Let's say you're talking to a girl at school at work or just somewhere outside and you know
deep down that you want to keep that conversation going. Which means
you're gonna have to ask for her phone number.
Now, the question really is will she give it to you if you flat out just
ask her for it or will she respond with something like this?
"Sorry I don't have a phone."
"Oh yeah yeah. That makes sense you know. It's the 21st century
and all and I just saw you over there on Instagram, but yeah you don't have one."
"Umm, rude."
The fear you're feeling is simply built around your lack of confidence and believing that you're
gonna get a yes answer from her and then you actually have anything of substance to share.
So, putting that self-doubt aside I want you to realize that having a creative way
to ask for her number is gonna make you feel more confident in doing so.
So in this video, I'm gonna walk you through five creative ways that you can ask her for
her number that's gonna reflect your deeper inner confidence and charm.
If the two of you are involved in any type
of life experience together that's the perfect reason to get their number.
Let's say for example you both are in the same class or you're working on a
group project together or you volunteer for something and you're matched up.
You can always lead in by letting them know that you want to have someone
close in contact in case you miss a day, in case you want to share notes,
or in case you want to meet up with someone to study.
"I know right? This semester looks super tough. But, tell you what.
Let me get your phone number in case I'm out or I miss class one day and
I need to text someone to get the notes or we can even make plans to study sometime."
This is going to be the safest way to get her number though because it's not built on any
romantic base so while you may have it you might have to step up your in-person communication
if you want to take those "Hey do you have the notes from last Friday?" text to
"Hey let's go out and get something to eat".
Another safe way to ask her for her number is to
strike up a conversation and to just totally blank on one specific detail.
One detail you just can't quite remember in that moment.
So from there, ask her for her number and let her
know that you'll text her later when you actually remember the thing you forgot.
"Oh my god, it's on the tip of my tongue. What's the name of
that company? You know the commercial where it's like... the song is like..."
*hums "Nationwide Auto" tune*
"All right, you know what give me your number, and the moment I figure it out I'm gonna text you
like we gotta solve this problem, and the moment I figure it out I'm gonna let you know."
Or you can always opt for a variation of that method and intentionally leave out
the ending of a story to build suspense with her.
Now, how you do this is you start to tell her story, you start to get deep into the details,
and then right at the end, you tell her you have to go.
But if she gives you her number, you can always text her later to let her know how it ended.
"So I'm walking down the street completely minding my own business totally unaware of what's about to
happen to me and as I'm walking there's this guy with this large trench coat just standing there
walking super slowly down the block. And I decide to walk around him and the moment that I do,
he turns around and pulls out this gigantic machete-looking knife and it's... you know
what actually I gotta head out. But, let me get your number and I will text you. In fact,
I'll call you and tell you the rest of the story. Here give me your number and I'll fill you in."
Each of those methods are fun but the problem is they all rest on one single element
and once you share that element with the person you're talking to if you don't
know how to keep that conversation going it's just gonna flat out die.
So if you want to opt for something that's a little bit more fun
and flirty I would use the "fill in the blanks" method.
Basically all you have to do is take a piece of paper and write out 10 individual lines.
10 lines with parentheses around the first three and a dash after the second three, that way your
crush can know that you're asking them for their number in a fun and interesting way.
"You know you are a lot of fun to talk to, I'll tell you what,
hold on. Alright, right here. All you got gotta do is fill in the blanks."
Now she might get it right off the bat and know exactly what you're
asking for but if it does come off a bit confusing and she just doesn't
know what to do with this little paper, you can always say something like this.
"What's this? Well if you fill it out you might be entered to win the next
little jackpot or you might actually get a call from me later tonight."
Ultimately it's all about delivery so make sure that whatever follow-up line you choose to use,
make it fun and authentic to your personality.
You don't want to do something that feels a bit robotic or forced
so just be honest and open and have a good time with it.
Now, this method is my favorite. I think it's the most authentic
and genuine and creative way that you can go, so listen up.
Basically what you want to do is strike up a conversation with that person,
talk about something that you're interested in, something that you want to do, something that
you want to check out, and start to gauge a little bit of what their interests are too.
If you stumble on something that both of you might be excited to do,
the next logical step is to ask for their number and to invite them in doing that thing.
It might sound pretty simple but trust me, it works.
It's the most logical step for you to take here.
Both of you guys are super interested in doing that activity and it gives you the opportunity
to keep that conversation going by asking them more details about why they like that thing,
when they started to like it, and what other hobbies and interests they have.
It's the best way to really get to know that person and to create a system where
you can keep texting them, keep talking, and keep seeing what you guys have in common.
"No no no, if you are a foodie trust me you will love this vegan pizza place called
Screamers. They have the best slices and the best garlic knots. So tell you what.
Give me your phone number, I'm going to text you. We're going to set up a time. I'm taking
you out to Screamers, you're gonna try it, you're gonna be blown away. Trust me on this."
Whichever way you do ask for her number,
though make sure to do it with confidence otherwise it's not gonna seem real to her.
It's gonna feel a bit forced, a bit awkward,
and just not something she's going to want to partake in.
Yeah, she may give you the number but if she doesn't respond to you
when you message her after, what's the point?
Now look you will run into some situations where
the person doesn't want to give you their number and that's okay.
In those situations, you could still be proud of yourself for putting yourself
out there. For trying. For doing something that before you might not have done.
However you choose to ask them, be proud of yourself for doing it because that's
a big step forward and it's something you can do the next time with a little
bit more confidence when you do want to ask a girl for her number.
Once you do have her number though, what do you text her about?
Do you reference something from past conversations or do you start a brand new topic to talk about?
I'm gonna break that down in my video over here on the side
that's gonna walk you through how to start a text conversation with the girl
if you're nervous or awkward you just don't know what to talk about.
So, check out that video,
I think it'll be super super helpful for you and I'll catch you next time.
As always, love and peace.