hi everyone Adrienne Everheart and today I'm going to talk about three reasons why
your relationship is failing and exactly what you can do to turn it around now I
wanted to make this video for you just very quickly today because I had
received a couple of questions just one after another over at I heart love
Academy and I was like my goodness I could just answer these so quickly in a
video about 3 reasons why your relationships failing and how to fix it
because I don't want to just talk about what you're doing wrong I want to tell
you how to fix this and as always I share with you tips and techniques that
are coming from a place of feminine energy and your feminine vibe so you can
realign with your energy get back in touch with who you are
aside from the masculine energy world that you are currently in and you've
been born into and it's been your only way to know how to survive up until this
point is to be in your masculine energy and then it's time to have a
relationship with a man and it doesn't work out so great but you will have
benefits from feminine energy and your other people in your life too you know
even at work learning how to manage this learning how to effectively use your
feminine energy so let's get right to it these are three reasons your
relationship is failing and what to do to begin fixing them and turning them
around now the number one is you're not communicating and I know you've heard
that a million times right communicate communicate communicate that's what all
therapists probably say and book self-help books out there about
communicating but it's not just communicating like here's every thought
in my head it's not just communicating telling your partner what they did wrong
and why you would prefer it if they would have done it this other way that's
communicating alright that's telling someone the contents of
everything in your mind but if you are a woman or if you are a person in your
natural feminine energy and you are in a relationship with a masculine energy
partner or you want to reactive your partner into masculine energy the
first thing it's gonna start is your communication and coming from a place of
allowing the masculine energy to have space and time that means a lot less of
this and a little more of disobey and my programs and in my ebook 500 ways to
talk to a man I teach you things that you can actively be doing with your body
that are quiet that are silent that are gonna pull him towards you and a man
needs to miss you he needs to feel that space of not having you you know right
there and it's not that you're playing a game or anything but you want to make
sure that you create that space because again you've been in masculine energy
for a good long while you don't know any other way to be you've just known if I
want something here's how I go out and get it and I tell someone what's wrong
with this situation or what I'm feeling that's wrong or bad that's just coming
from a really masculine energy place in fact that's what men do with us with
women and we don't really like it when they talk to us like that but that's
coming from that masculine energy place so this is not about leaning forward
because it I always get a comment in my comment section that someone says this
is too much work it's leaning forward it's not leaning forward we're talking
about communicating about what works what feels good
what's nice every time my husband drives us somewhere and he gets us there safely
I don't care if it's a supermarket I tell him thank you thank you thank you
for driving us so safely if he gets a good parking spot I go, ah ha! you got the
magic today! I'm being positive I'm not letting a moment slip by that I'm not
connecting with this person now you need to look for these at first because if
your relationships in trouble there's a good chance all you're seeing is
everything that's wrong with your man! and if he does text you, he text you too
late, or at the wrong time you see so I want you to start to look for what is
working and I want you to communicate it and communicate less meaning ask
yourself why am I about to tell him this why am I about to just mention this
right now what am I trying to get him to do or control the situation of the
outcome begin to notice how much of your communication is used to kind of control
and manipulate other people and you're doing it by God you come by it naturally
in a very innocent way and by natural I mean for generations and generations of
women who your existence your survival has been because you have learned how to
be nice to a man that's how women before you existed they didn't have all the
rights that we have now.. and you know now that you have them... we don't know any
other way to get anything except to kind of be manipulative or be nice, we don't
really know it's it's we've come by this honest because for years that's how we
had to survive that's how women survived so if you want to learn more about
communicating I have an e-book called "500 ways to talk to a man" it is
jam-packed with communication methods techniques tools scripts I teach you how
to do it because I want you to learn how to do
this not just copy me word for word so I hope those of help number two the
reason you're having problems in your marriage or relationship is you have no
life you either have no life or your focus is
so much on him or your children that your life is is a thing of the past so
getting in touch with your life starts as small as setting a timer on your
phone for five or 10 minutes and not thinking about anybody else but you I
want to tell you on my busy busy days that is sometime when I'm in the shower
and when I get in the shower I start with me time I put on my face
she'll polish it has a little bit of that you know a little acid in it so I
start with that and I do some deep breathing in through my nose out through
my mouth and through my nose out through my mouth that's why me time I let that
you know sit into my face while I go and shampoo my hair or something else and
then when I get out of the shower I push back my cuticles that is my me time I'm
only focusing on me! so you gotta take shower if you have time to take a shower
you have time to focus on you now I would love for you to expand on this and
find other ways that you can cultivate your life away from your children and
away from your husband they have to miss you they have to miss you I should
change the title of this video into people need to miss you but remember as
part of masculine energy is that masculine and your energy has led you to
believe that if you if you go do something else for half an hour an
afternoon that people are gonna think they don't love you that's that's the
myth and that's not true when he texts you just let that text sit there for
about ten minutes until you can really get into your body and find out what you
feel don't just banter back to him don't just more you know mindless
communication back and forth connect your heart to his pause take some time
to reflect okay the third one I want to share is about warmth and again a lot of
girls I will talk about warmth and they'll say that is too much work if I
have to do it for him I'm not doing this we don't have to do all this for men and
you don't you can keep doing what you're doing if it's working for you and if
it's working for your relationship but if you are watching my channel and you
need some guidance on your feminine energy and how to really fix some things
in your relationship that aren't working I want you to learn warmth warmth is
empathy warmth is listening warmth is not jumping to a conclusion about how to
fix it so often the best way to express warmth is creating space for
that person to tell you how they feel or get mad or or maybe even tell you off!
for just one little hot second you're giving them that space you're just
giving in that space that's not their right to tell you off everyday it's not
their right to get mad it's not.. well you know actually it is their right they can do
they have the freedom to do whatever they want to do however you have your
boundary but give somebody a little space to be that way without jumping in
and fixing it or getting into a big fight and I do this one with my husband
especially early on in the relationship I talked about parking earlier while
parking is sometimes a bad thing for my husband to experience he does not like
driving around looking for a spot and I will see a side of him come out
sometimes that is unlike any other version of him I see men sometimes
expect cars to function perfectly all the time computers should function
perfectly things should be perfect and work out and we sometimes to get caught
in this state of perfection that things should work out perfectly but it is in
the imperfection but you find the beauty of your love and your marriage and of
your life it's in the imperfect moments that you are unfolding and you're
getting in touch with who you are and that red beating heart inside of you and
that soul in that spirit if you want to go even further it's when you're having
the imperfect moments that you're experiencing life it would be wonderful
if things are perfect all the way all the time and maybe one day they will be
that way but right now when you are experiencing that imperfection with your
husband or your partner I want you to learn how to offer warmth just offer
warmth there's so much that can be transformed by just looking someone in
the eye and nodding and listening and saying
nothing even if you had something uncomfortable happen your silence will
say more to that man than any lecture any self-help book any therapist you go
see your silence will speak to him because he's gonna want to talk to you
again and if he wants to keep talking to you
he cannot be talking to you the way he does sometimes and if he wants to keep
going places with you and he acts like a full when it's time to park and he can't
find a spot he's he's not gonna get to go places with you anymore it's a
double-edged sword but you also just allow that person space and some empathy
to be kind of who they are instead of being mom the manager wife girlfriend
the manager of all human behavior we all need to behave this way also known as
queen of the world and if you weren't familiar with queen of the world I have
a video in my whiteboard series where I talk about her and her presence in your
life let me tell you I'm the biggest queen the world there is my big thing is
people should not talk in airports except people telling you where to go
nobody should be talking in airports because I can't think oh if I were queen
of the world all right ladies I hope that these three tips have helped you I
talked a little bit about communicating but communicating effectively it is not
leaning forward addressing problems and issues at a time when the two of you are
not at each other's throats I made a video about that recently this is warm
compassionate communication it's about being honest most people who wind up on
the therapist couch the therapist says there were things that needed to be said
that no one was saying and this is the really cool thing about pausing dropping
down into your body and finding what you feel okay the next one is you have you
know you don't have much of a life you need to enrich your life aside from your
husband and your children or even your job you need to have a rich
full juicy life for yourself so he'll miss you and you'll have things
to talk about you'll have these you know really appealing cool qualities to you
that are fascinating and the last one is warmth a lot of that can be done with
appreciation which is also type of communication but just warmth in your
energy just I'm not looking for perfection we're just too beautiful
humans on this planet and and here's what we're happening right now and have
this warmth to your vibe and your energy that instead of being closed down and
cold and well he didn't message me last night I'm gonna I'm gonna have this vibe
about him or this way about him just open your heart to warmth warmth doesn't
mean it's okay to be ignored it's okay to have something bad happened to me
warmth is about just I'm keeping my warm loving vibe going my energy tap your
heart send him love tap your heart send him love because if you're thinking
bad thoughts about someone anyone it's not going to get better so that's where
your vibe comes into play that warmth okay I hope these have been super
helpful look into my book 500 ways to talk to a man I teach you how to get
into your feminine body and speak from this place so you don't have to keep
watching all my videos you can learn how to do this yourself and I have a lot of
other programs too if you're new to dating you're learning how to date check
out FEMM tools for dating, is one of the best programs I have because it gives
you a whole protocol for feminine energy dating all right everybody join my group
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too so I thought I'd just throw that in alright everyone..
much love and talk to you soon! MUAH! bye-bye