so how can I help who has a question something I want to
go over that was a very fast hand yes let's get a reminder hi guys no my name
is Kiana guys for those who don't know me mr. Noah Bell who's been here at the
front dancing locksmith as you may know him my question for you Jason is my
problem is so I'm an older sibling afford and my mom she doesn't really
have much help and she's kind of just been doing her own thing so I have to
take over as mom and I'm stuck in this place where I have to do for me and I
have to live my own life but I can't watch my younger siblings go down this
drain so how do I find that balance and helping but still doing for myself and
not being a parent to kids I didn't push out right so what I commend you for even
taking care of them up to this point that's that's right applause Matt
so I am I am obviously not a parent right I've dogs that's where I draw the
limit but what I know is that it's much better to if you equip people if you
train people to be good strong discipline people then you don't need to
be there all the time for them because then they can take care of themselves
does that make sense it's like so if what I know is even with some training
employees or team members or things like that even students if I'm constantly
telling them what to do we're not teaching them why are we doing that and
what's the process and that kind of thing then they're always going to
become dependent on me to know how to do that because they don't know how does
that make sense so if you can find a way to install into them here's a philosophy
here's how to approach life and you can take this philosophy and you can apply
it to all the things that you'll see coming in your life so that you can
handle a lot of it on your own even rituals things like hey when you wake up
here's what you should be doing in the morning so that make sense if you can
install just think about rituals what kind of rituals do they need to keep
their shit on track in their own minds how old are they tend other ones 14 and
then I have a 17 year old and I'm not I have 17 year old she's 17 and um that
advice is perfect and I've been really trying to do that I guess like they've
been molded to think of starting way up until this point and you know they're
still not done going through what they're going through so it's like I
kind of just have to show you don't have to disappear and have them think what is
Kiki doing like why isn't she here for them to really get it because they my
words are right and I think everyone here knows that children they don't they
don't learn by what you say that they learn by watching what you do completely
alright so obviously going first and being the example for them is I think
would be amazing I would start small you're like my guess is even a 10 but
there's no reason a ten-year-old can't have their own morning ritual right they
don't do they right now the most responsible one she gets up
with her own alarm sets it on time she's the first one ready waking my brother
must see 10 year-old the thundergirls gotta die
okay but the fourth the teenagers the two teenagers I don't know did where
right now they're teenagers gotcha yeah I mean one like they're not your
responsibility like if you're carrying that weight on
your shoulders you can let it go because they're really not okay you shake it off
this goal yeah because they're really not but you really care about them you
want to look out for them so man I would just I would sit down with them one on
one and I would I would frankly I would use this as leverage like I just came
back from fucking California at this event where they were like eight hundred
nine hundred people there and they're all success and they're all doing these
amazing things and they like you know and sell them a little bit unlike the
dream and tell them what one thing I've learned is that all of them a they all
had this one thing it's a morning ritual right that was the number one thing I
learned that Avery's not sure and they taught me this exercise and I want to
teach it to you is that cool and this is yeah so not a turtle so I mean you can
just teach them this like a five or ten minute morning ritual just something
small just to get the ball rolling for them but you don't tell them what the
morning ritual is you create the box and they fill in the blank with what their
morning ritual they think it should be and you can kind of coach them through
his I'm exactly I would just start building a little happiness like that
okay