no longer carry
the negative, poisonous emotion within yourself okay. So many people have had things happen
and they're carrying the resentment towards the person. Now some things are really awful
and having resentment I understand is is it's like it's a natural progression,
but if you carry that on for years you're it's like you are drinking poison okay.
So if you remember - 'Every time I'm resentful it doesn't hurt them, it hurts me.' Then it makes you
go 'okay hang on I don't do not want that for myself, I want to be in a state of love, I want
to be where I'm free of this so I can practice that affirmation 'I cast this upon the god within
and I walk free.' And then if the resentment comes back you can do these 5 steps but
also in the consciousness of your mind, remind yourself that forgiveness is to free
yourself okay. I found when I heard that it was like [sighs] I'm doing this for me
and that feels so much better because that's part of self-love, not carrying resentment
is a big part of self-love okay. So I will put down below the ho'oponopono playlist
and there are some exercises there you can do, it's a little playlist you can go through it for
free. I'm reading out of a little book by Ulrich E Dupree and he puts a little exercise at the end of
each chapter. I think it's an excellent thing to do when you have got resentment against somebody
and yeah this is really for you to sweep your side of the street, get to the place where you've got
a clear slate, a clean body, you're no longer in 'you owe me' or 'you didn't do right by me'
or any of that. You clean that up bit by bit, it's not something you do you know overnight but
work on it and the more you do that it's like your current relationships then are not being
fertilised by that, if you know what I mean. The more you clean up all your emotional and mental
things, bad habits, uh lingering on things, being unforgiving, all of this within you
if you clean that up you set yourself free and then what you do is you're marinating your current
relationship - whether you're in one or not you're laying the good fertiliser to then plant
the good seeds to have that great relationship. So if you have the absence of someone it is a
vacuum that can bring someone in, if you are in something that's not great, blowing hot and cold,
not to your liking it then puts the good fertiliser on this particular relationship okay.
So I hope that helps. I can tell you this has been a massive thing in my life and
you know when I was in a lot of resentment in my 20's I actually created a tumour for myself, so
I will put that story down below for you because I didn't understand the power of resentment then
and what it did to me by it was like drinking poison every day going over
and over and over what people had done to me and I actually created a quite severe
health issue for myself at that time. So resentment is remember like drinking poison.
So as my father said to me in a dream once after he died: 'Let go of your resentment,'
and he was reminding me of where it can take me. So thank you Dad (laughs), I appreciate that.
Lots of love everyone and as always - on the next YouTube, on YouTube channel here, lots of love.