Let's take a few minutes to talk about
the importance of knowing yourself enough
to be your best cheerleader.
You know,
when you thought you were doing what you were supposed to do
and you're misinformed
the times you thought you had it all laid out
and it just didn't work
the times when you burn the midnight oil day after day
and it didn't seem to help.
It didn't seem to change the end result.
I'd like to ask you to
take a look at any place you've got a limitation
and ask yourself,
"When did I decide to accept that limitation?"
The bottom line is
no one coming.
No one
No one's coming to push you.
No one is coming to tell you to turn the TV off.
No one is coming to
tell you to get out the door and exercise.
Nobody's coming to tell you to
apply for that job that you've always dreamt about.
Nobody's coming to write the business plan for you.
It's up to you.
And because you're only ever going to do the things
that you feel like doing right now
or that feel good right now
unless you understand
that you've got to parent yourself
you've got to push yourself.
These are the times
that you have to rely on your own self-encouragement,
take responsibility for the missed opportunity
or the misrepresentation.
Learn from the fact
that even though your client wanted it one way
and you presented it the right way
It didn't work.
Be prepared for the letdowns that happen every so often
know that this last opportunity
just sets you up better for the next one
realize that you can make
the necessary alterations next time,
make the changes that will make the difference.
Study your mistakes and learn from them.
Don't dwell on the mistakes.
Acknowledge them, learn from them,
encourage yourself that you're smarter than
your bank account leads you to believe.
It all comes down to the inner game, my friends.
Changing your life
is a change in the inner game.
The outside world, you can't control,
but you have absolute control over this one,
if you learn the dynamics of what shapes you.
Identity is one of those simple, clear,
fundamental basics that if you start to shift it,
everything else will shift in your life, as well.
Somebody will, by the way,
have to have more than enough money
to do what they want, when they want,
where they want, with whomever they want,
contribute the way they want.
If that's their "must," they find a way.
I know that sounds overly simplistic,
but it's true.
Remind yourself that you're bound to get better.
Don't get down on yourself.
Don't beat yourself up.
It's the next opportunity that matters
not the last one
The next one.
Now the last one matters only in that you must learn from your mistakes,
but the next one gives you the opportunity to show
that you have learned from your mistakes.
You can do it better next time
you just have to practice, practice, practice.
Keep trying, keep trying until,
until what?
Until you've got it down.
If you figured out what went wrong last time,
then you know how to make it right next time.
If you figured out what it was
and your presentation that didn't work,
don't say that next time.
If you figured out that the reason you
didn't close the deal this time was
because you didn't have all the facts
and figures in place,
have all the facts and figures in place next time.
Don't beat yourself for messing up,
pat yourself on the back for figuring it out.
You need to encourage yourself.
You need to pump yourself up.
You need to be your own cheerleader.
Why?
Because you can't wait and hope
that someone else will come along and cheer you up,
make you feel better,
tell you that you'll do better next time.
You have to rely on yourself.