fear of missing out or FOMO is a very
interesting psychological phenomena that
affects pretty much everyone no mo FOMO
dog no mo now the fear of missing out at
some point is something we've we've all
experienced in the past but what most
people don't realize is that it
originates from a deeply ingrained
psychological response and you can
actually use the very same response to
dominate your ex's thoughts and drive
them wild with desire hey guys I'm Brad
browning of course your favorite breakup
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breakup coach with over 10 years of
experience I feel it's important to not
only share these techniques with you now
but also to just explain a little bit of
the psychology that makes them so
effective don't worry though um you know
I'm not gonna get too scientific and
I'll keep it brief but basically I'm
devoting this video to the psychology of
FOMO and I will be sharing 7 strategies
to use this formal response that I've
just talked about in order to drive your
ex back into your arms
oh and quickly before I before we begin
and get into it I do want to thank one
of my subscribers al for the idea to
make a video on this topic in the first
place so thanks for the great idea so
let's get into it
you know what really is going on when
FOMO starts to to take the wheel and
starts driving our thoughts and our
desires
now the actual formal acronym is a
pretty new term but fear of missing out
itself has actually you know been around
for a very very long time and this is
something that was born out of an
evolutionary need to survive within a
tribe so you know back when when missing
out was often a matter of life and death
now at this point you know I know what
you're thinking
we're not cavemen Brad and you are right
of course most of us are not cavemen
anyway but because of the role that FOMO
has played in our of evolution generally
it does affect us on a very
for a very subconscious level and it's
this type of involuntary emotional
response that tends to wield a great
deal of influence over our thoughts and
our desires which of course is why
generating a little bit of FOMO in your
ex can go a really long way
now there's two facts that you need to
know about in order to understand why
FOMO can be so psychologically powerful
in fact number one is that humans tend
to to overvalue
what they no longer have studies on this
are extensive and leave little doubt
that we all have a tendency to place
higher value on something that we've
lost or or missed out on
then on something we've gained or
actually been part of in fact number two
losses increase our arousal more than
gains in fact the research suggests that
losses are twice as impactful on people
psychologically as gains are now we
already know that emotional arousal is
one of the best ways to to incentivize
action which is exactly what you want to
achieve with your ex right so you know
just take a moment and ask yourself do I
want to work overtime trying to win back
my ex or simply use a little bit of
psychology to make them chase me so now
that you guys know what it is and how it
works here's my seven tips on using FOMO
to drive that elusive ex back into your
arms tip number one I used the 30 day no
contact rule that I've discussed in
detail in many of my previous videos
here on YouTube and I know you guys
don't want to hear more about no contact
but you know as the old saying goes
absence makes the FOMO grow or is it the
heart grow fonder
either way the fact is that initiating a
period of no contact with your ex is one
of the best ways to pique their
curiosity about what you've been up to
and what they may be missing out on and
as hard as as you know implementing this
30 days no contact strategy might
actually be for you the time apart will
create healthy separation that almost
always increases your chances of success
when you do start talking to your ex
again and tip number two is to to limit
initial communication with your ex to
text messages and social media only now
it's a lot less invasive and this gives
you more time to plan what you want to
say and of course you know Plus in our
modern tech driven world most people
have become hypersensitive to fear
missing out on
pretty much everything and this means
that text message and especially social
media posts are the ideal mediums for
for maximum FOMO generation so stop and
think carefully about each message
before you hit Send you know ask
yourself if what you're saying will
achieve the desired you know full no
effect or whether it might make it a
little too obvious that you've been
letting you know your own fear of
missing them run wild in your own mind
okay tip number three is to stop and
think carefully about each message
before you hit Send ask yourself if what
you're saying in the message will
actually achieve the desired you know
FOMO effect in your ex or whether it
might make it a little too obvious that
you've been letting your own fear of
missing them run wild so don't start
reestablishing the connection with your
ex you know by suddenly sending them 50
messages a day remember that that the
tortoise always beats the hare in the
long run so be patient and don't try to
rush things you know at first you know
just try using one simple fun text
message to to break the ice when no
contact is over now if you are not sure
what what that kind of message would
look like I've included a ton of
examples of attraction building messages
that are ideal for this type of
situation and you can learn more about
them right on the video on my website
breakupbrad.com alright and let's move
on to tip number four which is to post
pictures that create FOMO and I don't
mean just you know selfies here could be
a picture of you at a dinner party or on
a weekend away with your friends and you
don't even need to necessarily you know
be specific about who you were with or
what you were doing the point here is
really just to let them see the fun that
they're missing out on and that's gonna
remind your ex that you're still a fun
interesting person that they shared a
lot of happy memories with in the past
and in fact you know it's definitely
possible that if you do this properly
they'll even leave a comment on your
post you know saying where's my invite
or you know I better be invited to the
next time you do that and these are
clear signs that you've created some
FOMO in your ex's mind and of course
that is exactly what you want in order
to win them back and number five
remember that we are attracted to people
of equal or higher status than ourselves
now this is a big one guys there is
literally a mechanism in your brain that
tracks your your perceived social status
subconsciously and
livers a head of serotonin when you see
that you've sort of you know risen in
relation to to those around you
now this means that if you can
effectively generate some some FOMO in
your ex they're gonna subconsciously
crave that serotonin hit which makes
people feel good and they're gonna start
behaving a bit like an addict who needs
the satisfaction of getting you back in
their life now while there's you know
many ways to to achieve this a good
place to start is working just you know
on being the best possible version of
yourself we're basically all attracted
to you know charismatic people who tend
to to look good and feel good about
themselves and as a result you know act
with a confidence and a charisma that
makes those around them crave their
attention and their approval so by
making an effort to do look and feel
your best that confidence is going to
shine through in your social media posts
your conversations with your ex and of
course that in turn is gonna make you
appear more attractive to your ex and
it's gonna remind them of why they were
attracted to you in the first place when
you first started dating now I know guys
this does sound a little bit far French
a little bit abstract but I promise this
stuff really does work my like magic and
your ex is going to be powerless to
resist these kinds of feelings alright
and let's move on to one that's possibly
the most important of these seven tips
number six which is to avoid overly
emotional messages or emotional posts on
social media basically this just means
you know no sad or crying emojis know I
miss you messages or you know posting
sad lyrics on your Facebook page really
you know the goal is just to show your
ex that you're a confident person you're
leading a fun and interesting life and
you're just generally thriving since the
break-up which of course is the opposite
of what your ex is expecting learn to
recognize the FOMO response in yourself
to avoid the the sorts of you know
overly emotional posts and messages that
that make you you know seem sad
meaty or or desperate and by the way
this is actually really good practice
you know even when you're not trying to
get your ex back because being positive
and sharing you know fun interesting
things on social media is always gonna
make you look better now you know that
if you're sharing your heartache or
depression or you know sort of
complaints for the world to see alright
number seven and yes yes I know what
you're thinking the six tips that I've
just mentioned a lot of them seem you
know easier said than done and sure you
know sometimes we do all need to help
and from an expert from time to time
which is probably you know what brought
you here to this video in the first
place which like I said does lead me to
my final tip here number seven which is
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so folks you know as I said at the
beginning of this video there's many
studies on our tendency to over value
what we think we've lost and there's
also plenty of research suggesting that
no one is immune to to the FOMO syndrome
or the fear of missing out but of course
the question is you know are you gonna
let this this fear control you or are
you gonna use it to help rekindle the
feelings and desires between you and
that special person that you want back
in your life now if you do try these
tips out yourself do let me know how
they go in the comments below or ask
your questions down there and I'll get
back to you and thank you beautiful
people of YouTube for tuning in to this
latest video now it's time for you to
get out there and start using FOMO to
get a second chance with your ex I wish
you the best of luck and I'll see you in
the next video