- There is nothing, and I mean nothing less hot
than a bunch of desperate girls at the bar.
Hey, look at those hot guys over there.
Oh yeah, I would take a bite of that ass. (growls)
I think I love his penis,
and I haven't even seen it yet.
Yo, dude, check out these girls.
They're checking us out.
What are they doing, dude? (groans)
Come over here, boys.
No, no, no, no, no, nothing about any of that is hot,
and you might think that's exaggeration,
but I'm telling you I've seen some (bleep).
So right now in this video,
I'm gonna be talking about four desperate girl signals
that immediately turn men off, and you know what?
You may not think that you're doing these things,
but watch this whole video,
because I guarantee you're guilty of one of 'em.
Keep watching.
(lively music)
Hey there, Adam Lodolce from SexyConfidence.com
where I help you create your love story,
and this video is all about the signals that we emit
when we are going out that may read that we
are just a little bit too desperate.
And I should say that these signals
are certainly not just women being desperate
when they are going out at night.
Men are definitely guilty of these as well.
However, of course, this channel and Sexy Confidence
is for you sexy, single ladies
to learn how to confidently find love.
So once you understand these signals
that you may be pushing out there to the universe,
maybe you can actually reel it back in a little bit.
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So let's jump into those desperate girl signals.
Signal number one is staring all night
at the person you want to talk to.
Look, there is a big difference between glancing at someone
and maybe doing a little bit of a smirk,
and then going back the conversation.
Just enough green light, so that person knows
that you're interested.
There's a big difference between that
and just straight up staring at someone all night long.
And look, in all seriousness,
when you're going out at night,
yeah, of course, give those glances, give those smiles,
but don't just focus all of your energy on that one guy,
because he's going to feel that energy,
and it's going to feel a little bit desperate.
So spread the energy and be the most social person
when you're going out at night.
And who knows, that guy that you've been staring
at all night, he might completely suck.
I mean, he might kick kittens.
Who knows. (kitten meows)
Don't give him all of your energy.
Spread the love a little bit,
and who knows, maybe that other guy
who you weren't as physically attracted
to might end up being one of the coolest guys
and the funniest guys you've ever met.
Spread the love.
Desperate girl signal number two is doing the double text.
If you're noticing that when you're texting guys,
there is way more blue on the screen versus gray,
which are his responses,
then you know that you kinda have a problem.
The double text is where you text someone,
and then they don't respond, so you text them again,
and then maybe they don't respond,
so then you text them again.
Now, you're a triple text.
You wanna be careful of the triple text, don't do it.
I don't know if you know this,
but 99.999% of people carry this little guy
around them everywhere they go.
He saw your text.
He probably even thought about it for a few minutes,
but clearly he didn't respond for a reason,
and the worst thing that you can do
is keep texting over and over and over again,
because you haven't gotten that response.
I know it can be hard to be patient,
especially when you're excited or you're really interested
or worse, when there are problems in the relationship,
but I ask you to find the patience from within
and not do the double text.
Desperate girl signal number three is posting
on social media just to get his attention.
Does your social media absolutely blow up
with stories, with pictures,
every single time your guy goes out without you,
and worse off, are you doing this because you want him
to be looking on his phone thinking,
what are you doing that is so God damn fun?
Needless to say, this is just a cheap desperate ploy
to be able to get someone's attention.
Social media is not a place to make someone jealous,
and more importantly,
it's not a place to get a guy's attention,
especially when he's not giving you his attention.
So if a guy is blowing you off
and he's not giving you the attention that you want,
rather than posting on social media
with pictures that make it seem like you have a cool life,
rather than do that what I want you to actually do,
and I know this is crazy,
go out and actually create a really cool social life.
Call a bunch of old friends,
actually do something that is really fun,
and be present while you're doing those things.
Or if you have a hobby or something you've always wanted
to do, or an interest, or something like that,
go out and do those things
and don't do it just so that you can get a guy's attention.
Do it because it fulfills you on a deeper level.
This, in turn, will naturally make you
less emotionally needy,
because you already are very content with your amazing life.
And finally, signal number four
is every single time you get drunk,
you overshare every single feeling you have about him
and this relationship that you may or may not have with him.
If you find that whenever you get really drunk,
your entire dating life implodes
and then explodes all at the same time,
then it's time to take a look at this habit a little bit.
So in the future, if this does happen,
tone it back a little bit on your drinking
and see how your love life
naturally smooths out a little bit.
So I wanna hear from you.
Which of these are you most guilty of?
Leave a comment right there below,
and also, if you enjoyed this video,
then I have a great training
that I think you'll really enjoy.
It is completely free.
It's called, "Why Men Pull Away."
I'll leave a link in the description or in my bio.
I think you're gonna really enjoy that,
and it goes over three biggest dating mistakes
that most women make when they go out and try to meet men.
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through every single stage of dating, finding love,
and all that good stuff.
Thank you so much for watching.
I'll speak to you very soon, you sexy single lady, buh-bye.