- Hi.
Hey, Chris.
How are you?
Wonderful weather we're having, right?
I know.
CHRIS: I'm feeling a little nervous, a little apprehensive.
I'm not looking to argue with her,
but I'll definitely stand up for myself if that's what it comes
out to, if I need to do that.
Well, Chris, I wanted you to come see me tonight.
There's a couple of concerns that I have before I can say,
yay, congratulations.
You got my blessing.
And that's all I want.
I just don't know you.
Right.
And I'm trying not to be judgmental.
I definitely feel the awkwardness.
I'm kind of just ready to get it over with.
I know you don't like that I ride a motorcycle.
I know you don't like tattoos.
I just don't like tattoos.
Do you think it reflects bad on her though?
Like, why is it--
Yeah, I do.
It comes from my childhood.
It comes from being in corporate America.
It comes from--
You don't think that's shallow?
No.
No?
Why?
Because if I walked up to somebody
and they had a bone in their nose I would go,
why do you live in America with a bone in your nose?
What if that person is from a tribe in Africa?
Would you still think they should take
that out just because they're--
They probably would have to do to make
it in this country, yes.
It is my body.
If this is how I want to see my body,
you don't get to make that decision.
My dad had a tattoo from the Navy,
and I heard my whole childhood I wish I never had it.
Don't ever get tattoos.
It's the worst thing you can do, and that's how I raised Blair.
Tell me about your mom.
Like, was your mom born in North Korea and then her parents--
So she was born in South, but my whole family--
Is South Korean.
--is from the North.
Was she raised as a communist?
Were her parents communist?
It's kind of funny you bring up, like, the communism thing.
That's all we hear about.
That's all you hear about.
You know, where they talk about they raise their children
from birth to be--
hate Americans.
Well, I'm not Manchurian Candidate.
I'm not, like, a sleeper agent.
I haven't been activated.
But, I mean, it does kind of hurt a little because if there
is one thing I take a lot of pride in,
even though it's not the biggest part of who I am,
it's being Korean.
And my mother is a touchy subject.
So my mom and my dad got divorced about a year ago.
I'm really, really close to my dad.
And so at that point she said, you don't talk to me.
That's all she said.
We didn't really talk since.
It seems like there's a lot of instability
in Chris's background.
Yeah, I'm just very apprehensive about the whole family.
Can I asked you a super left-field question?
Sure.
Go ahead.
If Blair and I were to have a kid
and it was, like, a mixed baby, would that bother you?
Yeah.
It might bug me a little bit.
I think the whole meeting with Blair's mom
didn't go very well.
It's getting kind of late.
I got to get back.
We still have a lot of issues to resolve before we
actually get a full approval.
Be safe on that motorcycle.
I will.
Bye.
Now that I've spent more time with them,
I think Chris is not good enough for my daughter.
How's it going?
Chris and my mom met separately.
Tell me what happened, Chris.
The ethnicity thing was still, like, a concern for her.
I could tell.
And I asked her.
I was like, well, what if we had a child?
It would be mixed race.
Would that bother you?
She said, yeah.
She believes that, because Chris is North Korean
and there's a lot of negative connotations
with that, that I will somehow have a harder life.
Even though she's in a mixed-race
relationship with Safi.
There are many obstacles to their relationship,
but the biggest hurdle is Blair's mother.
Kelly is a complex person.
She is sharing her bias against Chris's mixed heritage.
However, she also is in a loving relationship with a man
who is an Afghan American.
It's a very interesting dynamic and makes
it challenging for Blair to navigate.
I don't know how Blair's mom can sit there and say
those things when she's currently married to someone
who's a different race.
How will you feel if you don't get your mom's approval?
She has more to lose than I have to lose
because I'm her only child.
So if she really wants to cut me out of her life because of
the person I'm in love with--
I'm not even leaving that as an option.