- The law of attraction states
that if you can visualize it in your mind
then it'll become reality in your own life.
On this video, I'm gonna walk you through the three reasons
why the law of attraction doesn't work for most people,
and yet, yet, I'm still a big believer in it,
and you can be too, intro.
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What's up everybody, welcome to another Unstoppable Sunday.
I'm TK, author of the book
How to Punch the Sunday Jitters in the Face,
entrepreneur and angel investor.
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So we are about 50 episodes in on this channel,
and I always try to make sure
that every episode is actionable, practical,
and just kinda like tell it like it is.
And so naturally, I always avoid
sort of fru-fru topics and woo-woo topics,
especially topics like the law of attraction.
Now, the truth of the matter is I am a big believer
of the law of attraction,
and yet for most people, the law of attraction doesn't work,
and it kinda does them a disservice,
and I absolutely hate it.
So on this episode, I'm gonna show you two things.
One, I'm gonna first show you how the law of attraction
has actually worked for me, proof that it has worked for me.
And number two, I'm gonna give you the three reasons
why it doesn't work for most people so you can avoid them,
and actually put the law of attraction to good use.
So I gotta be honest,
this episode was friggin' nerve racking for me,
because I knew that if I was gonna talk
about the law of attraction and really prove to you
how it's worked for me,
I would have to share some things
that I'm generally not comfortable sharing
or I've never shared with anyone.
And so, 10 years ago I left my job at Bridgewater.
I was leaving and knew that I was gonna take the leap
into entrepreneurship, and it was super scary.
It wasn't like I had a trust fund or something,
so it was a risky move, I was starting my business,
I was doing consulting and ugh.
But I knew that if I didn't do it,
I would regret it forever.
And so, I did this one thing.
I sat down, and I bought this cork board.
This was 10 years ago.
And I bought this cork board and I just kinda laid out
a visual representation of what I wanted my life to be.
'Cause I knew there were tough times ahead,
there would be ups and downs,
and I needed to get crystal clear on why I'm doing this,
and what I want my life to look like 10 years from now
or five years from now.
So I'm gonna show you what's in it,
it's fairly straightforward.
I basically put together this board,
and I said you know what, I'm starting a company
so I wanna build a solid team
and help people communicate better,
and I wanna do it with passion,
and the reminder to myself that this is my design
and I'm designing my life, and let's go make it rain.
And then I went a little bit further, I said you know what,
if I'm gonna go build a company,
I want it to be massively successful,
and this is the kind of car I want.
I've always wanted a BMW M5 ever since I was 16 years old.
I wanted like a cool penthouse, I wanna be able to travel,
and I wanna have like a family compound.
I wanna have a good love in my life, I wanna be fearless,
I'm wanna be in the best shape that I'm in,
and I'm gonna go travel and explore the world.
Now, needless to day, I don't have all of this realized,
but here we are, 10 years later,
10 years since I've put together this board,
and I kinda carried it with me whenever I moved
and put it back in my closet.
10 years later, okay, built a company and sold it, done.
I actually have this car.
I've wanted it since I was 16,
I bought it a couple years ago.
Penthouse, I didn't get the New York City penthouse,
but I got the...
It kinda looks the same, it's got the same windows,
totally bizarre, so I've got that.
I've traveled through about 13 countries
in the last two years.
Got the family compound.
This fearless thing always sends shivers down my spine
because I put this down over here,
and last year the Marketo Marketing Nation event
was themed fearless,
and I actually did a video I'll link to it,
using this picture on being fearless,
I did an episode on that.
I did an episode recently,
I'm in the best shape that I've been in a very long time.
Still a work in progress for some of these other areas.
Needless to say, I don't have it all realized,
but Jesus, like, holy crap.
Isn't that crazy?
I just sat down 10 years ago and kinda put that stuff down,
and here we are 10 years later,
and I'm like boom, boom, boom, not quite, close, boom, boom.
It's insane to me, to me it's insane,
and maybe it's insane to you.
And it just goes to show
that clearly the law of attraction worked for me,
but here's the catch, here's the catch,
I didn't go stare at this thing every day.
I didn't do a seance, I didn't light any candles,
I didn't do any affirmations, I didn't do any chants.
I probably looked at this for an hour extra
in the last 10 years, I just kinda glance at it and move on.
The point is, the law of attraction worked for me
because I didn't go and focus on law of attraction.
Instead I got to work.
I got to work for 10 years through ups and down,
and no matter what, I said,
I'm gonna go make this stuff happen for me.
Which is what brings me
to the reasons it doesn't work for most people,
but it worked for me.
And this is why I hate the law of attraction,
because I feel like it's an incredible concept,
and yet it holds people back
and it creates a level of disillusionment.
Which takes me to the three reasons why people get it wrong.
Number one reason why the law of attraction
doesn't work for most people
is they don't (quack) do the work.
Look, I created this board 10 years ago,
I looked at it a little bit, I look at it every now and then
but I got to work.
I created a plan, I set up goals, I created up systems,
I went out there and said let's go build that company,
let's go create value, let's go build a great team,
let's be fearless, let's get into the best shape
that I can be in, and I worked for it.
And I think that's the number one reason
people screw up the law of attraction.
They focus on not doing the work,
they say oh I'll bring it to me,
instead of me saying I'm gonna go get it.
And you gotta get into the mode of I'm gonna go get it
if you actually want your goals to come true,
law of attraction or not.
The second reason the law of attraction
doesn't work for most people
is because they give up before they're successful.
Sounds obvious, but let me explain.
This happened to me, I almost suffered from this.
Through the last 10 years,
the last 10 years when I went
and went after all these things, my marriage failed,
my company almost died, and I had health issues.
And in all of those cases, they were the worst of the worst,
the lowest of the lows, and at the same time,
I was like there is no way I'm gonna give up.
I will not give up because my goals are clear,
and I'm gonna keep moving forward.
And that's kind of where
this whole idea of unstoppable came.
Now let me just pause over here, those are the two reasons.
I just wanna check in with you guys.
If this is resonating, if you're like yeah,
I wanna go after my goals, I wanna be unstoppable,
I wanna actually have belief
that I can accomplish the things
that I put on a random board 10 years ago,
and then 10 years after, accomplish it too,
can I just get a yes in the comments?
Just put a yes in the comments,
because I want others to see that they're not alone;
there's so many of us that are out there
that are going after crazy, incredible, bold goals.
Whether you're starting a company, changing your career,
going deeper into what you're working on, whatever it is.
The law of attraction can work for you,
but don't let the fru-fruness
or the woo-wooness of that bring you down.
What it really is about
is making sure you have a clear goal, a clear vision,
and going after it with actual action.
Which brings me to number three reason
why the law of attraction doesn't work for people.
They don't realize you can have anything,
but not everything.
So often I look at the goals that people set for themselves
or the vision board or whatever they create,
they're all just goal-setting, that's all it is.
And it's like the friggin' laundry list.
They're like I want anything and everything.
I wanna work a nine to five job, I wanna be a billionaire.
Here's the thing, something's gotta give.
The one thing that I've learned over the last 10 years
is you gotta give on some things to earn other things.
And that's the thing that a lot of people don't realize
with the law of attraction;
it's not like I want all the things and everything,
it's not disconnected from reality still,
like you gotta pick.
So be specific in what you wanna go after.
So now you know the three big pitfalls
that you need to avoid,
and the three big pitfalls that make it
where the law of attraction doesn't work for most people.
What you don't know
is how to go about actually creating
that five-year vision for yourself.
How to think about where you are now,
and what's working and what's not,
and how to actually take that plan that you create,
that board or that vision or that document,
whatever you call it, and execute the shit out of it,
like I did.
So if you're interested in doing that,
I have a free Unstoppable Life Planning Guide.
The free Unstoppable Life Planning Guide
does a few things for you.
It helps you figure out where you are now,
helps you figure out what your status quo is,
and helps you identify
what the best version of you looks like.
It's a completely free guide, you can follow the link below,
you can download it.
It is a subset of the information that I provide in my book,
How to Punch the Sunday Jitters in the Face.
But get the free guide,
and I'll have a special offer for you for the book
once you get the free guide.
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I'm TK, I will see you next Sunday.
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