- Today I would like to share with you
four life changing lessons
I've learned since the age of 16 years old.
If you're new to my channel, it's awesome to meet you today.
My name is Nathan and this channel is for KillersOnly.
What I mean by that is people who are ambitious, hungry,
and driven to improve themselves every single week.
Outcompete yourself, every single week.
I only post content that's gonna aid you
in your own journey in life,
whether it's personal development, educational advice,
or men's lifestyle advice.
Today this video right here
falls into the personal development category.
As always the advice in today's video
is gonna be real, straight to the point,
no sugar dust, fairy dust shit, it's worked for me
so I hope it works for you.
These lessons right here have been life changing
because I have a strategy,
a plan in place to achieving my goals,
to achieve the level of success I would like to achieve.
If you do not have a strategy in place,
an actual plan of action, deadlines, milestones
that you would like to achieve,
to achieve your bigger goals.
And this advice right here, these lessons right here,
will not be as relevant for you.
The first lesson, and I have preached this many times before
it is at the heart of what KillersOnly really means.
You need to surround yourself with the right people,
cut fake friends from your life and cut negativity
from your life.
One of the easiest places to do this,
to filter your life, social media, you can unfollow,
you can restrict, you can unfriend
the negative people and the fake ones.
But how do you identify fake friends?
How do you know who is a real one and who is not?
This is how I do it.
If I find that a particular individual or group of people
are continually asking me for something,
and I am not asking them for anything in return,
and it's a very one way relationship.
It's almost as if they are draining energy, time,
resources, from me.
That is a one way relationship.
And it sounds like they're a fake friend.
It sounds like they're just using me
and they just want stuff from me all the time.
They see me as a resource, as opposed to a friend,
a real friend is someone
who you can just go for a walk with,
and you can just chat for hours and hours and hours
with this person and not get bored.
There's no transaction being involved
besides from just companionship, that's like family,
that's family right there.
You don't need anything to be exchanged
besides from friendship.
Fake friends, real friends know the difference
between the two.
Identify who's draining you,
who's taking energy time, resources, money,
whatever it is from you and cut them.
Because I tell you what here, these people right here,
the people who are fake friends, they're going to increase,
and you're gonna find more of them popping up in your life
as you become more successful.
And as you achieve, as you achieve a bit more in life,
you're gonna find that these people
are gonna start swamping around you moreso,
when you start making bread,
cause you're gonna make bread one day
and these people are gonna pop up left, right and center.
DJ Khalid puts this the best.
They'll kick you when you're down,
but they wanna kick it when you're up.
They wanna hang out with you,
they wanna take things from you,
they wanna just vibe with you when you are up.
Forget these people, they're not worth your time, right?
So the first lesson on the list
know who your real friends are and cherish those guys,
they all family or girls.
they are family to you and know who the fake ones are.
There's one way relationships, right?
The ones where your energy, your resources, your time
is everything is being drained from you
to that person and restrict access just limit yourself.
Don't be cold , you do not have to completely cut people
unless if you feel like that is the best option for you.
I've done this before the parcel people,
I used to hang out with a social group
that wasn't the best for me.
I was sending me down the wrong route in life,
I was doing things I shouldn't be doing.
In that case I cut people, I cleaned cut people, yeah.
In other cases, you can just take a less extreme route
and you can just slowly restrict access.
So for example, they're hitting you up, they're texting you,
just take your time, replying to them.
Or don't pick up their phone calls wherever.
So you can slowly ease out your friendship
with these people.
So that is the first lesson.
The second tip is all to do with benchmarking.
In today's age is so easy to know
what everyone else around you is doing.
People are very public about what they're doing,
especially on social media, right?
Yeah, okay social media can be very fake
and it's very flexi and all this kind of stuff, right.
But we do know essentially what people are getting up to
on a daily basis, if they are willing to share it.
So here's the tip
and this is one of the Gavin Chuck is always preaching,
Gavin Chuck is one of my idols out there
in the business world especially in marketing.
Marketing is an industry
where you're always comparing your progress, your analytics,
your performance, your campaign against competitors.
So it's very important, not just in marketing profession,
but in life in general,
to not always benchmark yourself against other people.
Now and then is good, to track your progress,
to see how the competition is doing,
see how your role models are doing,
see how far off you are
from competing against your role models,
because that at the end of the day is your goal.
But do not over benchmark your performance
against other people.
Analysis, paralysis, just focus on yourself.
David Goggins says this each week
you need to outcompete yourself,
outperform yourself the previous week by 10%.
It's all about small marginal improvements
now and then yeah, it's calm to reflect,
see how everyone else is doing.
See how far off you are from achieving that
or see how far ahead you are from everyone else.
See what else is popping up in the market.
You know that one's right,
you're tryna wake up early in the morning.
and then you set your alarm for like,
I don't know, 7:00 AM, 7:30 AM.
And you pop on social media
you go on like Instagram stories
and you see some of your friends were up at 4:30,
getting on with their grind and stuff.
That's motivational, that shit will help you get up.
So now and then it's okay, but don't continue to do it.
Just focus on yourself, focus on your progress.
How are you achieving your goals?
And that ties us on nicely to the third lesson.
The third lesson
is all to do with the law of attraction
and the art of visualization.
So I learned about the law of attraction
when I was a sixth form,
the guy who used to sit next to me in my form,
he loved the law of attraction.
The guy was on his entrepreneur grind
he owns restaurants and stuff now.
Like the guy was on it
with the law of attraction, philosophy.
He was always preaching about it
and that's when I first discovered this.
So the law of attraction essentially is
where you visualize goals that you want to achieve.
You visualize that lifestyle, you want to achieve.
One of my favorite ways to actually visualize
like in actual images and video content
of the lifestyle that I want,
is by watching shows for example, Suits.
the corporate world, right?
Harvey specter my guy is motivational right there.
The other side of the story,
power, ghost, find fictional characters who motivate you.
That is one side of the story
in terms of the law of attraction.
Find a TV show that motivates you
find a character that motivates you.
And now and then when you need to kick, give it a watch.
The next activity,
which is also really useful
in terms of the law of attraction,
is creating a vision board.
A vision board is an image representation
of everything you want to achieve.
And you usually set time deadlines for each image.
For instance,
let me go back to my vision board
when I was 16 years old in sixth form.
My vision board had a picture of a Ford Mustang on it.
It had work, university, it had a degree.
It had like random other images on it
that I wanted to achieve,
it had like 10,000 subscribers on YouTube.
These are all random goals that I visualize myself
one day having.
Yes, I didn't take action on half of these goals that year.
I just started my YouTube channel when I was like 20.
Yeah I think it was like 20
so it must've been a few years later from 16 years old
when I actually decided to take action on that goal.
But you visualize it, you set goals,
you have a strategy to achieving these goals, and it works.
It pays off.
It's all about just focusing on what you want to achieve.
I like to do is stick my vision board in my bedrooms
I see it first thing in the morning
and last thing before I go to bed.
I have gone prepared as why
I would stick it on my bathroom mirror.
So every time I'm brushing my teeth
or every time I'm doing my skincare, wherever I see it.
And it's just like a constant reminder,
okay, time to get on with shit.
That's why I want to achieve.
Literally like brainwashing, you see it already.
You see it happening before it actually happens.
You hear about so many athletes, actors, successful people
visualizing their success before it happens,
dreaming about it.
Just knowing what's going to happen before it happens.
During my A-levels,
I knew I was going to get three A's, during my A-levels,
I knew I visualized it, I knew it was gonna happen.
I followed the strategy, I put in the hours.
I was certain I was going to get three A's
during my A-levels.
So I remember after exams, in the summer,
in between results day and finishing the last exam.
I was in the shower one day,
I'm gonna be completely open with you guys right here now.
I was in the shower and I was just, had my eyes closed,
I was feeling the water on me,
it was probably a spiritual moment here.
And I was thinking about results day,
getting my envelope, opening the paper and just seeing
A, A, A, just seeing the grades down.
And I pulled it out,
and I just felt the emotion of
actually receiving the results.
I knew I was gonna get it.
I think I'm gonna be honest
I shed a little tear, man.
I felt it, I felt able.
And that is what the law of attraction is.
You want to feel the emotions that genuinely drive you
to following your strategy, to achieving the goals.
When you want something that bad,
you will feel all the emotions associated with it.
You will feel the success
before you actually have the success if that makes sense.
And as a side note, for some of you guys
who haven't seen any of my previous videos before.
I'm not an incredibly academic person,
so for me achieving three A's during my A-levels
was a massive accomplishment for me.
So that's why was getting a bit emotional
because it was like years of,
not getting good grades and then suddenly working hard
and figuring out what works
and then achieving what I wanted to achieve.
And the final thing to add to this lesson
about the law of attraction and visualizing stuff.
It's also useful, if you have an accountability partner.
So basically let someone know, let your friends know,
let your family know, about your goal
and what you are trying to achieve.
So when you are making sacrifices
or when you're not making sacrifices to achieve those goals,
these people can help keep you on track.
Sometimes this in itself can be embarrassing,
telling people about your goals.
I remember, when I first had my vision board
up in my bedroom when I was 16 years old,
I was embarrassed about people seeing it.
And whenever my girlfriend would come over
or whenever I had friends over or anything like that,
I'd always hide the vision board, put it under my bed
so no one will see it.
One time, I forgot to remove the vision board.
And my friend Charlie came over and he saw it.
He started asking me 101 questions about it,
trying to find out a bit more about it.
Another time I was nervous,
but after actually speaking to him and sharing my plan,
I actually became so much more comfortable
with sharing my goals and aspirations with other people.
And honestly, the more people that know about your goals,
the more people are gonna keep you on track
to achieving your goals.
So it's just how I need to let the world know
what you want.
You know what right now what I want yeah,
a big batty thing, good evening yeah.
To come slide up in the DMS on Instagram
@NayfDivak, yeah.
I'm gonna have to let the world know.
The fourth lesson on today's list,
I learned this year in 2020,
it is after formal education, after you finished school,
sixth form, university, post-grad
whatever it is you want to do in life,
after you finished formal education,
it's time to start learning.
Let me say that again.
After formal education, it's time to start learning.
What I mean by that is, formal education is basic.
Regardless of if you went to university,
you did a master's, you did PhD, whatever it is,
it is somewhat basic and it is somewhat standardized.
I guarantee you,
there is someone else in this life
who has done the exact same academic route as you.
Same A-levels, same degree, same post-grad, similar modules.
But there is probably someone else out there
with the same academic skillset as you.
And that's because the education system
has been standardized to apply to the masses.
For that reason, formal standardized education
is the pregame lobby.
Once you finish all of that formal standardized stuff,
you're in the real game.
You've had everything to help prepare you,
you've got the basic foundation to the house.
It's time to start adding bricks.
Those bricks are new skills and pieces of knowledge,
bits of experience that you gather over time.
So the lesson here,
is become a subject matter expert in something.
This year I've had the pleasure of working with
many subject matter experts in artificial intelligence
and in cybersecurity.
And you know what?
It has been hella inspirational for me.
Not in the sense that I want to become an AI
or a cybersecurity subject matter expert.
It would be pretty sick, I'm not gonna lie but
moreso to the fact that
you need to become a subject matter expert
in anything.
It could be making content on YouTube,
it could be knowing how to cut grass,
it could literally be anything,
but you need to be able to say that you are an expert
in something.
What's even better than that,
become an expert in multiple things.
That way you have expert power in multiple facets,
multiple domains of your life.
The more you learn,
the more opportunities will become available to you.
The more value you can serve to those around you.
And essentially if this matters for you, the more you learn,
the more you earn it's as simple as that.
But right now it will be a sick time to plug Skillshare,
Udemy, Blinkist any of those man.
But , we ain't got any Brando's on this channel.
So off the formal education,
work towards becoming an expert in something.
If you are not already an expert in something
during your formal education.
If you are, that's pretty freaking amazing.
You're gonna graduate.
And being hella employable
because you are an expert in something.
However, after formal education
work towards becoming a subject matter expert in something,
in anything.
And you are only going through it to deliver more value
to the world then.
Here is a little motivational show on Netflix.
I would encourage you guys to go and watch.
It's called Inside the Mind of Bill Gates.
We all know Bill Gates, one of the richest men in the world.
He is probably a subject matter expert
or at least an expert and has expert knowledge
in multiple things.
Man, the guy eradicated a fricking disease
or polio Keno, wherever he was called man.
The guy is doing bits with his life
and he is an expert in many things,
I guess what, hella valuable, hella rich.
So yeah, check out the three episode series on Netflix
about him.
So motivational and it's gonna inspire you
to wanna learn more after formal education.
Those were four life-changing lessons
I have learned since the age of 16.
I hope this video serves you well.
I hope you can take action
on something you've learned in today's video.
And if you're new here,
join the community KillersOnly.
I'll see you next time.
Peace.