Matt: Going for the first kiss usually feels like the man's job and is a crucial
moment in a date and chances are you've screwed it up before I know I have and
it sucks and it can make you feel really deflated but if you avoid these common
mistakes then you'll be leagues ahead of most guys who fumble through this
important moments my name is Matt artisan from the attractive man and
these are five things never to do before you kiss her
number five going for it on a low note instead of a high note if you guys are
talking about the weather or she's talking about her grandma's birthday
last Saturday or some intense painful situation that she had to overcome it's
probably not the best time to go for a kiss
yeah just lost my job and I'm trying to find another one oh yeah it's much
better to do it on a high note in the interaction where you guys are having
fun laughing being playful or during a moment where you create a lot of tension
okay can't really do it to the camera but you get the point
you got to create a little bit of a moment I recommend either a slightly
playful moment or a moment with a lot of sexual tension where she's gonna want to
break the tension by kissing you and I created an entire video on how to create
that type of tension and how to make her wanna kiss you and I'll put a link to
that video down in the description so make sure to check that out number four
is creating that tension or creating that playful moment where it's the
perfect opportunity to go for the kiss and missing out losing that opportunity
and man I've done that so many times in the distant past before I started
working on this part of my life and getting Mentors
we would be talking about kissing and it'd be the perfect opportunity to go
for a kiss or would be watching a movie where they're kissing or there just be a
lot of tension where she'd be giving me really strong eye contact and I'd be
giving it back and then I break the tension by changing the subject when it
would have been much better to kiss her you know you have really nice lips
anyways wanna grab a drink yeah so capitalize on those moments when it
feels like an ideal moment to kiss her don't miss out cuz you'll probably feel
pretty bummed out and she's hoping that you're gonna be the one that will make
the move not her
number three is worrying that you need some special line or like the perfect
situation to kiss her you don't need any magic phrase to go for a kiss you don't
need the most perfect moment now I know that's kind of sounds counterintuitive
based on what I just said but hear me out you do need to do it at
the right time if she's talking about how her family member passed away
recently that's not the right time to go for a kiss but if you're just walking
for example from one venue to another venue and maybe there's a lull in the
conversation you're not talking about anything but you're walking arm-in-arm
you could literally just stop at any moment just say wait hold on I want to
do something and go for a kiss you can create that moment you don't need the
perfect phrase to say you can literally just tell her that you want to kiss her
which brings me into number two which is asking can I kiss you now if you ask it
in the right tonality it's not that bad if you say you know you're pretty cute
I'm actually starting to like you can I kiss you
yeah I still don't like it honestly but when most guys ask for it can I kiss you
no which shows a lack of confidence that you don't believe that she even would
like a guy like you never do that always you're gonna ask a question like that
always say it at least in a confident manner so it doesn't sound so weak and
pathetic like that but better than saying can I kiss you is just tell her I
want to kiss you right now you know I kind of want to kiss you
right now it'll have the same effect in the sense that she'll tell you if it's
okay to kiss her or not she'll either say okay cool or she won't and she'll go
oh no no no no not right now this isn't the right place or oh no no I don't
think of you that way which now at least you know where you
stand now if saying I want to kiss you right now seems to bold I get it man
sometimes you know you get a little nervous on the date I've definitely been
there where I want to go for the kiss but I'm starting to freak out inside say
would you like to kiss me right now in a confident tonality like I just did and
she'll either say yeah sure and go for the kiss or she'll say well I don't know
then say well let's find out and lean in and find out or she'll say no again you
kind of know where you stand at least in that moment but instead of you know
seeming all weird and awkward you just say okay well I didn't say you could it
just looked like you had something on your mind which helps you save face or
she might say not right now and then just say I understand and go for a kiss
later and number one is not going for it at all now sometimes you know you're on
a 20 minute coffee date I get it going for a kiss may not be appropriate but if
you're on a two or three hour long date with her or it's a second or third day
with her and you still haven't kissed her then chances are you're actually
gonna lose her because it just feels too platonic most likely she wants to kiss
you and she's just waiting for you to make the move and she's gonna lose
interest in you if you don't do it because it makes you seem like a weak
man like you're afraid to go for what you want in this case it's her now if
you go for the kiss you lean in and she turns away no big deal do not be
affected by it it's it's nothing it's actually good you showed your interest
and your you know desire for her and maybe she wants to play hard-to-get or
maybe she's just not ready in that moment just don't freak out make her
feel comfortable just say okay that's cool I'll get you later and don't do
what most guys do and say oh what's wrong I thought you liked me or oh I'm
so sorry I'm so sorry it's no big deal in fact nothing is a big deal anytime
she tells you no or she doesn't want to do something with you or turns away from
the kiss or doesn't feel like sleeping with you or what
it's not a big deal because you're a cool confident guy and you're not
affected by little things like that and when she sees that you're a cool calm
guy who's not affected that will actually make her more attracted to you
so the point is don't be afraid to kiss a girl because you're not a hundred
percent sure yet if she's gonna reciprocate and kiss you back or if
she's gonna turn her cheek if you're a few hours into the date or you're on a
second or third date then she likes you you need to kiss her or you very well
might lose her and I tell you this from experience because before I started
working on this part of my life and getting mentors and getting a lot more
dates I wouldn't make the move I almost never would kiss a girl on a first date
or even a second date and they would lose interest and I realized I was
shooting myself in the foot because I wanted to make the move I wanted to kiss
her I was just too afraid to do so and so I missed out on many opportunities
and I don't want the same for you and to help you escalate the right way so that
you don't miss these opportunities and you know fall into the friend zone I
created a free escalation cheat sheet I'll put a link to it down in the
description as well as the end of this video that will help you turn things
into a more romantic vibe and escalate in a way that women find very
comfortable as well as irresistible so check that out man because it's free
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want to kiss you so you know exactly how to make the move in a way that's smooth
and she'll most likely reciprocate and leave me a comment down below letting me
know other ways you might have messed up going for the kiss so that other guys
just like you can avoid the mistake my name is Matt artisan from the
attractive man and I'll see you in the next video