Did your boyfriend notice your change? - NO! He never did!!!
After dating him I was just like "ok ok"
You thought you didn't have to bother anymore? - Not as much at least.
What? - Those annoying girls who just talk about their boyfriends.
I see!!!
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This time we went and asked Japanese girls about the SHOCKING ways
in which Japanese girls change once you start dating them.
We asked this to boys, they gave us their opinions, now it's the chance for the girls
to voice their opinion about how they think they change once you start dating them
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For better or worse, how do you change once you started dating someone?
I am more fun to be with before dating me.
That's my thing.
Once I start dating someone, I get a lot colder towards the boy.
You do? - I do.
I am a bit of a strange case. - So before you start dating a boy...
you were kinder, but once you start dating you become colder?
- I am like that. - Isn't that usually the OTHER way around?
How did you realize that you are doing that? - I want to be chased by him.
And once we start officially dating, that isn't there anymore.
There is a saying in English about that...
"Be mean, keep them keen"
Yeah something like that - Did he keep chasing you then?
Yes actually quite a lot...
Seems like that's a nice strategy you got there.
I like men who are not really interested in me.
You like men who are NOT interested in you?? What does that even mean??
I like trying my best to change their minds.
And once I have achieved that, I get a bit colder.
I might be an unusual case.... - No I totally understand that! - You too??
I understand you!
Do you do the same? - No, I want to become more beautiful and start dieting.
I start dieting, wearing makeup and try to show him my feminine side.
Before or after dating?
Once I date someone I will try to be feminine.
I do that beforehand to, but once we date I try harder.
Is it not usually the other way around with that too? - What really?
How did you realize that you change?
Either my someone told me or I realized myself what I was doing.
Someone told you? - Yes.
I talked with friends about it and they told me that my behavior was strange.
And that they felt sorry for my boyfriend.
So your friends told you off for it. - They did
How about you? Has someone told you that you changed?
Did he notice your change? - He? No he never noticed.
We weren't together long enough for him to notice the change maybe.
That's a shame girl!
Before dating him, his room would always look super clean. Once we dated...
the room would be full of worn clothes and half eaten food.
But I did the exact same.
He went into my room when I wasn't there. My rice cooker was left open,
and the ladle for it was lying down on the floor....
He unfortunately saw that and said "That's awful"
Wow he said that.
When I try to have it clean, it will look super clean.
But only until you start dating the boy. - Exactly.
Once I date him, it gets messy.]
Let's just say you were too busy.
Before going out I would try to chat lots and be really positive.
But once dating, I will show my true self. There is quite a difference.
When we are not a date, I am actually kind of gloomy.
And my boyfriend would then ask me if I am not having fun.
Before going out, I would try and push myself to be more excited and hyped.
I would shout "So cute" and such.
But once we started going out I would be like "ok ok."
You didn't push yourself any more. - I didn't think it was necessary
But then he would say "Why are you in such a bad mood?" and I said "That's how I am."
That's your normal state.
Before I am super loud and once we start dating I go all quiet. Cause I get so nervous!
You do that? - I do.
You are super excited and out beforehand and then... - I get all quiet when we date.
I will desperately try to find a topic to chat about but can't do it... - I get you girl.
I get so flustered that I can't talk about anything with him!
I think too much about what to say and how to behave.
That's a thing! Once you are with someone you care about you get all shy. - I do.
You can't show him your energetic loud side. - I would be too embarrassed to show him my true self.
You want him to see you as docile? - I want him to think I am feminine and mature.
I don't dare to laugh out loud, things like that. - You hide your true self.
I am too embarrassed about my true self.
Do your friends change a lot too when they start dating boys?
They become so girly! - They become cuter!
Their attitude and habits change a lot too.
They become so feminine. - I envy that.
I think that change is SCARY.
Makes me want to shout "Stop pretending! You were never that kind of girl!"
"You are not like that! Don't pretend to be a lady now!"
Are there also girls who try to hard to do their boyfriends hobby? - Oh there are.
For example?
If the boy likes girls with short hair, they will cut their beautiful long hair for him... - YEAH!
But then they break up really quickly!
Such a quick breakup after the cut!
The only thing she's left with is the short haircut. - Yeah.
Have you changed before and after going out?
I learned to care for others better and to think of their needs first.
You have your own fashion style. Did you change your style for him?
I changed my style for my boyfriend way too much, to match his taste.
How did you change?
I would try to wear girly and feminine clothes for him. But after we broke up...
I wanted to wear clothes that I like. So that's how I found my own style.
What clothes did you wear when you were with him? - Girly clothes.
Dresses like that. Frilly things.
But before dating him I wore GAL style clothes.
Wow that's a lot of style changes.
I tried different styles but I like what I am wearing now.
You found your style. - I did.
Have you ever dated someone? - Never. We are both going to an all girls highschool.
There must be some girls in your school that changed once they got a boyfriend.
What changes are there? - Whaat.
Those noisy girls who will only talk about how great their boyfriend is.
Boasting about the boyfriend
I don't care about your boyfriend. None of my business.
Does the boyfriend boasting start right in the morning? - That's when it starts.
How does it start? - "Did you know my boyfriend...."
"Look at the picture of my boyfriend!"
Does this go on all day? - Yeah all day.
What will you say when she shows you his picture?
I don't look at stuff like that. - You just go "Yeah right."
I ignore that stuff.
Those were all questions. Thanks so much.
I must say what I found very interesting is that Japanese girls
are very self critical and they would say that they become colder,
once you start dating them, or quieter...
because they are kind of shy. That was interesting.
A very outgoing girl might be a lot quieter and shyer later.
Also some girls said they will try to be super cheerful and fun
before you start dating them, once you start dating, they don't wanna put that on anymore...
They seem to be a bit less on a high cheery spirit...
Interesting to know. Well that depends on the person as well...
Some of the girls rooms become dirtier, and even the boys have to tell them "You should..."
"do something about it..."
Whomp whomp. My room is like that every morning after changing into my clothes.
Become more beautiful or more caring is on the good aspects
that girls will do. Some girls will try to loose weight
once you start dating them. That's a good point, if you notice that be sure to compliment them.
positive reinforcement guys.
Some girls will just talk about their boyfriend once you start dating them.
I guess thats for those we just have their first boyfriend, they just want
to show it off to everyone else.
How about you. How do girls change once you start dating them? Girls...
you can say that about yourself. Boys you can say that about girls you've maybe been with
Let us know the shocking ways. Also let us know...
which country you're from.
So we know if there are some cultural traits here we should know about.
Looking forward to finding out.
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