When someone does the INFJ wrong, there’s no doubt they take it hard. With so much hope and empathy
for humanity as a whole, this personality type can’t help but to not only feel sad for being
done wrong, but also disappointed in how some people treat others, generally. And nothing
inspires forgiveness quite like revenge, but is forgiveness alone always enough?
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Alright, let’s get right into all the different ways the INFJ seeks revenge, starting with..
Number 1: They don’t
Well that’s it for today’s video!.. All jokes aside, it’s fair to say that INFJs are one of
the least-likely personality types to take any form of spiteful revenge against others.
Of course, different levels of perceived vengeance may call for different reaction levels,
no matter the personality type. However, for the INFJ who can’t help but to see the good in people,
revenge rarely crosses their minds. In fact, the INFJ’s need to ‘live and let live’ sometimes has
little to do with the other person, and much more to do with how they personally
feel on an emotional level. Sometimes, just the thought of putting in action towards revenge or
getting even with someone can seem like way too much of a mental and emotional hassle for
it to be worth it. Usually, if the INFJ has been wronged, they want less to do with the person,
rather than to invest more mental energy into the manner. Plus, most philosophical
INFJs are big believers in karma.. So, they’ll happily step and leave it up to those believed
laws to put things in order when it’s most appropriate for that deserving individual.
Number 2: In their minds
While some people must act out and experience certain things in life in order to feel truly
connected to it, the INFJ is quite the opposite. In fact, they can easily play out
a potential scenario in their heads and become seriously bothered by it. On the other hand,
they can use these powerful and vivid visual images to play out certain scenarios in their
imagination in order to feel a little better about the situation. Instead of leaving it up to Whether
they perceive it as healing, manifesting, giving karma a little energetic nudge,
or a weird form of mediation - usually if an INFJ just sits and thinks of all the ways they
hope certain lessons will come about for someone, they walk away feeling much more
at ease. And even within their wildest and most realistic ideas, this sympathetic type is rarely
actually vengeful. However, that’s not to say that on the extremely rare occasions, these
visions are just too fool-proof to not execute in reality. And that brings us to our next point..
Number 3: They weigh up the pros and cons
Now, if you’re an INFJ yourself, you know sometimes karma just won’t cut it. Sometimes
empathy, understanding and patience isn’t enough to manage the constant racing thoughts of a
particular person or situation. And usually, this kind of still very hesitant-retaliation
only comes about when they’ve been seriously wronged, but most often when someone they love
has been wronged. In fact, it doesn’t always have to be by one individual person that is
done the wrong-doing, but even a workplace, group of people, or business. No matter the scenario,
in these rare instances where the INFJ is pushed beyond their mental-composure,
they can certainly begin questioning whether or not revenge is needed. At this point,
not only have they played it out in their minds, but they’ve probably found a route of harmless
vengeance. A plan that is needed not only for their own satisfaction, but one that will truly
allow that person to learn their lesson. For the sake of humanity, and anyone else who may
have experienced being wronged in the same way. And for the sake of hopefully stopping someone
being wronged that way in the future. So, how do they approach taking this vengeful action?
Number 4: Uncharacteristically
Well, we can only hold off on the harsh truth of the matter for so long. And that’s that sometimes,
INFJs not only seek revenge, dream about it, and contemplate it, but sometimes they
actually go out and get it. Luckily, there’s not many INFJs that can speak in this manner
due to lack of experience. However, there is one particular instance where this normally calm,
cool and collected personality type may in fact, step out of line. And that’s when they are under
the influence of the dreaded Introverted Intuition & Introverted Thinking loop.
Usually triggered by prolonged stress, over-stimulation, over-working, over-committing
and ultimately burn out, the INFJ can get stuck in a toxic loop of their introverted functions.
When the INFJ is so subconsciously focused on their inner functions,
they have no space to utilize their extroverted ones. Unfortunately, the INFJ’s extroverted
feeling and sensing functions are the ones that ground this rather up-in-the-clouds type.
These are the functions that allow the INFJ to truly understand the emotions of others
and the world around them as a whole, which has a lot to do with their strong empathetic traits.
However, when these aren’t available, the INFJ gets stuck in their own thoughts like never
before. This is where they can convince themselves that maybe revenge is the best option. Yet,
even then their high morals won’t allow them to take it very far. The ironic thing is that
if an INFJ should be thrown into this loop, the regret and remorse they feel once they’re back to
their normal selves is incomparable to any type of spiteful-action they could take towards another.
Number 5: Harmlessly
Okay, so we have the rare occasions that send the INFJ in a painful mental-loop of constantly
questioning whether to act or not. And then you have the seemingly harmless situations
where the INFJ just wants to have a little fun. You know those scenarios where you just have
to shake your head at the indecency and lack of common manners in some people you pass in a day?
The frantic highway driver weaving from lane to lane, the restaurant guest that’s rude to
the waiter, or even the simple act of not saying thank-you when someone else has waited for them
with the door open. Well, unfortunately, for the rather observant INFJ, witnessing humanity from
the sidelines can feel like one disappointment after another some days. And on these days,
sometimes it just takes a little poking fun to get the INFJ out of their funk.
While they probably won’t choose to start cutting off the crazy highway lane-jumper, they may use
humor to combat people who don’t use their manners by saying the reply anyway. With the least amount
of snark possible and often acting oblivious to the situation, an INFJ may say ‘You’re so
very welcome’ or ‘My pleasure’ as a response to the non-existent appreciation. This way,
even if this person was in fact too busy or too in their heads to say thank-you (like the INFJ will
probably convince themselves), maybe a playful remark will give them that gentle reminder.
And then we have our last point.. Number 6: Misinterpreted revenge
The most ironic aspect of the entire INFJ-revenge concept is the fact that they seem most spiteful
when they truly don’t mean to be.. Let’s elaborate. So, if you’re an INFJ yourself
you’ll know the level of contemplation and strength it takes to set even the simplest of
boundaries around your time, energy, empathy and need for solitude. And unfortunately, it usually
takes a little time for the INFJ to figure out how they can fit someone in their lives. Or,
really, if they can fit them at all. In other words, in the perspective of others it can look
like the INFJ makes these decisions a little late in the game. The worst part of it all
is that the people that don’t understand the INFJ’s need for these boundaries are
the ones this type should be staying far away from anyway. So while it’s difficult
for this empathetic type to communicate these needs, it also serves as a test to see whether
or not the individual will accept this part of them. When boundaries aren’t accepted however,
the INFJs' need for space or their reasoning for cutting off a connection can seem very spiteful.
Using the INFJ door slam as an example, an action they take solely to free themselves,
and one that is usually filled with forgiveness for the other person, can end up looking like
the biggest vengeful tactic. Luckily, if you’ve reached the point of being door-slammed by an
INFJ, you probably needed the harsh lesson anyway. Well PSYCH-Os, that’s it for today’s video.. So,
if you’re an INFJ, tell us in the comments below of a time where you took revenge on
someone and later regretted it deeply. Also, make sure to leave us a like,
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