Dating Advice - What Clothing Should A Man Wear For An Evening Date - Men's Style Tips
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I’m Antonio Centeno, the founder of Real Men Real Style and today, I’m going to be
answering a question “What to wear on a date for Friday night?”
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Okay so this is a question that came in.
“Hi, Antonio.
I have a date on Friday night and I cannot decide what to wear.
The restaurant is not too fancy but above the average.
This is our first date.
I thought the sports jacket, black shoes, dark blue shirt and light cream pants combination
as seen in the attached photo would be appropriate but a friend of mine said I should wear a
light colored shirt instead.
And another said I shouldn’t wear the sports jacket.
I’m really confused.
I hope you can help me.
Thank you.”
Okay, so this gentleman, he’s got an important date.
Sounds like someone he’s really wanting to impress and he’s getting conflicting
advice from everyone.
It’s really confusing because this guy, he’s trying to put together a great outfit
yet he’s hearing from one person to go another route then he hears the exact opposite from
this other person and I’m sure he’s probably asked a few other people not knowing if I’m
going to be able to get back to him before Friday.
Well, I am going to be able to get back to you before Friday even though I’m shooting
this on the road but what I want to – maybe I should just start this off with a story,
with a parable and this is one of Aesop’s parables and it’s about the boy, the man
and the donkey.
And the story goes that a boy and a man and a donkey are walking to town.
Somebody passes them and says, “Oh my gosh.
You have a perfectly good donkey, why is this old man making this poor little boy walk?”
So the old man thought about it and he put the boy on the donkey.
Then the next person passing by, they see the young boy riding the donkey with the old
man walking.
They say, “Such a shame.
That old man, he should be on the donkey and the little boy should be leading the donkey.”
So of course, they listened to these people and they switched.
And then somebody else sees this.
“Oh my gosh, why wouldn’t you use the donkey because you’ve got this old man who’s
just making this poor boy lead them.”
And so they thought about it and both, the boy and the old man, got on top of the donkey.
And then they had a next person as you can imagine said, “Wow, look at the way they’re
treating that poor animal.
That is overloading.
It looks like it can barely stand.”
So they thought about this and then the old man and the boy tied the donkey to a stick
and they carried the donkey and as they were carrying the donkey over the bridge, the donkey
got loose somehow and the parable doesn’t have a happy ending because apparently they
all fall to their deaths.
Now I don’t want you to get dressed up this Friday and fall to your death sir but the
point I’m trying to make is you’ve got to understand what you look good in.
You have to understand your personal style because you’re going to hear conflicting
advice from every single person you speak with.
Everyone has their opinions and a lot, as my step dad used to say, “They’re a lot
like…” we’ll just say, “Everyone’s got one.”
Opinions but if you want mine and I have a little bit of experience dressing men.
My first thing is you’ve got to understand what suits you.
You’ve got to understand what your personal style is so look at yourself in the mirror
and realize that if you’re dark complected, you have dark hair and maybe you’re a little
bit overweight, you’re going want to look thinner and leaner and so this jacket is going
to work great.
But you know what?
If you have the body of Adonis, you’re a young man, let’s say you’re light complected,
you may find that a really nice blue dress shirt without the jacket would be perfectly
fine because you’ve got a body which will work with that.
I don’t know your body type but I do know that you apparently need to spend some time
getting to know what best compliments your individual style and go with that.
Also, check with your date.
Find out what she’s wearing and at least let her know that you’re going to be wearing
a jacket.
A woman does not like it when she shows up or when you show up to the door and you out
dress her.
She thinks that it’s going to be okay to wear jeans and a sweatshirt.
She isn’t known necessarily where you’re going.
You’re going to make a bad impression the fact that you didn’t relay this information
to her that she needs to be dressed a bit better.
And another thing you could do, do some reconnaissance.
Go visit the restaurant.
I remember when I was in the dating pool.
I would actually go to the restaurant before and I would look at and see what other people
are wearing.
Now, unless you’re in a major city like New York, you’re not going to probably run
into any restaurants that require a jacket but you can look at the patrons, look at the
people that are entering and get a feel for how they dress.
When I go to Chicago, I hang out with a lot of Bulgarians, Russians, Ukrainians and I
find that they dress really nice when they go out on the weekends so look around.
Find out.
Are you going to a place that they dress a little bit more upscale?
And let your date know, again.
The last thing I’ll hit on is listen but don’t be guided what other people say.
Understand what makes you look good and go with it.
All right, best of luck.
I’ll see you in the next video.
Bye-bye.