should you even care about self-actualization well let's find out
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it's supposed to be the most important concept in self-help and personal
development but what is it really well by the end of this video you'll
know and you'll know whether or not it's worth pursuing I've chased this concept
for years until I found a satisfying answer and that's what I'm going to
share with you today in this video and make sure you stay to the end of this
video because I'm going to share with you how you can take this even deeper
with some free training but before I get into this I would like to hear from you
do you think self actualization is even possible let me know in the comments
below just type in yes or no according to Abraham Maslow the man who championed
the idea of self-actualization self actualization is the full realization of
your potential and your true self sound vague enough well in this video I'm not
going to really go into how to do this first I want to tell you more about what
it is but in my next video if you decide that this is something you want to
pursue you'll want to see that next video which will be linked to the card
on one of these corners here and you can do that but right now we're going to
discuss what is it so that you can know whether or not you want to pursue it the
best way I can describe what self actualization is and what it isn't is by
using some analogies for example have you ever worked a job that you really
didn't like maybe your co-workers were sort of okay with it or maybe some even
really enjoyed the job but you just couldn't get into it it didn't
matter how much you tried to enjoy it it just wasn't working for you or when you
were in school maybe there were subjects that you were studying and there were
there were maybe one subject or maybe more maybe two or three that you just
really took to that you just did really well and you didn't care so much about
getting a great grade but you always got a great grade because you just and you
just loved the topic and it was easy to remember easy to understand and overall
it just you just fit with you really well but of course then there was other
subjects that you just didn't do well at you didn't take to it you didn't enjoy
it it wasn't interesting to you and consequently you often made bad grades
and then one more example would be when you were hanging out with friends and
all your friends liked doing something a certain activity for me it was
basketball never likes basketball all my friends loved basketball and I just did
not it just didn't fit with me but there were a lot of other types of sports and
activities that I enjoyed that just didn't fit with them so these examples
of when you did something well it just came naturally to it to you you were
interested in it this is a lot like self actualization and unfortunately most of
us don't explore this enough by the time were adults and by the time we're adults
we're under pressure to get into a career and because we haven't had much
time to explore what it is we really want to do we often choose which career
we pursue based on how lucrative it is how much money we can make from it so
that we can have the comforts possibly even the luxuries that we want to
acquire and we don't really explored enough to find out what really suits us
so we go in pursuit of a career we spend time training in it maybe we go to
college maybe we go through some other type of training and suddenly we find
ourselves in a career that is taking up a lot of our time taking up most of our
waking hours and taking up most of our energy only to find that we don't really
enjoy it that much and a lot of our potential just gets pushed to the side
now if lucky and we still have energy and we
still have time after work then we can find hobbies and we can find ways to
express our potential and possibly even self actualized through the expression
of this potential but it's kind of pushed to the side it's it's something
that you can only do after you do all the work that you don't really enjoy
doing and we often just think that that's okay and we we settle into this
we accept it and we just settle for a life that is not as meaningful not as
purposeful and that is fulfilling and satisfying as it could be if you had
found that thing that calling that purpose whatever gives your life meaning
and you could do that most of your waking hours
is it worth starting all over again that might mean starting a completely new
career or it could in other ways mean starting your life all over again both
your career maybe even relationships maybe even where you're living your
location is it worth all that to self-actualize that is really an
individual question that only you can answer for yourself but it looks
something more like this or the comforts the comfort of living a more predictable
life a life where you may have a more secure income which then affords you
certain comforts and luxuries and predictability or are you willing to be
a little more uncomfortable when it comes to the external conference
luxuries whatever those may be are you willing to take that chance and maybe
not make as much money in order to live a more fulfilling and satisfying life
now it's not necessarily an either/or question but if you're willing to take
the second part the the less comfortable less luxurious life less money to live a
more satisfying and fulfilling life and my experience you end up making you
become more successful if you put some attention on that with money you
actually make more money that way but not always but if the answer to that
question if we narrow it down to an either/or do you want the
the comfort the predictability plus the job that you really don't care for maybe
it's okay but it's not really fulfilling you and satisfying you versus living it
more satisfying more fulfilling life with a little bit less predictability a
little more volatility if you choose the second one then I would say that you
definitely are more interested in self-actualization rather than comfort
and luxury and predictability about five years ago I came face to face with
exactly that choice things in my life had boiled over and had come to a
breaking point where I was so uncomfortable with the familiar life
that I had created for myself but it really wasn't the life that I wanted I
was creating creating it based on external values an external validation
rather than looking deeply into myself and asking myself what was it that I
really wanted to do and I had to make some really uncomfortable decisions
because I chose to drop it all not just my career I pretty much took a complete
overhaul of my life and as an uncomfortable as it was making that
decision I knew it was the right one for me
and when I did it not only has it been the best choices I've made in my life so
far I actually became a lot more financially successful now that's been
my experience I won't necessarily say that that's going to be your experience
but I found that to be the case for me and a lot of other people and at the
very least if you are not as financially successful when if you choose to go the
path of self-actualization at least you will be a lot happier and a lot more
fulfilled and satisfied with your life now you can probably hear my bias coming
through and I admit I am a bit biased when it comes to this but again you want
to explore this for yourself make sure you understand the risks that are
involved and see what works out best for you do you go with your heart or do you
go with comfort and familiarity and that brings me to my question to you what do
you choose I would really be interested in knowing so in the comments below let
me know what would you choose if you haven't had to make this decision yet
but for some of you you might find that you're creeping up on this decision
you're not quite satisfied with your life you're not quite fulfilled with the
way things are going and it's not getting any better it's
just building and building and you feel like you're soon going to have to make a
decision if you're willing to share that please do in the comments below and some
of you may have already made this choice you may have confronted it can't come
face to face with it tell me about it and when you comment below I will
respond to you so let me know where you ad where so let me so let me know where
you're at in your life I'm very curious to know now you know what
self-actualization is but what you don't know is how to elicit your deepest
highest values that are mostly unconscious for most of us when you do
elicit these values it will be basically your guide to discovering what is your
true potential and how to go about actualizing it and that's why I created
this four-part video series where I walk you through that value solicitation and
more and I also share with you a little bit about a little bit more about my
story and what I had to go through and you will find the link to those videos
right down here in the description also in the comments below when you click the
link you will get immediate access to the first video of the four-part video
series and then you'll get a video one day after that until you have all four
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