make it now i get my titties out a
little bit don't be afraid to explore
your prostate but also titties god the
back of my knee
we have gathered the questions from the
internet and now we're here to review
those questions have a little
conversation about it we're just getting
a five we got a vibe now
trans girl five our first question is
how do you identify i identify as a
trans woman afro-latina i identify as a
non-binary trans film i just identify
as a trans woman proud and loud i
identify as a queer trans woman i
identify as a non-binary trans femme
like a lot of people
have tried to you know box me in and
just be like trans woman and you know to
an extent i do identify with that but i
still feel very much like a blob we are
but meat socks for sure at one point
after meeting someone new do you come
out to them if ever from the jump that's
the first thing anyone knows about me i
want to know if you're on my side or not
i usually don't come out if i'm just
like meeting someone as an acquaintance
i don't know i feel like just based off
the way i look like it's kind of a given
sometimes because i'm still like early
in this but sometimes i'm just like i
just am myself and if they ask then i'll
let them know i never wanted to go
stealth which for those of you who don't
know is basically where you become cis
passing and don't tell anyone that
you're trans in the beginning stages of
my transition i lived a self-life and so
i wasn't really forward about it just
because i had this idea of like i wanted
to blend in but then as i got older i
felt like that's not like what i want to
live how long did it take you to come
out well i came out at 19 and i kind of
came out within like six months of me
kind of realizing i was trans i started
hormones basically right away i was
lucky enough to have access to an
informed consent clinic so i just kind
of showed up one day signed off like i
know the risks i know what's gonna
happen i'm gonna grow boobs i'm aware of
that decades literally decades it wasn't
until like i became 16 and i kind of got
you know presented and exposed to the
lgbt community i saw community and i saw
myself and it was the first time that i
met somebody that was trans instantly i
was like oh my god that's what i am i
was out as a gay man it wasn't until
i was
22 and i was like for the first time
surrounded by so many trans people
because of where i worked at i started
medically transitioning like a little
bit over a year ago everyone comes out
at their own pace i know people who
start hormones and don't come out
socially until they're on hormones for
like three years do you ever question
your gender all the time every day and
it's it's part of the fun for me it's
like adapting and changing after being
out for a while you just come kind of
disillusioned with gender as a whole
never questioning that i'm trans the
more i've been out the more i've
surrounded myself with queer people who
also are genderqueer and non-binary and
it's been empowering in that way to
continue re-examining gender for me i've
never questioned my gender i've always
felt affirmed with who i am and the
gender i've always wanted to identify as
one thing i love about being visibly
trans is everywhere you go if i see a
trans person on the bus we have a look
that's like
if if it gets real i got your back crawl
our next question is how long did it
take for you to feel comfortable with
your gender like maybe three years i was
lucky enough to
pay
a ton of money to get my face done was
on hormones for like three years at that
point so yeah it took me about three
years so thanks for answering this
question specifically because this is
one of the questions that i had going
into this you know this past year that i
have been medically transitioning you
look in the mirror and you're like what
the am i doing
you know it's a big step to leave like
what you're comfortable with and what
people are used to
a year on hormones before 16 it was like
when i was not comfortable i don't know
if i feel fully comfortable because i
mean my mom i still don't have i haven't
told her trying to leave the house
is always hard i'm always
procrastinating on that and then i'll be
like to work and stuff just because i'm
mentally preparing myself changing
clothes like do i want to even show off
you know with the body changes like do i
want to show it off or do i want to
cover up it's just more of a safety
thing usually did understanding your
gender change your understanding of your
sexuality yes i
realized i was bi i
was out as a gay man before and it felt
not quite right to be in that kind of
relationship as a gay man with another
gay man it was like something's off here
i can't quite put my finger on it of
course it fell off i was a woman being
with a gay man i'm attracted to
heterosexual men once i started finding
myself and that's when i was in a
relationship and then that's when i
realized i was trans and we ended up
breaking up because i started to
transition that's been an ongoing
process for me i identify as lesbian and
date cis and trans women and non-binary
people and i kind of like don't really
care what someone's genitals are but my
needs and taste certainly changed quite
a bit i'm ready to dive into my lesbian
era
oh my god yes so like i'm attracted to i
guess men but i'm also there's moments
of like also being attracted to other
women one thing that for me has been a
struggle in dating is just feeling like
i was accepted by the lesbian community
like on lesbian dating outs a lot of
people will say
real women only know trans girls i feel
like at a certain point if you've
deconstructed gender enough to
completely alter the way your body moves
through the world only like a stone skip
away from like
examining everything else so any sexual
advice for newly out women the p spot is
great okay
don't be afraid to explore your prostate
uh-huh it's the g-spot yeah i know i
mean like
with hormones that was a whole new like
introduction to sex was the emotional
part of it all and how like the little
sensations my body is like definitely
changed in that way and the way that i
experience sensation and things oh first
i'm just like oh my god the back of my
knee so did you have goals when you
first transitioned
and have those goals changed for me my
goals were like the surgeries when i say
surgeries right i want the girls to know
that you don't need to rush i just got
breast implants like last year
congratulations thank you thank you
definitely my goal
coming into like medically transitioning
was to be able to shake my titties oh my
god i just want you know
and just like when you're going down the
stairs and you feel the weight oh yeah
no i was literally thinking of that i
just have goals of you know living life
and making it far they say like what
three to five years to your fully like
on hormones that you all you're full
like you've developed fully i mean i've
already done a letter writing group for
ffs because to me like at least that'll
be like my most
affirming the narrative of like
being born in the wrong body i don't
really like it
and i think that's generally the
consensus it's an easy
if flawed way of describing it it
definitely puts the focus on
trans suffering
as being like
innate
like no matter what is the situation
like this person is
flawed i guess biologically and i just
disagree with that entirely
like you have to correct your body to be
trans i would rather focus on like
maybe the person was born in the wrong
social
society what would you like to hear from
someone who has just accidentally
misgendered you just the correct gender
and not any further discussion about it
i hate the oh no i'm so sorry oh my god
i'm so sorry about this like oh she she
she and i'm like okay just you know just
correct yourself and let's keep it
moving i know i'm not like i'm not
trying to be a spectacle right it's like
i'm just trying to get donuts man okay
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i mean like it's okay to up like
we're all learning it reminds me of like
walking into a room and someone asked
for your pronouns and not anyone else's
and it's just like i feel like you're
outing me right now
and i am very uncomfortable with this
situation
i guess if anything i just like when
people are like thank you or like thank
you for correcting me what are some of
your favorite pieces of media with
authentic representation that everybody
should watch disclosure disclosure
yes yes that's such a great documentary
for somebody that wants to educate
themselves taught me the show of vaneno
i feel like a lot of people resonated
with that show too most of the cast was
trans or i had a lot of trans people in
the cast sports like the end of high
school and everything i was doing a lot
of youtube my favorite videos were
always um like transition videos even
doing this is like this is like
visibility is very important
robin tran yeah hilarious also shout out
to flame monroe she's an older black
trans woman she has a special on netflix
so what mistakes that you make that i
can avoid i think letting go of the idea
that there's a wrong or right way to do
it i was in my 40s before i started
transitioning and
had a very eventful life before that my
memory is so full in the last four years
i barely even remember my life before be
open to a whole new world i made the
mistake of taking up a lot of space when
i came out but what that looks like
taking up a lot of space white trans
women is like speaking about the trans
woman experience as if your experience
as a white trans woman is universal and
just no
real examination of how race plays into
it or class or anything else what do you
wish people knew about trans women don't
ask have you had the surgery you don't
ask this this woman did you get a
hysterectomy right and i think people
get caught up with the idea of like what
we have rather than who we are we're
more than just our genitals we're more
than what we look like trans women can
breastfeed that's something that you can
oh i didn't know that yeah like it's
nutritious well i haven't looked into
that
for those who are medically
transitioning it's normal to lose a
little bit of height as well our
genitals
although they may at times look like
men's genitals they don't function like
that listen to the trans woman if you're
like hooking up with one you can't just
treat like a guy's dick necessarily even
if they're not on hormones no it's a
girl dick you know
a queen-size uh-huh sorry
oh i like that
what is the best thing about being trans
oh my god uh for me it's having titties
for sure
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the sisterhood
but also titties
if i can say that
one of the best things about being trans
is just the agency that we have over our
bodies to shape shift transform
literally transform we hope that we have
answered all y'all's questions if you're
new to transition
dm me i'll answer back bye bye
i think we're really some special
individuals because we really have to
work inner with ourselves and find that
love and and find all of the features
that we have and love it and go out to
the world and say yes this is me and so
i think that's what a lot of other
people lack and i think that's the issue
i think that's what they're really upset
about because they having a hard time
with themselves