- Don't Google things.
Ask your friends.
Hi, I'm Mandy Moore, on set with Romper,
and this is some of the best advice I've ever received.
Accept help when it's offered and have grace for yourself.
This is a totally new bit of territory,
so having grace and keeping that in mind
is really important.
Take solace that nothing will go according to plan.
Be ready to surrender to the moment.
The things that you may find easier or more challenging
may have been easier or more challenging
for somebody else, but it's all about your experience.
Everything is a phase.
Keep that in mind.
The challenging bits, the easier bits.
I keep hearing, over and over again,
don't compare yourself to anybody else.
Never wake a sleeping baby.
And, this is a new one that I picked up today,
never try and make a happy baby happier.
If your baby or your child is content doing something,
don't think that you have to try and do anything
to facilitate them to be happier.
Like, "Oh, maybe they need to sit up,"
or, "Maybe I need to move this toy closer to them."
Let them be. (laughs)
My advice for people would be to just be prepared to fail,
be prepared to mess up, be prepared to...
Be prepared for the unexpected,
and don't judge yourself for it.
You've never done this before.
I mean, I'm thinking about,
as I'm going into this experience,
about how I can give birth and I have this very clear vision
of what I want it to be like or what I hope it to be like.
It's gonna unfold the way it's gonna unfold
and it's okay to sort of fall off the horse
and dust yourself off and get back up again.
That's what life is all about.
I think that's what being a parent
is gonna be all about as well.
The best advice I've received
as someone who is about to be a new parent,
don't listen to anyone's advice.
Don't take anyone's advice, don't accept it.
Listen to your own voice, your own gut.
No one is gonna know your lived experience
or your baby better than you.
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