Hey, this is Tripp from Tripp Advice.com.
And what we’re going to be going over today is the idea of first dates.
First dates are actually really important.
They’re really important because if you want to get to know a girl, if you are curious
whether or not you should continue dating this girl, that’s what a first date is all
about.
To get to know her, for her to get to know you, then you guys can figure out, is this
person cool enough to see again?
What we’re going to be going over is some things you can say.
I’m going to be giving you the first part of some quotes of actual things you can say
on a first date.
The second part is going to be up to you to fill in the rest.
You’ll see what I’m talking about in just a minute.
We’ll go over some things of what to say on a first date.
Before I get into that, I want you to understand what you should be looking for on the first
date.
I’ll be giving you things that you should say but you should also be listening to her
and figuring out what is it about her that you like and figuring out if this is a girl
you are interested in.
Is she good enough for you?
The best way to do that is one word.
That word is “values”.
As much as I’ve learned about my own relationships and studied relationships and read books on
relationships, one thing comes up over and over again.
It’s the idea of values.
You two need to share the same values.
If you don’t share the same values with a girl and she doesn’t share the same values
with you, the relationship or the potential relationship that you might get in is probably
to be doomed.
You need to make sure that you guys have the same set of values.
What are some examples of these values?
A few examples might be learning, responsibility, balance, adventure.
The things that are important to you about life and how you see life.
That’s what is going to be one of the biggest things in terms of understanding if this girl
is on the same level as you.
I want you to make sure that when you’re talking to a girl and you’re getting to
know her, you’re asking her questions, and she’s telling you stories and she’s telling
you about herself, then you are looking for some of these similar values.
I would say to you as a bit of a homework assignment.
Write down a list of your 5 most important values.
To find those, it’s very simple.
Google “list of values” and you’ll get a whole list.
I’ll make it easy for you.
I’ll put a link down below the description.
I’ll find that link so you’ll get a list of values.
You can figure out what’s important to you.
Find out what that is cause then you’ll make sure that this is a girl worth seeing.
The first one is “Have you ever…?”
This is you getting to know her.
Very simple.
“Have you ever…?”
Have you ever gone skydiving?
Have you ever traveled to Africa?
Have you ever…fill in the blank.
When you’re on a date, you can ask her if she’s ever done anything.
Here’s the best part about it, it doesn’t have to be something that you’ve done.
It can also be something that you’re interested in finding about her.
Here’s the next one: “I have to tell you about this one time.”
Here’s your opportunity to tell a story.
To share something with her about your life, about your past and your history.
I want you to think about, what are some cool stories, what are some cool parts of your
life that you enjoy sharing with someone that get you excited to talk about.
I really like that line too because it offers up some excitement on your end which I really
like.
I want you to be excited about the things that are going on in your life.
When you’re excited about it, that’s going to get her excited.
Think about the one time you did whatever and share it with a girl on a date.
Here’s another great one that I really like and it’s good for you to use because it’s
going to offer up some information about yourself while at the same time she reciprocates and
give you information about herself.
Here’s the line: say “You know what I love?”
This is up to you again to fill in the blank.
What do you love?
What do you like?”
You can even say dislike.
Something that you hate, something that you don’t enjoy.
Say it to her.
This is offering you a chance to be more vulnerable with a girl and getting her to know you on
a more deeper level.
That’s what dates are all about.
Getting to know each other.
I want you to say that.
You know what I love?
And go ahead and fill in the blank.
Here’s another one and I’m glad you stuck around because, like I always do, I give you
the best stuff for last.
Here it is.
When you guys are on a good date and you’re talking to her and going back to the first
thing I said about values, you find out that you guys do share similar values that she
is a cool chick and you know what?
You can say this line, “Here’s what we need to do…”
And then, again fill in the blank.
And this is going to be you asking her on a second date.
I want you to seal the second date on the first date.
When you guys are having a good time and you’re getting drinks.
You’re walking around, you’re getting dinner, whatever you guys are doing, towards
the end of that first date you’re going to say “You know what, here’s what we
need to do…”
And then after that you’re going to tell her “We need to…” hang out again, we
need to go do x, y and z.
Maybe you guys figured out something you both like.
Then you say to her “We need to do this.
Here’s what we need to do.”
I like that line because it’s so dominant and women are attracted to that.
Telling them, here’s the plan, here’s the situation, here’s what we’re doing.
I want you to use that if the date goes well.
Here’s what I want you to do.
Down below in the comments, I want you to write and tell me what your favorite one was.
Go ahead and do that right now.
Write down below which one you liked the best and try to fill in the blank.
This is like a practice assignment for you.
Write down below which one you like and fill in that second part so you have an idea of
what to tell a girl the next time you’re on a first date with her.
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Go do that right now.
I’ll see you on the next video.