so if someone doesn't want to be your friend you feel like they hate you
yeah what else could it be
but you're either super impulsive or you get choice paralysis
well
everything in your life is either a complete success or a complete failure
perfectionism
even if you want to do a hobby for one day you have to buy every single supply for it
you need any thread or some paint pens
so you'll laugh or cry uncontrollably
yeah or i'm just numb
you're either a hypochondriac or you just don't care about your health at all
yes i have no middle ground all black and white no gray area
okay but i do all these things too and i don't have ADHD you're not special
you have one of the associated traits of a mental disorder
but you don't have a mental disorder
wow you are special that's crazy i've never heard about that
touche
you tell your beef he says he's got boyfriend
that i'm scared of him and i ain't fucking vegetarian
she wants to touch me woooo
she wants to love me woooo
so then i learned that all of these hair products that are being sold that like atp and walmart
are like being sued for the same thing
which is like they have formaldehyde in them
because basically you can get away with
the FDA doesn't
like require you to list out the word fragrance
so fragrance can literally mean anything
so they have formaldehyde in them which is the leading cause of cancer
so so they're being sued for having formaldehyde in them
yeah
i can't believe it's in a rain all week dude
anyway i think that amy chick was really into me at the bar
did you see how like into me she was
yeah
yeah i saw that
I'm finna kill 'em and dump all the fuckin' bodies in a lake
Obliteratin' everything, incineratin' and renegade 'em
And I make anybody who want it with the penafraid
But don't nobody want it but they're gonna get it anyway
'Cause I'm beginnin' to feel like I'm mentally ill I'm Atilla
have you ever had a dream
that
that you um
had you you
what you could you do
does this ever happen to you
we're in a fight and we're fighting we're doing fight stuff
are you even listening to me
well no it's like you said earlier because the
okay so when you said the first thing
lots of people get flustered when they get into an argument
but if you have ADHD it can be particularly challenging
people with ADHD can have trouble both organizing and articulating thoughts
combination of both executive dysfunction and emotional dysregulation
basically the more emotional you get
the more your thoughts get all jumbled up and out of order
which in and of itself wouldn't be a problem
except that a lot of times we are expected to be the most articulate
in moments of great stress
which fun fact a lot of people with ADHD are
some of us operate much better under stress
the problem comes when there is a judgment made about how smart
or intelligent or involved in the argument we are
based on how well we communicate during one
that's not fair
my best piece of advice take notes
i know that sounds weird but if you're in a tough discussion
sometimes taking notes can be really helpful
you ever get caught in an ADHD feedback loop because i just did and it was scary
i was waiting on a text message so i clicked on my phone
to see if it had showed up and it had not
so i looked away and kept doing what i was doing
but i forgot that i clicked on the thing so when my phone screen went off
i thought it had just lit up with the text message
so i clicked it again to see if the text message had arriven
it had not
but by the time i looked away and then the phone screen i forgot that i clicked it
so when the phone screen went off
i thought it had showed up so i clicked it again
this happened two more times
make sure to use the one touch rule to keep your house nice and tidy if you use or wear
an item simply put it back in its proper home before placing it anywhere else then you won't
have as much to clean up
when you finally force yourself to clean something
barricade yourself into the room that you'd like to clean
with some um empty boxes or baskets
so that if an item goes in another room you just put it in that basket
and instead of doing a million things across the house that won't make anything look clean
you'll have the dopamine of having one clean room
and then you know wait two weeks until
you feel five minutes of motivation to empty the baskets in the other rooms
i can't fix everything
*SMACK*
this is literally me everytime i play i can never remember what i opened a chest for and then ill walk away and then ill be like ohyeah thats right and by the time im back im like nope forgot again ive probably spentmore time opening and closing chests than actually playing the game
But these rich niggas throwin' paper Now it's time for the twerkulator
It's time for the twerkulator
P.Y.T.
It's time for the twerkulator
I'ma shake what my mama gave me
T.L.C.
I'ma shake my money-maker
It's time for the twerkulator
i'm not lazy
i just don't feel like doing anything
selected participation
they think im doing nothing
but my brain is busy
kind of
i need to finish what i was doing yesterday
which was nothing
if i gave you a series of tasks
say sending that email
just kidding it's two emails
taking out the trash
stopping at the post office
finally sweeping your kitchen floor
and calling your mom how would you organize those tasks
for many people it might look like this
just a list of stuff to do
but if you have ADHD it gets a little bit more challenging
many people with ADHD struggle with task organization and management
which is part of executive function
we struggle to know when to start
when to stop and in what order to complete tasks
now for a lot of people with ADHD
the challenge is this if we started our list with taking out the trash
but then we remembered that we needed to do the email
that email now becomes the priority
but then we remember that we have to sweep and sweeping becomes the priority
but then remember we have to go to the post office and that becomes the priority
oh and we also struggle with short-term memory
which means that we've forgotten about taking out the trash
it can also look like this
where every task is given equal priority
task paralysis
you can see everything you need to do at once so what do you choose
can be overwhelming to decide
so you just add it to the pile for tomorrow
i love being neurodiverse i really do
but the one thing that pisses me off about having both ADHD and Autism at the same time
is the inconsistency
oh my goodness
i piss me off so bad
my Autism be so angry at me because
she's like girl i can't count on you for nothing
i don't know when you're going to be reliable and when you're not
and my ADHD is like okay and
it's more fun that way
i'm trying to chase the fun you're killing my vibe
and i'm just stressed chronically
my ADHD always wants fun
my Autism always wants structure consistency
and it also hates hypocrisy like a lot
so when i expect consistency from other people
to the point where if they're not consistent i'll ghost them
and then i have an inconsistent moment i'm like
stress upon stress upon stress
so i only be careful with things and meticulous and
super organized and try to do everything perfectly about 60 of (the time)
the therapeutic benefits of being around animals is so underrated
at any given moment i have six to ten trains of thought going in my head
it's dinner time so i should really eat but i don't really feel hungry but i feel like
i should definitely
oh i gotta get this nail redone
the planet is on fire it is literally on fire and nobody is freaking out
potato
oh potato
something i'm forgetting i know i know there's something i'm forgetting
but i'm not even kidding you the minute i'm with my dog
or my hedgehog
how
do you exist
how are you so cute
i just love you so much
i just love you so much i just love you so much
maybe you should try writing notes for yourself when you're having trouble remembering things
brightly colored post-it notes
wait a minute you say i've used post-it notes before that totally doesn't work
let me show you what i do
i use sticky notes in a physically intrusive way
so if i put one here when i make my coffee in the morning
i have to actually move it
to be able to brew my coffee
i put a sticky note on the milk
so when i pull this out i'm gonna see that
i put one on the door knob
so when we leave in the morning i have to actually move this
to be able to open the door
and you can use as many or as few as you like
you know yourself if you need more put one by your contacts
put one on your steering wheel
put one in the dog's food bowl
so you're going to see them when you're doing your day to day tasks
and you're going to get interrupted with whatever you're doing
smack you in the face hey don't forget your appointment
hey don't forget it's a half day you got to pick up your kids early from school
whatever it is
and then you just have to remember to take the sticky notes down at some point
imagine if we could swap hyperfocuses
like hey is anybody uh into web design right now
because i can swap you for some cleaning hacks
we'd be unstoppable
why are you so worried about being yourself
are you worried that other people won't like you
like who cares about them
they're like monkeys they just fling shit wherever they go
you are you and you should love you for who you are
and not care what other people think about that
you are unique and perfect just the way you are
let other people see that
okay
love you
squish
bye
ADHD people
newsflash
you're not a cactus
and you actually have to drink water