- Do you have a feeling that you're just capable of more?
You have certain goals, you have certain dreams,
and yet you're feeling a little stuck
and you can't quite get yourself to take that step?
In this video, I'm gonna give you three reasons
why you're feeling that way, because I've been there,
and the one thing you can do to finally do to get unstuck.
Intro.
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What's up everybody, welcome to another Unstoppable Sunday.
I'm TK, author of the book
"How To Punch The Sunday Jitters In The Face,"
entrepreneur, and angel investor.
On this channel I bring you a video every single Sunday,
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and every Sunday I'll bring you a video
on how you can become unstoppable in life
and in business through belief and discipline.
So, on one hand you've got these goals,
you've got these dreams.
On the other hand, you're feeling stuck
and you can't quite get yourself to take that next step.
You've watched every single personal development video.
You can quote every single strategy,
every single tactic to me, every single person
that sold you a course,
and yet you still can't get yourself
to actually take that next step.
I've been there, I've been there in my life
where I felt paralyzed and couldn't go after my big goals.
I'm gonna give you the three reasons why
by the end of this video,
and the one thing you can do to get unstuck.
Reason number one you're not actually
taking actions on your goals
is your back isn't against the wall.
This might sound a little counterintuitive,
and this is why I like to do these videos,
because there's so much common advice out there
that's like, "Oh, like, you're mindset's messed up.
"Your belief systems are wrong,
"you're limiting beliefs."
It's like, "Yeah, I got it,"
but you can't do anything about that.
So, I try to bring you tips
that you can actually do something about.
Reason number one that I found in my life
when I wasn't taking action on goals I really cared about,
or dreams that I really wanted to go after,
and yet I was still feeling paralyzed,
my back wasn't against the wall.
I didn't set myself up in a situation
where I had to go do it.
If I put it off another day, if I put it off another week
I would still live, I would still survive,
I would still be okay.
And it wasn't until I put myself into positions
where I'm like, "You know what?
"I'm gonna go to sign up for this.
"I'm gonna go put this money into this,
"and I'm gonna go move into this giant apartment,
"and I'm gonna go make it work, and if I don't do that,
"then I'm going to massively fail,
"and that's not gonna be okay."
And I've always found a way to get my back against a wall.
And look, I didn't come across this
through some sort of luxury.
There were plenty of other times
where my back truly was against the wall.
I wasn't really tough situations
whether my company was failing,
or my relationship was failing,
or any number of things were going wrong,
my back was against the wall, and in those scenarios
I made zero excuses and actually took action.
And why was that?
Because I was like, "No, I refuse to fail!"
So, reason number one is probably because
your back isn't against a wall.
You don't have a really, really good reason
why you're like, "I have to do this."
So you're like, "Ah, it'd be really cool to do that,"
and you keep talking to your friends about it.
Reason number two you're probably putting this off
is you're afraid of past mistakes,
and you're actually afraid of repeating the same mistakes.
Maybe you've tried something like this before,
maybe you tried some other big, risky thing,
and maybe you went after some goal and then you failed.
And guess what?
We all have failures in life.
I've had businesses that didn't work out.
I've had ideas that didn't work out,
but eventually I kept going,
and kept going, and kept going,
and I learn from those mistakes
and I eventually succeeded in my businesses and in my life.
So, you may still not have forgiven yourself.
It took a lot of work for me to learn from my mistakes
and actually forgive myself,
and therefore I wasn't afraid
of actually repeating past mistakes again.
And so, this might be actually applicable to you
if you've had some failures in the past,
and you've actually gone after something
but it didn't work out.
You might actually be afraid
of repeating those mistakes again,
and what you need to do is actually forgive yourself,
learn from your mistakes,
and say "I'm better this time around.
"There's a new version of me, and I'm gonna keep going."
Now, before I go into step three,
let me just pause over here for a second.
If this is resonating, if you can start to see
all these little excuses you've been making in your head,
how you've been putting off your goals
for another week, another day,
you would tell yourself that this is not a priority
when in reality it really is.
This is everything, and maybe you need
to actually put your back against the wall.
Maybe you actually need
to forgive yourself for past mistakes.
Can I just get a "Yes!" in the comments?
Because I wanna hear from you.
I wanna be able to help you more.
I want others to see that we're not alone in this.
And reason number three,
the reason number three that you're probably not
moving on your goals,
you're not actually moving forward on them
is you're too busy pontificating about them.
Pontification is one of my biggest pet peeves.
It's people that go around telling everyone
that you're gonna go do this thing,
telling everyone that you're finally
gonna go after this and specific goal,
telling everyone that you're gonna
actually accomplish this thing,
telling everyone that you're gonna go do this,
can you give me some advice, going and reading the books,
buying the courses, going to the seminars,
and yet, yet it's all pontification.
None of it has to do with actually
going and doing the thing.
And so, you wanna ask yourself,
"Am I doing activities that're gonna
"get me closer to my goal, get me to actually
"validate my goal, get me to actually understand
"how to execute on that goal, or am I just pontificating?"
Because pontification is what kills time.
It makes you feel like you're doing a lot of things,
but then a year passes by and you look back at it
and you say, "You know what,
"I tried really hard and it didn't work."
Well, guess what?
You didn't try very hard,
and you gotta step up and actually go after it.
There's a video I did in the past,
it's called "Dreamers vs. Doers."
It's a big theme in my book as well,
so be sure to check out the video.
I'll link to it.
That video covers some more details about
how to break out of dreaming
and going into actually doing,
which is what this reason number three is all about.
So, just to recap, reason number one,
your back isn't against the wall.
It's not a must for you.
Reason number two is past mistakes are still haunting you.
You haven't forgiven yourself,
you haven't learned from them.
And reason number three
is your spending time on the wrong activities.
You're pontificating instead of actually doing.
One way to actually break out of that
is figure out what is the one metric
you can track every week that gets you closer
to accomplishing your goals
and track that metric every week.
And that way, you're not pontificating,
you're actually measuring yourself
in activities that matter.
So, now you know what the three big reasons are.
I gave you some tips on how you can break free.
But how do you actually do it?
How do you actually decide to make this change?
This is why I created our Unstoppable Life Accelerator.
We just finished up enrollment
for our first batch of students.
I'm so incredibly excited about it,
and one of the big patterns I noticed
is everyone signed up,
almost every single person that's there,
they signed up because they raised their hand
and said, "You know what,
"I actually wanna make movements
"and this is my way of committing,
"and I actually want to learn
"how to take action instead of just pontificating."
So, if you're interested
in actually breaking out of this loop,
one big thing you can do
is sign up for our Unstoppable Life Accelerator.
The link is below, you can sign up,
enrollment will begin soon.
What we do in the Unstoppable Life Accelerator
is we'll help you figure out where you are right now,
we'll help you figure out where you wanna go.
We'll help you define why you have to do it right now.
We'll figure out a way to make sure
your back is against the wall,
and then we'll teach you how to execute on them
through 45 day bespoke challenges.
Be sure to follow the link so you can learn more.
We would love to have you on,
because if you are finally fed up of just pontificating,
and waiting, and not taking action,
the Life Accelerator is for you.
If you found this video helpful,
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They're probably some friends of yours.
So, please be sure to show this video with them as well,
because it would mean a lot to us
and will help a ton of people.
It'll spread our message.
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And remember, everyone needs a strategy for their life,
but when you're with us, yours is gonna be unstoppable.
I'm TK, I'll see you next Sunday.
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