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How do you move on from a crush? Is it possible to break
up with someone is your mind even if you didn't have a
full fledge relationship? Is it possible to walk away from
that happy feeling, every single time you think of that
person or you every time you see them?
Yes, guys, it is possible. I think there's especially
meaning if this was first crush ever and now you have to
move on. It hurts so much. It is so hard to pick up
everything, and walk away, and leave your crush behind. It's so hard.
In this video guys, I'm giving you detail steps how to
actually move on from your crush, whether you have been
rejected, or you realize that things just aren't going to
work out with them, or even if you realize that they're
jerk and they just don't really deserve for you to have a crush on them anymore.
These tips aren't really hacks, or tricks, or super easier, or
anything. These are real. Like this is a hard thing to do. I
can feel like my mood is a little bit different today. Like
as I'm talking to guys, because I realize what a hard thing
this is to actually do in your life. These are just the most
helpful and useful things that I've seen in my career that
can actually help you move on for real.
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Who here is ready to move on, you guys? I know we can
do it. Let's do. Come on let's do it. Let's get right into the video.
Tip number one, to move on from your crush, is to make a
list of all the things that you don't like about them. This
might seem kind of mean and cruel but it's totally not.
This is just to help you realize that you and your crush
may not have been that compatible after all, and that everyone is human.
If you put your crush up on a pedestal, they're going to
seem like an angel, or with the perfect person that would
have been so perfect in a relationship, but realistically
everyone is human and nobody lives up to that perfect
standard. Write a comprehensive list of things about your
crush, that can help take away that perfect status of them in your mind.
Some of you are going to say, "But Kimberly, there's like
nothing bad about my crush and all, they're so perfect."
But I know you're lying. There is something not so great
about everyone. So now is your chance to let all those
things about your crush out. We know that you've been
putting them on a pedestal and they're not so perfect after
all. So now is your chance to let those feelings out. Plus
all of the things that are not so great about them. This
helps to humanize your crush and help you stop obsessing
over them. They're not perfect. Everybody has faults.
Number two is to create distance in order to fully move
on. It helps to spend as little time as possible actually
physically near your crush. So many people are like, "Oh,
I'm going to stop looking my crush. I'm ready to move on."
But then they totally stalk them on Facebook or they still
hang-out with them, or go to the same parties. It's so
counterproductive, like they're not able to move on at all.
They're constantly reminded of their crush.
This totally applies to social media too. Guys, you don't
necessarily need to un-friend them, because that could
create some awkwardness. You probably do want to mute
their posts so you don't get some surprised post every
now and again from your crush. You're like, "They're
with their girlfriend." Or, "They were at a party, and I
missed it." No. That's just torture for you. Don't do it to yourself.
Number three is focus on something really specific in
your life. I always say when you want to focus on
something, do it like a laser beam. Serious. So if you've
wanted to master your triple pirouette dance for so long,
or like get certain skills on the piano just right, now is
your time to do it. Anytime that you want to spend
thinking about your crush, it's time to channel that energy
into something productive that you really want to do -
that's going to benefit you in your life.
Tip number four is to do something nice for yourself that
can help prove your self-esteem, because right now you
deserve it. Breaking up with a crush is hard, so you
deserve a little bit of a treat right now, that kind of help
get you through this tough time.
Breaking up with a crush is so hard that you deserve a
little bit of a treat right now to boost your confidence.
Maybe you want to get a new dress, or your teeth
whitened, or just something for you that can make you
feel like amazing. This takes attention away from your
crush, but also makes you feel like way more fresh face to
the world, and feel pretty, and sexy, and like "Va Va
Voom." The more confident you are right now, the easier
it's going to be for you to move on.
Number five is to flirt. I know this one is really weird. I
don't mean to flirt with your crush. I'm saying to flirts
with other new people that makes you feel really happy,
and cute, and sexy and all that stuff.
We constantly talk about flirt hack here in AskKimberly,
so now it's your opportunity to try them out and master
the art. The experience of flirting for recreation can make
you feel so good and super sexy. It's just a fun thing to
do. This also helps you realize that there are plenty of
fish in the sea out there.
Okay, guys. Number six is to be really careful that you do
not start liking somebody else immediately. Sometimes
liking someone can take the distraction away from the
crush you're walking away from, but it's important to make
sure that we're not just transferring our feelings from
person right on to someone else. It leads us directly into
another situation of potential unrequited love.
I usually recommend taking a little bit of you time, like
some time away from having a crush just to focus on
yourself and not just immediately displacing those
feelings onto someone else. Even if you are flirting with
other people, it's not a good idea to get too attached right
now. This doesn't solve the problem that we're trying to
get through together right now.
Finally guys, number seven. We have made it to the end.
Is to recognize that this situation actually sucks, and that
is going to feel pretty crappy temporarily. This is a hard
thing that you're going through in your life. Make sure
that you give yourself some love right now.
In my opinion guys giving up on a crush and walking
away from them is actually a form of heart break. So
make sure you give yourself a break. Having a crush on
someone feel so good. It's inspiring. It's uplifting. It can
make you feel happy or pretty, or sexy, or just like more
vivacious, and more happy about life in general.
The let down of actually letting all those happy feelings
go super, super sucks. If you can go into this experience
prepared for it to be not so great, and you like proactively
invite some friends over and plan a bunch of activities,
they're going to make you happy, and just like mentally
be prepared for a tough couple of weeks. This experience
is going to be a lot easier for you than if you didn't have
any of these strategies at all.
Don't forget guys, it's going to go a lot better. Walking
away from a bad crush is a lot better than having a bad
crush. You're actually one step closer to a really positive great relationship.
Alright you guys, if you love this video, give it a huge
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next relationship video. I love you all. Muah!
Yeah, you tell me how will perfect love goes wrong.
Can somebody tell me how to get things back?
The way they use to be.
Oh God, give me a reason.
I'm down on bended knee.
Can we go back to the days when our love was strong?
Can you tell me how a perfect loves goes wrong.