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Namaste everybody about the love and
light that is absolutely in you and I
like to start each video off with um
saying that because the light absolutely
is within all of us we are enough and
the power to heal our lives is within us
all it's just that the way that we've
been taught to see ourselves is
dysfunctional and our childhood
programming may have taught us or
brainwashed us to believe that we are
not good enough and so when that becomes
your point of focus and that becomes
just the way you live your life you are
literally brainwashed out of believing
that you have the power to heal your
life or that you are enough and so you
spend your whole life looking for
validation outside of you and you
attract people who need you to validate
them so codependence attract people on
the narcissistic spectrum because a
narcissist expects you and feels
entitled to your validation where you
need the validation from outside of
yourself because you've never received
it and you would you think that in
taking care of other people that they
will validate you back but it doesn't
work it's dysfunctional and then you get
sick you know your body isn't working
the way it should you're depressed and
lots of negative things begin to happen
so I like to start off the videos by
saying the light is within you you are
the light and that you are enough so I
want to talk today about um a pretty
interesting email that I received not a
long email but I thought I think that it
was going to drive it's going to hit a
lot of people um they're going to really
resonate it with it so she says hi Lisa
I recently started watching your videos
on YouTube and I find them very helpful
I have an um an advice question that
maybe you would like to respond to on a
video or by writing me back there is a
girl who recently came into my Social
Circle I hang out with her my boyfriend
and her boyfriend I try I try to avoid
seeing her at all costs because when
she's around she makes mean comments
towards me and then everyone joins in
with her in making fun of me it makes me
feel pretty bad and the stuff she says
to me is quite ridiculous kind of like a
mean girl situation I don't know how to
react or even what to say how can I make
this stop without seeming like I'm crazy
for being upset I also don't want to
make any more problems with her by
stooping to her level so I actually
wrote her back um and I'm also creating
a video obviously so I wrote I hear you
dear one and you are right she is a mean
girl but she is also highly insecure
otherwise she would not need to a suck
up all the air in the room by making
Jabs at you and stealing the attention
and energy of the people in your circle
and B she would rather keep the focus on
you so no one can focus on her flaws she
is deflecting and trying to protect
herself by essentially throwing the
fears she has about herself onto you
there are a few things that you would
have to do but they would take some
stiff selft talk so these are some of
the responses that I think that she
could probably um work on saying to this
girl a I'm so glad that I that I don't
have any self-esteem issues otherwise
your comments might really bring me down
right now now and you would say
something like that with a sarcastic
tone B I wonder why you feel the need to
poke at me the way you do c it is
amazing how every time we're together
you find a way to make fun of me for one
thing or the other that's so funny of
course being
sarcastic um D why do you think you feel
the need to take Jabs at me e I'm going
to have to rethink hanging out with you
because it seems there's there's just
this trend that you follow that makes it
seem like before long something you say
is going to make certain that all eyes
are on May f Do you ever consider what
it feels like to be on the receiving end
of one of your so-called jokes G you
know you don't have to make fun of me or
embarrass me to feel better about
yourself right H do you mind if we
change the top topic and stop talking
about me it's getting a little old for
me now so the reason I wanted to um
those are just some of the responses and
that happens often when I coach
someone what happens I find is that when
you have this certain negative selft
talk going on in your mind it's over and
over and over and over a couple of
things well a lot of things happen we
tend to attract people that reinforce
that dialogue so if I'm afraid that I'm
not good enough I will attract people
that make me feel like I'm not good
enough no matter what I do for this
person it will not be good enough
because I'm projecting literally my
selft talk or my perception of myself is
creating the outside reality I don't
know that because I'm asleep you know
you know but that's really what happens
so if I was treated like I wasn't good
enough as a child and like I have to
stay small or like I'm just in the way
and that if I smile all the time and I
act like I have no needs then I
experience less pain in my outside world
than as an adult female you know I'm
going to stay little I'm going to stay
small I'm not going to have a voice I'm
going to take care of everybody else
because I think that in doing that I
will avoid trauma I will avoid criticism
and people will ultimately like me and
go oh my God she's such a good girl she
has no need she has no problems oh she's
so easy to get along with and that's
what I attract in my adult life if that
was what I was brainwashed to believe
about myself and my needs as a child so
what happens often time is that as
adults and you know dealing with other
people we don't have the dialogue to go
back at someone like someone like this
girl is writing about that makes fun of
her because we have the opposite s of
self that type of selft talk so very
often times I will create a script for a
client I will say well how about we talk
about this how about we say this when
your mother-in-law says this how about
that when your EXN says this how about
that or um when this person in the
office says this how about that and all
of a sudden bells and whistles start to
go off and their Concepts begin to
expand and they're out of the box right
so now there's this whole new the whole
new train of thought has been born by
having me help them create a new train
of thought and so I thought it was
really interesting um that you know what
this first of all this YouTube viewer
what you have to understand I don't have
perm she didn't give me permission to
use her name so I won't but um let's
just call her Tracy so let's say Tracy's
in this situation what she has to
understand is that Tracy there's
something there's something inside of
Tracy that's active there's a vibration
that's active and it's probably sounds
something like you know I hope I don't
get made fun of I don't want I don't
want to be the center of attention and
what do you attract you attract being
the center of attention even though
you're not actually you know it's not
it's not good good attention this person
in your new group is creating this and
making you the center of attention so
there's some fear there's an activated
fear inside of you and it's a common
fear but the less you worry about people
making fun of you the less other people
are going to pick on you so this mean
girl is picking up on a vibration within
you she it's we all have radar and we
all we all have ESP extra sensory
perception we all do we all size people
up I think I read somewhere where in the
first 30 seconds a human being is has
already analyze the person that they're
talking to in 30 seconds a human being
can tell whether or not that person
they're talking to is in secure
confident a lot of things that we can
tell in 30 seconds so this girl is
definitely picking up on your energy um
and so there has to be some energetic
shift inside of you that you have to
work on but um and I really hope that
some of these responses that I that I
sent you via email and are now using in
this YouTube video will help open up
your mind to a new train of thought you
have to understand that people who make
fun of us they're afraid of being made
fun of
and that's why they make fun of other
people they are so afraid of having the
tables turn and that's why they're
trying to keep the focus over here so
the to tables never turn and everyone's
making fun of them um so even in my own
life my father is the type of person who
likes to make fun of people but you
can't make fun of him no way not going
to happen and so it's people like this
enjoy keeping the focus on other people
because these are their insecurities
they're actually projecting them so what
the couple of things that you can do
Tracy is you can pull pull her on the
side but and actually say something but
in most cases someone that you um go go
toe-to-toe with like this is going to
vomit all over you and they will say oh
you're too sensitive oh you're being
crazy oh blah blah blah blah blah and
make it seem like you're being too
sensitive I finally learned my response
when I call someone out on someone
something and they go oh you're being
too sensitive I go and you know what if
you weren't so insensitive I wouldn't
have to be so sensitive you know instead
of me being too sensitive why don't you
try being not try not being so
insensitive and so but that comes with
confidence because I Now understand that
you know if you care about someone if
you care about other people you don't
look to exploit them you don't look to
make fun of the pimples that's on their
forehead you don't look to make fun of
the fact that their pants are a little
short you don't you don't look for ways
to really embarrass people so now that I
understand that and I get that it's not
my shame so if someone picked on me and
I've been through this a lot in my life
that is and I feel shame that is because
someone tried to make me feel shame and
they're throwing up their shame onto me
and I've come to believe that in terms
of the Law of Attraction you know
someone who's trying to throw shame at
me it can't land if I don't accept that
shame so you want to want to you want to
start pushing that back so speaking to
her privately probably isn't going to
work and I think you've got to you've
got to kick her where it hurts and where
it hurts is turning the tables on her
and making her feel like she's the
center of attention but not in a healthy
way not in um not not because she's the
the comic in the group making fun of you
but because you're turning the tables
and you're you're questioning her int
ention and you have to be very clever
and you you can stop hanging out with
her you can minimize your time with her
you can talk to your boyfriend about it
um you can go no contact with her might
be difficult because it's a group of
friends but you can certainly limit your
time with her you can also not give her
any any Focus if you just kind of like
ignore her in the crowd it's going to be
a difficult time for her to like connect
with you and try to make fun of you so
go out of your way to like try to like
give her the cold shoulder and ignore
her um if she begins to start talking to
talking about you talking smack about
you talking crap about you and people
start laughing I think that's when you
could use one or two of these lines like
say to her um I'm so glad that I don't
have any self-esteem issues because I
think that if someone someone did have
self-esteem issues and you said
something like that to them that could
really destroy them you know and then if
she comes back with oh stop you're being
too sensitive you can come back and say
oh well why don't you stop being
insensitive you know I'm oh I'm sorry I
didn't know that we were like that I
didn't know that we had that type of
relationship that we could joke around
like that like cuz I hardly know you so
but if you go back at her like that
you've got to really hold on to that
position and you've got to been you've
got to be able to take it as far as it
goes because people like this who like
just cause chaos and drama there's a
mean streak in them in most cases and so
when you begin to turn the tables they
up the ante so they'll they'll get they
could get angry they're not going to
apologize you know that but they could
get angry like oh my God you know what
do you got to stick up your ass oh my
God you know oh my God you can't take a
joke this girl can't take a joke you've
got to be able to to stay with that type
of rhetoric that type of conversation
that type of dialogue until the two of
you like break off or she leaves or you
leave but you can't have you can't go up
against someone like this with you know
what are you talking about oh I didn't
know we had it like that I didn't know
that we were that close that you you you
thought that you could joke around with
me like that I'm sorry I must have
missed that so when you go back at
someone like this with that type of an
energy they're going to come back at you
and you've got to be willing to go right
back at her until she gets a picture
like enough is enough and eventually
eventually what might happen is that
first Showdown might be difficult but
it'll set the tone for the rest of your
interactions she actually might not want
to hang out with you anymore which is a
good thing or she might you know when
she's around you she might just ignore
you another good thing you don't want to
be the center of her attention anymore
so dear one I really hope that this has
helped you a little bit when I read your
EMA email I was immediately like you
know moved and I got goosebumps right
now just just um doing it because it's
something that's happened to me in my
lifetime um and it struck a cord with me
and that's why I wanted to give you a
shout out and that's why I wanted to do
this video and email you back so when
you're with people like this and you
find that people like to make fun of you
and poke poke holes at you it is best to
understand that they are vomiting all
over you and their worst fear is to have
you turn the tables on them so that is
you either walk away you either stop
hanging out with them or you give them a
little dose of your own medicine but you
have to be prepared because once you
give someone like this a dose of their
own medicine they come back at you again
and you've got to be strong enough to
stand there until this person
understands not me anymore I'm not
willing to do this anymore and the good
thing that will come out of it is that
you will have learned to to learn to
understand that you don't have to
tolerate that from people and so in
essence you will have grown in your own
self-esteem your own sense of selfworth
and your own sense of confidence which
means that you will not attract this
type of behavior from other people
anymore because generally speaking it's
the Law of Attraction people who are
afraid of being made fun of often times
get made fun of so when you know that
you don't have to tolerate that and
you're willing to push people back guess
what you're not afraid of being made fun
of anymore because you know you can
handle it and then you stop attracting
people like this dear ones it is my
pleasure to come into your hearts and
your home thank you for subscribing to
this channel you literally are the wind
be beneath my wings the reason I created
this YouTube video today was because
this fabulous letter um very soon I'll
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it's only your programming Namaste talk
to you soon bye
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