[ __ ] you my child is completely fine
i feel so called out right now
we need to find a new name for adhd why turns out they don't actually have a deficit in
attention they just can't regulate it that explains the hyper focus seems to be more of
a regulation issue like with their sleep it's either too much or too little everything they
do is kind of just all or nothing and they're only either under stimulated or overstimulated
they lack dopamine so what about dopamine attention variability executive dysfunction
dave dave love it write it down
[ __ ] you my child is completely fine
sorry yeah uh sorry my adhd is terrible today i didn't even know you had that you seem fine yeah
i've been masking what do you mean masking covid's over no no it's masking it's a thing that people
with mental health issues and adhd do to hide their symptoms we've been taught from a young
age that most of them are socially unacceptable and we want to fit in you should just be
yourself
dude what the [ __ ]
hey you have adhd right yeah i do
could you try to describe what that's like i'm curious yeah uh basically it's like imagine you
have 1000 screaming angry people inside of your brain at all times and they all speak different
languages and they're trying to tell each other the world's about to end what yeah that's
me deciding what i'm going to eat for lunch well like is there anything else i'm extremely good
at stalling like i i can't not stall like i have to it's physically impossible for me to not stall
maybe you could like set a reminder on your phone i will see that reminder think in my head probably
should go do the thing and then just not do it i just i i can't i cannot do it okay well is that it
no also my brain just does dumb things sometimes like what i got off the phone with my grandpa
and then put the phone away in the freezer i meant to hang it up and i put it in the freezer
why why well i wanted something from the freezer and the phone was in my hand so i kind of like
traded are you sure you're just not dumb that could also be the case my baby you my little
for those of you who have adhd or you're living with adhd here's a really quick and easy tip
everything in your house needs to be as easy to put away as it is for it to be left
out so that includes clothing in our house we use a lot of open bins things that don't have
lids so you can just toss it in you can make it super neat if you want but if you're like
me or most people in my house who have adhd you can just toss it in and then it's done
follow me for more quick and easy tips on how to declutter or organize your life
so that everything is amazing sunshine flowers all that [ __ ]
now i know you're not being mean to
yourself right this is for all my overthinkers out there that be thinking that they're hella annoying
you're not nearly as annoying as you think you are you so mean to yourself like where'd
you learn this from that's learned behavior which means you can unlearn it you're
a unique person with a fascinating point of view and i love you like what
it was never a phase it was a chemical imbalance i needed medication
something i think is really fun is that
when i was younger you know like a year ago i used to be really careful about what i posted
on social media i'd have a picture i'd want to post it but i wouldn't because in it i would be
drinking something maybe juice but it would be in a red solo cup and i'd be like oh god forbid
a future employer sees this and thinks that i'm drinking alcohol anyway now i'm on tiktok and
i'm just like i'm doing poorly my mental health is deteriorating i definitely shouldn't be driving
so baby i should just shut the [ __ ] up
i'm bored i don't wanna do that
i'm finally gonna answer the number one question i get asked in the
comments which is i think i might have adhd how do i get diagnosed and treated trust me i know
it can get really overwhelming and difficult to even know where to start so here is my ultimate
cheat sheet to what mental health providers do what i want someone to help me get diagnosed
i want someone to help me get medication
i want someone to help me work through emotional and mental health challenges
and if you have a hard time making appointments there's a service called adhd online where you
can complete an assessment from your home within a few days a licensed psychologist
will reach out and either confirm or exclude a diagnosis you can also get connected with one
of their board certified physicians to help you come up with a customized treatment plan
or you can take the results to your local doctor visit the link in my bio to check it out
let's talk about the adhd grief cycle real quick you see i thought when i got my adhd diagnosis
that would be it i have clarity now that's the end of the chapter right nope instead my brain wanted
to reread the whole damn book and that made me sad someone told me that when you get a diagnosis
for something like adhd that you go through a period of grief but what are you mourning
after my diagnosis i found myself in my head reliving a lot of memories now all of these
memories would slightly problematic ones be that school work or past relationships and in
every single one i could tell the real problem was i had undiagnosed adhd and i've been feeling
sad as [ __ ] because i wish i could just go back and say hey you've got adhd and solve all those
problems but i can't so i just wanted to say it's completely normal if you are feeling that
and no you're not alone in this it's just a process that you have to go through bye now listen
do you know how hard it is to be into someone when you're neurodivergent i don't know if this is an
adhd and autism thing or both but like do you know the struggle can you relate because one you're
probably hyper fixated on this person two before you started masking or if you don't mask you have
no idea how to like get them to notice you like find some of these that interested in you or if
they're interested back like i have no idea what that looks like and then when you start masking
and you start analyzing people and you realize that people are predictable because they adhere
to certain patterns of behavior you can become the exact person they're looking for and i'm like
terrified that i'm just manipulating everyone around me because i can be the person that you
want but that's not me so they don't actually like me so now i don't know and i'm just like
you're not listening to anything are you what's up what song are you listening to
oh i paused it like three hours ago i haven't remembered to press play again
i'm not gonna press play are you nah man i was enjoying the song i made up in my head anyway
adhd true false people of adhd are just looking for an excuse to be lazy
false excuses to be lazy aren't covered on the americans with disabilities act
correct you can develop adhd as an adult false people's symptoms may worsen as they become
adults but they can't just develop it all of a sudden correct having adhd is a gift well
that's true for me but some people might not feel that way and that's okay their feelings are valid
and you can't have adhd if your grades are good false adhd affects people in different ways
i don't think people understand masking is not the customary social performances everyone puts on in
order to survive it is not making minor tweaks to your personality it is fundamentally altering it
it is learning against your will to hide your entire being every behavior that feels good
and natural to you it is having to be hyper aware of your every motion from the way you swing your
arms when you walk the way you move your mouth it is having to constantly microanalyze your own
behavior due to years of abuse and neglect due to something entirely out of your own control
and above all else it is all these things it is doing all these things and still not being enough
throwing yourself away and still being abandoned and for so many it symbolizes such a slow
painful loss of identity that i can't stand when people dismiss it as something that
everybody does because for many it is so much more than that
so are y'all ever scrolling through
tiktok and you see a video that's like super awesome super fire content you want to check
out some of the information that was passed along in the video like on the internet so you can learn
more about it so you finish watching the video you open up your browser you start to go ask or search
for the thing that you're interested in that was just in the video you were just watching it was
only a minute long and you just can't remember what it was that you were gonna look up so you
go back to tick tock accidentally hit the home button and then that video is just gone forever
if you haven't double tapped that you will never find it again i've done this way too many times my
adhd brain does not allow me to retain the thing that i was interested in because i was interested
in the whole video and i can't remember the thing i wanted to look up and if i'm lucky then i have
to go through this whole mental thought process where i like walk back through everything that
i've thought about for the past 10 minutes to try to get back to the thing that i thought about when
i wanted to open up the browser to look up the content to originally get back to that
adhd is exhausting
memory over confidence issues with adhd
me literally anytime i try to make anything
so after i was diagnosed with adhd uh it really started to click and when i say click
i could literally point to things in my house and say oh yeah
definitely adhd so follow along i'm going to show you this is my business partner's desk uh
in my basement and right next to it is my desk doom piles everywhere everywhere everywhere
everywhere everywhere a mountain of unfinished projects
a whole room that i never use a calendar that i bought to get myself organized it's may
now this is still in january
so i need adhd everything to weigh in on this one you rang
i feel like adhd of the emotions is a thing okay first of all adhd of emotions chefs kiss beautiful
yeah that's pretty accurate for the majority of people with adhd we have problems regulating
our emotions so going from raging angry to sobbing crying at the drop of a hat
not unheard of why do we do this well for most of us we have an underdeveloped prefrontal cortex and
that's where your emotions are managed so not only can we jump from one to the next lightning
quick but we also tend to feel them a hell of a lot more intensely you ever notice that when
you're really mad we're talking like thunder of odin's scorched earth pissed as opposed to just a
little perturbed or heartbreaking end of the world sobbing as opposed to just a little upset or just
won the lottery best day on earth happy as opposed to feeling content yeah those can all happen and
it's all thanks to that fun little nugget between our ears and i hope that answered your question
stimming can be described as small repetitive sensory-based activities that
soothe or stimulate the senses examples might include sensations like tearing a perforation
popping bubble wrap or rolling something between your fingers it can also be stimulating to any
of your other senses like sounds or colors or even smells it can lead to an addiction
to something not normally addictive and or self-mutilation most commonly nail biting
please note that this does not include intentional self-harm as a coping mechanism to feel pain
an example of stimming might be running your fingernail over your cheek repeatedly because
you like the way it feels but you catch and stop yourself in professional settings
because it's not appropriate
explaining a dopamine deficiency is one of the hardest things honestly
to do because there's a million ways to make you uncomfortable hearing it so let's do another one
and try something a little bit different than most people i had a conversation with someone recently
which is the one of the weirder conversations i ever had but it made so much sense i gotta tell
you about it you're a vampire and the only difference between vampires and us is that
instead of bloodlust we have dopamine lust so what happens to a vampire when they have blood inside
of their bodies they're able to be concentrated they're able to use their superhuman abilities to
help them thrive through life they are incredible they're collected and they know how to use their
brains what happens when a vampire does not have blood inside of them they become shaky they need
it they crave it they don't care who they have to kill they need that blood inside of them or
they're going to die themselves it's all they could think about it's all they want and what
ends up happening is when they are blood deficient they are not the superhuman that they can be
understand your brain understand your deficiencies and understand that we can do something about it
let's do it
here's the deal i need you to stop harassing me i got what you want drugs come to my
house tomorrow for your free sample i'm a dealer and a good one i got the best [ __ ] in town