let's get into one of the biggest
stories of the week as Ross McLellan
said is that okay to just be kind on
social media from now on after the death
of Caroline Flack hashtag be kind now
the former love Island host Caroline
Flack sadly died last week and genuinely
our thoughts with anyone affected by
this whether you knew her or not if
you're struggling or you need a hand
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if you need but in the aftermath of
Caroline Kate's death this meme was
shared that she herself posted in
December in a world where you can be
anything be kind now there was a lot
going on in her life but over the past
few days both the press and social media
have blamed each other for what happened
and I don't know what the answer is but
that phrase be kind just felt really
really positive and might be the key
because look we could say tonight things
like don't sensationalize people's lives
don't harass people on Twitter or we
could just say be kind because you might
not always realize when you're being a
dick but you certainly know when you're
being kind and so let's start with all
of the ways that that can happen let's
start with social media
there are ways in which we can make
social media better and there were ways
that we can deal with it better and for
me something happened a couple of years
ago after the last league that made me
kind of re-evaluate the way I do with
Twitter so I was out for the last leg
one night it was Friday no I got home at
about 2:00 in the morning I was having a
look on Twitter yeah there was one naki
comment one it was one that still down
for some reason I remember this it was
like 2:00 in the morning and I just
thought all right
so I tweeted the person back and said
how sad is your life that it's 2:00 in
the morning and you're tweeting the guy
you just saw on television and put my
phone a little pretty proud of that and
then about 30 seconds later he tweeted
back saying how sad is your life you've
just been on TV and you're tweeting me
at 2:00 in the morning yeah that's a
really good point
there's never engaged again and it just
kind of put it into perspective oh yeah
I think that's the thing and the most
annoying thing I find about that is
often I text you and you don't reply I
need to be more aggro if the most
annoying thing about that is it just
makes me realize how much I wish I could
tweet with two thumbs like you do that
again tweet people back because it takes
me a week I mean what do you want you're
away from dealing with so deal with
Twitter yeah about a year ago I deleted
the Twitter app I don't look but I don't
read my mentions yeah I I send out I I
send out tweets but I don't read what
people say so if I have done a typo I
don't know but like what I just found
was I found that I spent lots of time on
Twitter I've never finished looking at
Twitter happier than when I've started
looking at Twitter and I thought like
and it's not because of abuse or
anything it's like even just refreshing
what people are saying about you and
this is a healthy way you know trying to
perceive yourself and then I had to do a
gig and then I'd come off and I'd look
at tweets about the gig and I was in the
room I knew how it went I knew if it
went well or badly yeah and so I've got
rid of Twitter and I used that time on
Instagram Alex what's your solution well
for me it went downhill for me today
when I spent all day
refreshing Twitter just to see when a
third sign Gonzalo higuaín and by the
end of it they decide the is a no-go
yeah now to Google who that was there is
a great stuff on the internet but like
gambling it is important to know when to
walk away in fact a lot of internet and
a lot of social media are actually
designed to stimulate your brain the way
gambling does you know the way you pull
down to refresh it's designed to look
like the slot machines yeah you know
when you pull down a slot machine and it
goes like that in fact this is a genuine
sign that if you if you have you ever
thought your phone has vibrated and then
you've checked it and it's not yeah that
is a sign that you are addicted to
checking your phone too because your
brain actually wants it to happen there
are other signs as well if you just
spent more time taking photos of your
food than eating it walk away
more attention to your ex on Facebook
than when you were actually together it
is time to walk away and of course it's
not just social media that was playing
this week the mainstream press took
their fair share of the criticism as
well and look we can't change what we
print but we can change
what we read especially online the
easiest tip avoid clickbait and if you
don't know what that is anything that
has the phrase you won't believe what
happened next as in the headline is
clickbait or this thing has got
everybody talking if you have to click
on a story to work out what the story is
that's clickbait the Daily Mail is the
most popular news website in the UK and
if we stop visiting they'll have to
change now for me the biggest thing to
come out of this week is the need for
better mental health we've been talking
about all week how do we support people
who are struggling every company has a
first-aid person but some have a mental
health first aid person and I think
someone who's trained to recognize when
a co-worker needs help and more
importantly knows what to do I mean the
more programs like that the better for
everyone so how do we make mental health
more attractive to everyone I've got a
suggestion yeah I used to play mixed
netball
I've got a question yeah by mixed
netball do you mean men and women or
able-bodied and disabled it was men and
women okay cool next I'm actually
interested in find out next week you're
the captain of the Australian Ultimate
Frisbee team when you find that netball
there's this phrase that you'd shout out
to your teammate to let them know you
were open if they needed to pass to you
and it's just here if you need so every
Saturday across Australia on netball
courts you'll just hear here if you need
Sharon here here if you need here if you
know did you have to put on the accent
as well if you need a look at something
we use in rugby league too it basically
means you look like you're doing okay
but I'm here if you need me at any point
and look I think that would be a great
mental health slogan here if you need if
any charity wants to adopt that is just
like and feel free to take it on but the
original question is that okay to be
kind on social media yes it absolutely
is and it's not just okay it's important
look when it comes to social media what
are your best ways of dealing with it Oh
hiding in a cave until people stop doing
it I find the whole thing
terrifying yeah and I think it's helped
is it put you in a better place by not
being in it yeah
oh I don't there's no
group because I'm not on it so I don't
know I assume so I mean I'm ecstatic so
John I am yes I regularly tweet Josh and
ask him questions so it's good to know
why he's been ignoring me but we live
next door so we should talk about it
yeah I use it I on a tour I stalk my
audience so if people tweet me before a
gig I'll go through the last two or
three years of their tweets and then
I'll do five minutes on the fact their
dogs got diarrhea
they've got their trainers yes an
invaluable resource
your audiences are so small you can
do that
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imogen how do you feel about social
media oh I feel a bit mixed about it
honest I mean I have one but I mainly
follow sort of obscure animals you know
so Josh listen it's it's a great
platform for some really main it proved
it it basically allows crucial voices
and to be heard in a mainstream way and
that's great yeah but it's also the
devil
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