TERRI: Today, I'm going to share with you how to connect with
anyone. You know, making a connection is
vital to achieving your dreams and goals.
It's critical to help you succeed in life.
TERRI: Hey, I'm Terri Savelle Foy your cheerleader of
dreams. You know, anytime someone asks me how I went from
living paycheck to paycheck, in debt, out of shape, no dreams
and goals for my life at all to do and what I'm doing today, I
always say just one word, routine. The secret of your
future is hidden in your daily routine. Well, one of the
biggest changes I made to my daily routine was the listening
to inspirational messages that just pointed my life in the
right direction. So I want to ask you to subscribe to this
podcast by pushing the little red arrow, so you start a
routine of consistent inspiration and coaching to help
you live your dreams. So today I'm going to share with you how
to connect with anyone. You know, making a connection is
vital to achieving your dreams and goals. It's critical to help
you succeed in life. You know whether you're in sales, you're
a public speaker, you have a dream for your life, but you
don't know how to get started, you have to learn how to connect
better with people. In fact, before I finish today, I'm going
to give you a free download that includes this checklist of five
ways to just connect better. I think you're going to be
surprised, but excited to start practicing these steps in your
life. This will help you tremendously in life and in
business. You know John Maxwell, I think he said it best. He
said, "Everyone communicates, but few connect." While Jesus
was the great connector. Well, the number one way we connect
with people is with story. You know, when you share your story
of your struggles, your challenges, your downfalls, your
vulnerabilities, the trying times in your life when you just
wanted to quit, that's what causes people to connect with
you. You know, as a speaker, whether you're a teacher, you're
in sales, you're a minister. Here's a good rule to remember,
never tell a story without a point and never make a point
without a story. See the human brain just lights up when it
hears stories. So if you're in public speaking of any kind,
you've got to include stories that's just going to cause
people to connect with you. The second way I'll tell you is if
you're in sales, do you know the best way you connect is with
story also? In fact, I was watching this fascinating
podcast on YouTube by a guy named David JP Phillips and it
was all about a research he did involving the power of story to
boost sales and impact people. And this is shocking. Listen to
this. 2009, a journalist named Rob Walker, he wanted to find
out, you know, if storytelling really is the most powerful tool
of all. Well, in order to do this, he went online, and he
bought 200 objects on Ebay. Now the average price per object was
about $1 or less. So what he did was he called 200 authors, and
he asked them if they want to be a part of this significant
object study and write a story about the object. Well 200
authors said yes, so we got 200 objects with 200 stories. Went
on Ebay with the experiment, what do you think happened? One
object, I'll just tell you cause I can't really hear your
thoughts, but one object that was a horse head, it was just
this plastic little horse that he bought for 99 cents. He sold
this with a story attached to it for $62 and 95 cents. Shocking.
So he thought, is this just like a freak occurrence? Well all 200
items that he put on there, he bought those for a total of
$129. With a story attached to every single item he sold them
for $8,000, what am I saying? Stories connect with our heart.
Stories are what cause people to just instantly grab a hold of
what you're saying and connect with you. So the third way with
your products, your business, you know, not just like plastic
horses but with your business. In fact, I was listening to this
guy, and he was talking about how he was helping people with
their businesses, and he had this chiropractor who was trying
to sell based on the spine and all these medical terms, and it
was just, the lingo was just like exhausting. So the
consultant asked him, he said, "Why did you become a
chiropractor?" Well, the chiropractor went on and told
him, he said, "You know, well first of all, I was in dental
school," and I don't think he held up a giant toothbrush. But
he said, "I was in school to become a dentist. And then I got
married," and he said, "My wife got in this tragic car accident,
hurt her back so bad." He said, "She was in severe pain. She
went to all these doctors and nothing helped." Finally he
said, "She went to a chiropractor and he got her out
of pain." He said, "When I saw my wife go from pain to no pain
with what he did," he said, "That's when I thought, that's
what I want to do with the rest of my life." So he said, "I
switched majors from being a dentist to being a
chiropractor." And he said, "I want to help people get out of
pain just like that chiropractor helped my wife." He said, "It
changed the quality of her life." The consultant who was
listening to this, he said, "Dude, that's your story." So he
said, he got a camera, he told the story on camera, put it on
thier website, put it in their brochures, put it everywhere
they could find a place. People started emotionally
connecting with him as a Chiropractor. He
is now the most successful one in his entire city
by far, why? Stories are what connect you with people, not
just talking about the spine, talking about the vertebrae,
it's the story that causes people to connect. You know,
some of you may remember Beanie Babies. Do you remember these?
Toy maker Ty Warner, he had a lifetime of failed
business ideas. Finally he said he emptied his
savings account, mortgaged to his home, convinced
he had an idea worth betting on. He decided to take
just an average stuffed animal, add a little name and a
birthdate. Now y'all are going to think this is funny. This one
just happens to be named Rodney like my husband and the birthday
is April 4th, like my husband. I thought that was cute. But
anyway, he took just a stuffed animal, put a name and a
birthday and a story. Like he, you know, there was one that was
a lobster named Pinchers, born June 19th, 1993 and it would
just say little things like this lobster loves to pinch. He needs
food inch by inch, balancing carefully with his tail moving
forward, slow as a snail. It was cute little things like that.
Well, his idea flew off the shelves. Kids didn't want just
one beanie baby, they wanted every single one of them. You
may remember and you may have purchased them. Well, at their
peak Beanie Babies pulled in over $700 million in one year.
Again, we feel connected to something when we hear a story.
A story changes everything. So, for you personally, your
vulnerabilities. your mistakes, your failures, that's
what causes people to connect with you. Well, in fact,
I wanna help you connect better and this could mean
Connecting with the right people, your customers, your
audience, connecting on camera, through resources in sales.
Maybe you're in multilevel marketing, connecting with
mentors. You have to be able to connect with people in order to
fulfill your assignment and live your dreams. But first, let me
just recognize our YouTube subscriber this week. This week
is Pat Doar. Pat Doar, well, that's a cute name. I don't
know, is Doar the last name? That's really cute...
Maybe that's just a handle? I don't know. But this is what Pat
says, "Terri, you're so encouraging," thank you Pat
Doar, "Because of your life coaching videos I have a new
zest for life with hopes for a new future. Thanks a million!"
That blesses my heart. For you to have a zest for life, because
passion, potential, purpose, that all goes hand-in-hand. So
for you to get your zest back, that just means God is preparing
you for something greater than you can imagine. So, thank you
Pat Doar for taking time to write, and I want to help you
with this, this week, like I said, I'm giving you a
three-part series on the Leadership Connection Method.
Now, I've broken this down in tree different E-mails that you
will get over the course of the next few days. In order to live
your dreams and fulfill your assignment there is one thing
you must master and that's connecting. So, I want you to
just click the link in the description or go to
Terri.com/connection to enroll in my free three-part series on
the leadership connection method. And remember, for more
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your best year yet. Thanks for watching
and remember, I'm cheering you on.
TERRI: It's not a matter of doing what I do. He said, "The
question is do you want to do what I did so you can do what I
do?" See, you can't have a million dollar dream with
minimum wage habits. You change your routine, you change your
whole life. I told you, I'm telling you from experience,
you're gonna go from uncomfortable to
unstoppable. Five, four, three, two, one!