Have you ever wondered why it seems that some people have more money than others?
Or why some people have joined the lucky Club where they get to live in a nice
house? You know, why does it seem that some people have everything going their
way like... Why does it like they eat whatever they want and their body stays
totally thin, right? You know, we do this comparison thing and at the end of the
day, for me it comes down to a major life hack on emotional intelligence. And in
this video, I'm going to teach you how to become and it emotionally fit ninja that
is fully capable of producing the results that you want on the outside
based on mastering your feelings on the inside.
Your happiness in life is directly connected to the meaning that you play
some things. In fact, meaning is everything. So in this conversation of
emotional intelligence and emotional fitness, we're going to talk about the
meaning that we place on things in life. Now, first of all, let's talk about why
you are even watching this video perhaps in the first place. No human being
escapes childhood without having wonderful experiences and horrible
experiences. And we get to choose the meaning that we place on things. So 5
year old, her parents put her in ballet, she gets up at her recital and she trips
and she makes a decision about herself. Now, any time a child does anything that
they perceive as bad or wrong, they're going to assign a meaning to it. And the
meaning that they place on it is ultimately going to form our belief system.
So, imagine for just a moment that every human, you as a human being on this
planet, imagine that there are 10,000 core beliefs and that these beliefs, what
they do is they control your perception. They control everything that you see. And
so when you go back to your childhood, we've got moments where I felt like I
wasn't smart enough because in third grade Miss Bohannan gave me a bad grade
on my spelling. Or I was going to catch the winning football and I got butterfingers.
So, then I decided that I'm bad at sports or I'm bad at football or maybe I'm not
fast enough because the ball was thrown ahead of me. We have these moments in
life where we get really hard on ourselves. If we perceive it as a
negative experience, we assign a meaning to it. And that meaning ends up becoming
our reality. Now, the problem with that is that we never revisit these beliefs. But
they are with us our entire life. In fact, beliefs just they never change
themselves. And we're not set up to revisit them and actually question. Was
this a good idea? Was this a bad idea? We simply run with the meaning we attached.
Now, here's the problem. Kids are really amazing observers. But they're really
horrible interpreters. So, for example a child walks in on a parent or parents
that are fighting with each other. And they hear loud sounds and they feel
anger and something gets thrown. And the child is going to make a decision about
themselves. "My parents never wanted me, it's all my fault.
Money is bad." Children have the ability to have the most erroneous and wildest
thoughts. But now we're adults. I'm assuming your adult or at least our body
has taken on adult form. But we still live with the same maturity level of
decisions that we made as children. What that means is we're screwed.
It means that there are times on a regular basis where you're happy and
there are times when you're really sad. Some of you have collected enough
memories that you placed meaning on that was so negative that now you're just
perpetually unhappy. And if you're unhappy enough, you become depressed and
if you become depressed enough you consider checking out a life. So, how
important is emotional intelligence? I think it's more important than
intelligence. I think it's even more important than what you know. Why? Look at
what we as human beings really want in life. Look at what you want? You might
think, "Oh, yeah. Kris, I'm a subscriber to your channel or I'm going to sign up to
have you be my mentor because I want you to make a million dollars. I want to make
a million dollars and that's going to just going to change everything for me." And
you can think that. But the reality is... And there's nothing wrong with having
that, by the way. But you might have your priorities a little mixed up. Having
doesn't make you happy. What does make you happy is the way you feel. So, by the
way, you say, "I won a million dollars." And I say, "No, you don't. Bull crap. What is it
you want?" Well, I guess you're right. If I had the million dollars, there's this car
that I want. Bullcrap! You think the car would make you happy. But the cars not
what you want. "You're right. I want the car because I think that when I'm
sitting in it and driving it, it's going to make me feel a certain way." Is that the
wind blowing through your hair with the top down? Is it driving by a social area
and having your friends check you out? And identify you with this vehicle of
success? There's a feeling that we're going for. And so emotional intelligence
and learning how to manipulate that, it's a way faster game than the amount of
time it's going to take to buy a Maserati. It's a way faster game than
getting a house boat. It's a way faster game than figuring out world travel. But
ironically, the secret to having all of that is mastering the emotions. Because a
person that is that is emotionally unintelligent, guess what they do? They
freaking get in their way so that they can't get the things that they want. They
got the business deal of their life staring at them in the face. And they
screw it up because they perceive that someone is messing up
the deal and this person did this and then I cried, and I was angry, I was
upset and my emotions are running wild. Have you ever felt like your emotions
were happening to you and you were out of control? But it wasn't your fault.
That's the way most people feel. But here's the truth. Are you in charge of
the way that you feel? Do people come out to my events? I'll be in front of a
massive audience and I'll have someone usually a big, big burly man stand up. And
I'll tell him to smack me in the face. And at first they don't want to do it.
But I look at him and I say, "No, for real. Smack me." And with a little bit of
coaching, they'll take their hand and boom just slap me upside the head. Won't
take very long drive a big red mark on my cheek. And I ask this question. What
are my options? Someone that witnessed a lot of violence
growing up and learned that you saw problems with your fists. when they raise
their hand, guess what they say? You should hit them back. You've got someone
else that was told that they should shut up and they shouldn't open their mouth.
And from childhood they learn to be a doormat. Guess what they say, "Do nothing
and get walked all over." Our childhoods and our experiences and then the meaning
that we placed on them created our belief system that guides us as adults
today. So your circumstances might keep changing. But you've got the same
operating system. And in a moment, I'm gonna show you how you can change that.
Reality if someone smacks me, I could get angry and punch them back. I could be a
doormat. I could even give him a hug. If I felt like that was the right thing to do.
That might seem awkward. That might seem a little misplaced. But that's how
emotionally intelligent you want to be. That no circumstance or no person ever
has to direct the way that you need to feel. The reality is is that when I'm
showing people how to make a lot of money in real estate or in business, it's
this emotional intelligence that I deem is far more important to train them on.
Because if I can fix their emotional patterns in the way that they view life
in their belief system, guess what? All of a sudden, instead of seeing pain,
suffering and anger, your perception has the ability to take in 20 billion
bits of information in every second. And in every second while there is anger and
pain and suffering that that is there because your beliefs, but guess what also
is out there. The money that would help you meet your financial goals, travel the
relationships that you're in search of. Ironically, the things that you want are
also present. But guess you want the most. The things that you
have negatively placed meaning on. Which means you're going to see anger instead of
love. And you're going to see pain and suffering instead of opportunity. So the
question is how do I change my belief system? How do I restructure it so that
it can alter my emotional intelligence and start seeing what I want and
actually pursue that and then get what I want instead of what I don't want? In the
next video, I'm going to share with you part 2. I'm going to share with you the
system that I use every day. It's a tiny ritual, it's a tiny routine.
And it allows me to find all the problems in my perception and allows me
to correct them. And if you do this every single day, your emotional intelligence
is going to rise and I'm going to tell you you're going to start seeing the world in a
very different way. You're going to start seeing everything that you want. And your
life is never going to be the same again. So hang tight. That's right here in the
next video. Hey, thanks for watching this first video. If I could get it all in, I
would. But I wanted you to have this background. So in the next video, I'm
going to really dive in deeper. But for those of you there like, "Kris, I'm ready
to get on my journey of emotional mastery now and wealth mastery now." I
want you to be aware that down below, I've got links. The first thing you need
to do is you need to get a free copy of my book. It's a gift from me to you. By
getting that in the mail to you, it enables me to show you how to get on
your journey of making millions of dollars. And then also how you can join
up with me at one of my live events where I can teach you how to master in
an immersive way this information so that your life really will never be the
same again. So thanks for watching. Check out the links and I'll catch you on part
2.