have you ever had to deal with a
difficult boss this can be a little bit
hard when you're new to the job
because what do you do you could have a
boss that is just not giving you enough
direction or it could be the opposite is
giving you too much and it's
micromanaging you any which way you look
at it dealing with a difficult boss can
be really sucky so how do you deal with
it
I'm Adriana Girdler I am president of
Cornerstone dynamics and a Productivity
expert and in this video I'm going to
share with you six tips on how to deal
with a difficult boss at work so you
have a difficult boss and you need to
deal with that person I know how hard it
can be I remember when I used to work in
organizations how tough it was when you
had a real difficult boss but yet on the
opposite side when you have a good one
it makes life really easy but that
difficult boss truly can make work work
and that's not what we want we want to
have fun by the way I'm gonna let you
know I got a little bit of a cheat sheet
going on I've been busy with meetings
and I really want to do this video
because I've been coming across during
the last couple times with my meetings
of my clients this particular situation
and so I'm hoping this is really gonna
help you so my number one tip that is
really important when it comes to
dealing with a difficult boss well that
is focus on your job you know you can't
control what your boss is doing or how
they're behaving however you can always
focus on your job and ensure that you're
doing it to the letter sure that you're
finishing through following through and
being very clear with what your rules
and responsibilities are that is really
really important because at least it
ensures that you are up to snuff with
your roles and responsibilities in
essence doing what you're getting paid
to do tip number two
sorry guys as I said I've got my little
cheat sheet here tip number two is know
what's important to your boss so what do
I mean by that you have a difficult boss
you've got to do a little bit of
psychological 101 what's really
important to that person and sure you
make that a priority for you sometimes
that in itself can be really the best
way to kind of make things even keeled
so if your boss is a micro manager then
maybe
doing that because they don't feel that
you really know what they need so if you
start understanding and knowing your
boss that may dissipate and if your boss
is not giving you enough information
then know your boss understand that and
book one-on-one meetings with them that
could be a huge game-changer so really
know your boss and try to adjust your
behavior so it is in line with how your
boss behaves so tip number three in the
grand scheme of all this is don't try to
fix your boss sometimes we have that
habit if things aren't working well for
us how can we correct the other person
it ain't gonna happen
they're your boss they have their own
patterns if they're a micromanager
they're always going to be a
micromanager if they are kind of high
level and they don't give you enough
detail guess what you're not going to
change it so recognize that it's not
about you it's about them don't try to
fix them you're not going to do it but
going back on tip number two really get
to know them and understand their
behaviors and their patterns and adjust
your behavior a bit so that you can feed
into it so that those two tips really go
hand-in-hand now the next tip I want to
give you which is really important as
well is stay aligned with your vision
and goals in subsequent videos I
actually talked about how important this
is for first impressions also just for
who you are when you're really new on
the job what do you want who are you
what are your values stay true to those
it can be real shitty having a shitty
boss however don't worry about it
just stay true to who you are and ensure
that you're aligned with yourself
because you have to wake up every day
feeling good about the decisions you
make you can't control other people
interestingly enough as I said before
I've had this experience I've actually
had to go and be true to who I am I had
a boss who was so shitty it was
unbelievable so much so that I was
actually contemplating quitting the
company and it was an amazing company
that had tons of benefits top 50 list
like really cool things like gyms and
amazing cafeterias and it'd be like the
best place to work and everyone was
envious that I worked there however my
boss was so bad I actually at one point
was thinking of quitting
that's how dire straight the situation
can be you know what helped me out was
to being true to who I am understanding
what
I'm all about and staying true to my
values that was extremely impactful and
I highly recommend it for you the other
tip that I want to share with you tip 5
is sometimes you got to put yourself in
their shoes sometimes bosses again
different levels of shittiness so to
speak right some are just like -
micromanagement but they're really nice
people and others just again really nice
people but just too high level then
there's really shitty shitty the
situation in scenario I just shared with
you but put them in your shoes sometimes
people just don't know sometimes they're
just really busy themselves and that's
why they're behaving in the way that
they are so take it with a grain of salt
I understand the essence of the person
some people are just really good people
and maybe they just have their little
quirks that you unfortunately have to
kind of live with so figure that out try
to put yourself in their shoes so again
it doesn't feel like it's about you cuz
it really isn't it's about them now last
but not least take another look at how
you're approaching things it's really
easy to point the finger I promise you
because we've all done it right that
boss Bob and you know what is some
scenarios it is true holy smokes that
person really is shitty however on the
flip side of everything sometimes you
really got to look inward and ask is it
me is there some validity to why my boss
is doing what they're doing if they're
micromanaging it me is it because maybe
I'm not performing so I'm not asking you
to ever blame yourself because I'm gonna
say for sure ensure that every day that
you're at work you do the best work that
you can do and you will know for sure
that it's not you however some days are
just like good days so you do have to
ask yourself the question am i up to
snuff is this really is there any truth
to any of this am I being micromanage
because perhaps I'm not doing my job
look inward it is really insightful and
it will help you understand exactly how
to deal with those scenarios and
situations so on that note there are my
six tips I hope you've gotten some value
out of it I know in my story all of
those tips I
used him in the past and they've really
were helpful here's a bonus tip
something that I had to do with the
story I just told you earlier on about
that real shitty boss last but not least
and ideally I try not to go there but
sometimes in the world the corporate
world you do have to protect yourself
document the hell out of things if you
have a super shitty boss who in your
heart and heart do you know is out to
get you because that does happen there
are people out there like that document
document document every conversation
every meeting that you have because some
day you may have to pull out that
document in order to show the proof that
wait this is not me I've done my due
diligence and it does help I had to go
there I actually had to bring it to HR
it wasn't fun but it helped me
tremendously when I had to go down that
road and I hope you never have to go
down that road which is why I do these
videos I'm trying to share with you the
things I wish someone told me when I was
your age and brand new in jobs so on
that note I hope you enjoyed it please
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see you later bye
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