GG here.
We currently live in a society where we don't really teach young men about the fundamentals
of how attraction works.
So Unless someone's a natural, a person whose always been confident and charming around
girls, chances are they had to learn it from someone, like an older brother or a male role
model figure.
Either that or they scour the internet, reading hundreds of articles and watching hours of
videos about how all this dating stuff actually works.
In fact, that's probably why you clicked on this video in the first place.
Don't get me wrong, I think it's great that more guys then ever are taking the initiative
to seek out this information to better themselves.
But the problem is that so many guys think that by learning all these “pickup techniques”,
on how to approach her, or how to neg her, and how to “qualify” her, they'll somehow
turn into this cassonova who's all of a sudden able to seduce any woman.
But here's the truth: no matter how many tricks you learn or lines you memorize, your results
are never gonna be what you truly want unless you BECOME an attractive person on the inside.
Until you work on your inner character, the way you think, the attitudes you keep about
yourself and about women, no “outter” technique is gonna magically get you the girlfriend
of your dreams.
And so, the first step to making any girl want you, is to start internalizing the 3
fundamental mindsets to keep when you're around girls.
I call this mindset the 3 P's: Present, Playing, and Positive.
It's pretty straightforward.
By combining these 3 key mindsets, you're immediately gonna make a shift in your inner
psychology to become more attractive.
The first P, Presence, just pretty much means that you're constantly aware of what's happening
around you.
It means you're listening to what she's saying, instead of getting stuck in your own head
thinking of what witty line to say next.
This is super important because part of getting good with girls is to be able to improvise
on the spot, whether you're replying to her in conversation or solving an actual problem,
which requires you to be aware of whats going on in the moment.
A great book to develop the skill of Presence is “The Power of Now”, By Eckert Tolle.
The second P, Play, is again pretty simple.
A key theme that you'll see in a lot of my videos is that I keep hammering in this point
that guys have to be playful when they interact with women.
Obviously, you should still be serious when the situation demands you to be.
But in general, you should always be looking to have fun and keep things lighthearted when
possible.
And there's gonna be times when its gonna be really hard or even impossible to stay
playful.
But when the day if over, you have to be her rock, meaning nothing can shake you.
No matter what happens, you need to be able to deal with it with a smile, with a bit of
playfulness.
Keeping things fun and lighthearted is on the best ways to make any girl find you instantly
more attractive.
Lastly, The third and final P is for Positive.
No, this doesn't mean you have to walk around super happy go lucky all the time.
I'm more talking about having positive INTENTIONS.
And what this means is that you're a wholesome person; you don't threaten people or judge
people.
You're aware of how powerful language is, so you're mindful of how you use it.
You think about the words you say, and the effect it'll have on the girls you talk to.
Having positive intentions can also mean going out of your way to truly understand the girl
you're trying to get, to really know her soul.
It means you'd never make her out to be the bad guy.
You understand that you both are on the same team.
So those are the 3 P's that you need to internalize as apart of your mindset as the FIRST Step
of this quest to become an attractive person, to be able to make almost any girl want you.
Now, the second step, is something I briefly touched upon on a previous video.
But today, I'm gonna explain it in a way that I think you guys will get more.
I'm gonna call it The Oreo Principle.
You've probably at some point in your life, eaten an Oreo.
It's one of the most recognizable, best selling desserts in America.
And as a little kid, whenever I shared oreos with my friends, they'd all have the same
reason as to why they loved oreo's so much: it had the perfect balance of textures and
flavors.
The hard, crunchy exterior mixed with the soft, sweet interior is such a perfect combination
that it made Oreos the industry success it is today.
And I believe that the secret to Oero's success can be applied when it comes to attraction.
Here's what I mean: like the Oreo, be hard on the outside.
And from the perspective of the girl, what this means is that you should be action oriented.
You should be a man who can handle things, and overcome obstacles.
You should be able to speak up for yourself, and be someone who's decisive and knows where
he's going.
But on the inside, once you open up to her, what she should be able to see is your inner
softness and sweetness; just like the Oreo.
She should see that you have a compassionate side, a kind and affectionate side thats willing
to be very VULNERABLE to her.
When you combine both the outter hardness with the inner sweetness, you become someone
that women won't be able to resist.
By having this almost kind of tough, confident exterior with this vulnerable, affectionate
interior, you create a perfect balance of badass and sweetie.
Girls cant RESIST this combination.
I mean, just look the formula of how almost every romance book is written.
Girl meets badboy, who's cool and distant at first, kind of a rebel with an edge.
But then they eventually become closer, he opens up more and more to her, becomes really
sweet to her and then eventually they fall in love.
There's a REASON why this formula is so tried and true.
Because girls can't resist this combination of the hard outer and soft&sweet inner.
So remember, always keep in mind the OREO principle as you grow into a more attractive
man.
So to summarize today's video, today we talked about the 2 steps to make any girl want you.
The first, is having the 3 P's mentality: Presence, Playfulness and Positive Intentions.
The second, is the OREO principle, which refers to having both a hard, confident exterior
and a sweet interior once she gets to know you more.
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as always, peace.