So for the majority of people looking at this I imagine you might be feeling some level
porn is impacting your relationship and that is certainly something that I'd be curious
whether or not you had a frank conversation with your partner or perhaps you're watching
this because you yourself are concerned about your porn use and how might be impacting your
arousal or ability to get stimulated by your partner.
I think for the majority of couples out there, porn in itself isn't a problem where or there
may be a problem think that it's a secret and I think that in a healthy relationship
there is a room for masturbation, self-stimulation where porn and a lot of images is part of
that but I think unfortunately some couples may have the idea that once in a relationship
as if all sexual energy is supposed to be for one's partner and if that is the contract
that you both have established then I absolutely understand why porn is problematic because
ultimately it feels like a violation of a contract so I think you need to take a step
back and ask yourself and your partner whether or not you feel there is any place for porn
and if so, what feels like the healthy balance.
As long as you both agree that it's an aspect of some pleasure or potential something shared
together then I think you can have a healthy place.
It's important to realize that for some there is a tipping point where porn is unhealthy
because it becomes obsessive, it becomes compulsive and it can not only impact your ability to
physically get aroused with your partner but it's certainly can impact the ability to not
get bored and really feel themselves present and engaged and excited by what's happening
in the moment here now with your partner.
If you feel like you're that individual or if you're in that relationship, it's important
that you both begin that conversation and ultimately start speaking with a professional
who can guide you to determine where will you ultimately decide porn does or doesn't
fit into your relationship.