Now the question is why do some people stand their ground and make something change versus
other people just kind of accept things why do some people make bold decisions and other people
make decisions that are based on trying to hang on to what they've got that's a more complex question
to answer than we might have in a few minutes in this one session but it is one that i've spent my
life studying because when you can change your decisions you can change your life when you can
change the force that controls your decisions you can change anything in your life at some level
we have certain beliefs and values but if i was going to make it simple i'd say there's two things
that determine your choices the first thing is the state of mind and emotion you're in at that moment
think about it have you ever snapped at somebody and had nothing to do with them it was just the
state you're in right you're frustrated you're pissed off about something and in that state of
mind whatever they said got interpreted through that state and you made up a meaning like they're
an irritant or they're interrupting you they weren't probably felt bad afterwards when we get
in the wrong state they make the wrong decisions when you get in a strong empowering state you'll
make a better decision learning how to direct your state is a big part of what my work is with people
and it's a big part of what i do on my seminars but the other thing that affects your decisions
would be what i would call your story or your blueprint we all have kind of a story about how
our life is supposed to be it comes from a set of life experiences interpretations some people think
life is all about getting theirs some people think life is about growing and contributing
some people think life is about making judgments some people think life is about saving other
people's lives some people think life is about being successful some people think god
is the basis of everything and the way to know god is to go through life in a very specific way
with a set of rules and they follow it and that's what they believe whatever your story
is whatever your blueprint your blueprint is just another way of saying whatever you believe is how
your life is supposed to be at some level we either follow that blueprint or we fight it
if we follow it or we fight it we're going to find that we're going to bump into things
in life where life isn't always the same as we expected or think it should be and
that's where we start to experience stress so in this session of breakthrough when you watch this
story and you saw melissa you saw the conflict between what you desired most before she feared
i really believe life is the dance between what you desire most that's where you find
where we live our life the dance between what you want most and what you fear most that's
that's where all that energy is in life so what does she want she wants to be famous
she wants to be able to sing and have everyone hear a voice and be able to touch everyone she
wants to contribute she wants to share a gift and she definitely wants to be famous and successful
she needs to be closer to her children and one of the big challenges in life is oftentimes what
we want and what we need are two different things she has five boys they're all extremely young as
i'm sure you saw and she has a husband and while they're all supportive for going on this journey
somewhere along the line she lost that connection to what was most important
now she a bad person to make bad decisions no good people make bad decisions when they get in lousy
states when our ego gets involved or when we start believing our story and here was the story she had
being a mom is important but the bigger gift god gave me is my singing voice and once we
get seduced into a particular story and we start to believe it it takes a whole of our
life and it controls all of our choices and then pretty soon bad choice on top of a bad
choice sometimes a bad choice starts to affect our life can you relate how many times you've
made some choices that you wish like hell you would have made a different decision back then
and or that no one ever knows the stupid decisions you made i know i can relate to them