NICOLE: Has anything progressed in the intimacy department?
And I don't mean kissing on the mouth
because we should be all doing that.
Well, you guys should at least be doing that.
No pressure.
CHRIS: I mean, I've seen how you rub his head, just saying.
Yeah.
Is the head a turn on for you now?
This is better for sure.
- It's there. - It is.
It's there. It's nice.
It's smooth.
Are we hitting any new bases?
Not really.
What do you think?
NICOLE: You don't know?
Are you awake?
Like, we have a little bit of connection.
Like, the chemistry's there a little bit.
I think-- I think it's there, honestly.
And I think, you know, for me--
I've definitely been giving Kirsten grace and patience.
But sometimes, they just run thin.
And I don't know if I can move forward in my life
knowing that you know, I put forth
all of the effort you know, to break down my walls,
to be vulnerable, to work on things that I know
I need to work on in our marriage,
and the same energy is not given.
NICOLE: It seems like a sore subject.
CHRIS: Well then, I find like, over communication
is always better than under communication.
You've got to be ready to be vulnerable because this
is a crazy situation.
It's not normal.
KIRSTEN: And that comes to-- all of that
comes with like learning each other and having that time.
Yeah, we're just growing.
And you know--
It's taking some time.
It's been a month, guys. It's--
Yeah.
GINA: Yeah, I think that's what you just have to like, take
a step back and just constantly remind yourself like, how crazy
this is, because it's crazy.
It is.
What I think the common denominator with all of us
is like, grace.
Like, all of us have different areas
that we can consistently be extending
grace and growing through.
So--
Here's to grace and growth right here.
Grace and growth, G and G.
G and G.
Clink, clink, clink, clink.
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(SINGING) With your hand in mine we can do anything.
KIRSTEN: Oh, goodness.
What a night.
[laughing]
Oh, goodness.
I'm glad we can laugh now.
I was a little stressed out at the table.
It just, for me I guess, every time when we get together,
it's like something always hit another level.
Like OK, we talk about these things.
We're working towards, you know, getting to the next level.
And then it's like, boom.
Well, what was it that I said that made you feel like it's
a setback in our marriage?
You now, when you were like, you know, it was like--
they was like, well, how's the intimacy
level or the chemistry level?
You was like, I just feel like it's really little.
I'm like, what in the hell?
I just really want to know like, what Kirsten needs.
Because it seems like every time I'm trying or get to you
know, the next level, it's like when
we get in front of everybody else,
I'm left blindsided because I'm like,
damn, she couldn't tell me this at the house?
Like, she couldn't tell me when we get home later?
She can't tell me how she honestly feel?
So I check in with you sometimes.
And I'm like, Shaquille, how do you feel right now?
Like, you don't-- you have to check in with me too, and say,
Kirsten, how do you feel right now,
if I'm not telling you how I feel when
I ask you how you're feeling.
And that's when it goes back to the communication level.
So you're not gonna know how I feel about an intimacy
level between you and I if you're
not asking me that question.
You just can't come out and tell me?
That's what I'm saying, if I don't come out and tell you,
then you should ask.
You want me--
I ask you how you feel, like, yeah, you should--
Kirsten, I'll always ask you like, you know,
how-- how we doing, you know?
When have you asked me that?
OK.
Let's see.
Kirsten Renee, how do you feel about our marriage right now?
I definitely feel like we need to work on communication.
Like, this is horrible right now.
And I really feel like the intimacy level could be better.
At the beginning, I had to grow
and say like, OK, I can be patient enough
and wait till it happen.
But now, it's like, it's on Kirsten time.
Kirsten want it to happen when she want it to happen.
But at the beginning, you had that guard up.
And you did not want that to happen at all.
You barely wanted me to touch you.
But now that we're there and I'm starting to open up to you
and I'm letting those walls down--
But that's on your time.
KIRSTEN: I know, but--
But you don't-- you don't look at it from my spectrum to say,
OK-- - OK, speak to me.
SHAQUILLE: It seem like in your life
that it's always been on your time of which you want it.
And for me, like, no.
That ain't gonna fly.
It's not all about Kirsten.
It's not.
And I tell you that too.
It's about the both of us.
But this is not gonna help our relationship.
This is not gonna help our marriage grow.
I don't know if I'd want to be with somebody who just
continues to have a guard up with somebody
who actually want to be in this marriage with them.
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