[LITTIE & HAZE, "GIVE IT ALL 2 ME"]
MERCEDES: After getting the homework assignment
I thought about, what is something that's
near and dear to my heart?
And it's meditation.
Hello, hello.
Hey, beautiful.
How are you?
Good.
Seeing Mercedes I was like, goodness gracious she's
looking amazing over here.
And I was like, wow, finally we get some one on one time
together.
So I was so excited to see what she had up her sleeves.
MERCEDES: I work in a very fast-paced environment,
as do you.
And sometimes we need a moment to like,
step away from the chaos.
Yeah, lots of it.
Anthony is in the health care industry.
Very high stress.
So I thought it would be good to maybe see if he could not only
share something that is important to me,
but maybe even benefit from it.
All right, so.
Inhale 1, 2, 3.
And exhale for a count of three.
1, 2, 3.
Again, inhale for a count of 3.
And exhale for a count of 3.
So the purpose of meditation is not to silence the thoughts.
You let them walk past the door, but you
don't have to invite them in.
So we want to be conscious that there's always
stuff that can grab our focus.
So like, staring at you it's like breaking my focus?
Yeah, basically.
ANTHONY: Having previous conversations with Mercedes,
she never disclosed to me that she meditated.
So coming onto this date and realizing that she was sharing
something so intimate and dear to her heart
made me feel like I was important.
MERCEDES: Well, thank you for kind of basking
in like, my secret self.
Something that's really near and dear to my heart.
It's a little bit vulnerable for me, obviously.
Love and appreciate it.
MERCEDES: But that's how I start my day.
I'm assuming that you wouldn't have known that about me
right off the bat? - Definitely not.
MERCEDES: OK, so I kind of want to flip that on the reverse.
And ask you, what is something that I wouldn't
know right off the bat.
That I'm a perfectionist, in a way.
And it's like a gift and a curse.
But I have like, certain routines and things that I do.
And I kind of like, don't deviate from my routine
unless it's like an extreme emergency.
From when I wake up, my patterns are my daughter,
how I maneuver with my personal business,
like it's just structured.
You know what I mean?
Do you feel like you can build somebody into your routine?
I do.
But that person would have to be very patient.
It sounds like you do need more of a supporting role,
because you're like-- you're on your train.
Like the woman is the neck, know what I mean?
So she has to be supportive.
She has to be there, present.
Help me with-- care for my daughter, definitely.
I definitely feel like Mercedes is the type of woman
that'll appreciate the different attributes
that I bring to the table.
I'm very organized in my life and my day to day.
And not to say that I want to push it on anybody,
but I feel like that's the point of a relationship.
You see where somebody's lacking and you kind of
fill in, and vise-versa.
If you come into my life, for instance,
and you alleviate certain things I had to do a certain way
by myself the whole time then I'm going
to look at it differently.
Like, wow--
Because now you get to share that burden with somebody?
ANTHONY: Exactly, with someone.
So it'll be like, nice to have somebody
to kind of be there with you. Like a partner.
Not do it for you, but do it with you.
Whatever you say, just got to make sure there's
a little room over there on your routine for another human
to kind of--
[CLICKS TONGUE]
Going into this date I was a little questionable about
whether or not our lifestyles could blend,
our personalities could blend.
But after getting a better sense of who Anthony is,
could I see myself with him?
Possibly.
I think anything is possible.
Thank you again, Anthony.
ANTHONY: I appreciate you for inviting me.
I had a great time.
Thank you.
I had a good time with you as well.
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