Heya playa, is there someone that you wanna get closer to but you find it really difficult
because they only see you as a friend? Don't worry, in this video, I'm gonna walk you through
three very important flirting techniques that you can start using to change their perspective
and have them go "huh, maybe this is someone I wanna date". This is The Josh Speaks, you're
watching The Josh Speaks. For those of you that are new here, my name is Josh and every
single week I make videos sharing tips, ideas, and stories teaching you how to be your best
self. And flirting is something you should be doing with everyone. Your friends, your
crushes, people you talk to and interact with. Flirting should be something you just incorporate
into your overall behavior. Now you might be thinking, why would I want to flirt with
everyone? I really just want to flirt with my crush but let's really talk about what
flirting is. To flirt with someone is to create a little bit of tension in the conversation
that draws them in more to really want to talk to you. So, if you can master that art
of just flirting and creating tension with anyone, they'll be way more apt to pay attention
to that conversation, to share their opinions, and to hear what you have to say. So how do
you create that level of tension and get your crush more interested in talking to you romantically?
Well, I would use what I call the "Agree/Disagree" method. Whenever your crush expresses a really
strong opinion about something, ask yourself: do I agree with this or do I disagree with
this? Most of the time the reason why people get friend-zoned is because their response
is usually more neutral and safe. Their crush might say something like "this is the best
tv show ever!" and you'll respond with "yeah, I think it's pretty cool" and that just kind
of kills the buzz of it all. Try to have a much stronger opinion about things because
that's gonna help create tension. And look, whether you choose to agree or disagree is
going to work in your favor. Here's a good example. If your crush says that the Mandalorian
is the best tv show ever, that they're a huge Star Wars fan, by agreeing with them, you
might just kind of dive into that and say "Oh my god, you are 100% correct. Listen,
you and me, we see eye to eye here. Like, it's us against the world because no one else
likes The Mandalorian as much as we do." Or if you disagree you might want to say something
like "Oh my god, that's it. We can no longer be friends. The Mandalorian is the most boring
tv show ever! I don't know how we're going to recover from this". By agreeing, you're
showing your crush that the two of you just get each other. That no one else understands
things the way that you two do and by disagreeing, you're creating a bit of tension there. You're
showing your crush that woah, we don't see eye to eye on everything. How are we gonna
make this work? And that might actually pull them in more to try to find more in common
with you. And once you can nail that down, the next big thing that a lot of people do
that ends up making them get even more friend-zoned is they tend to compliment their crush and
then leave it at that. You're going to be the type of person that compliments them but
also adds a funny joke along with it. Remember, the whole point here is to build that tension.
You can call this technique the cocky compliment and what makes it so much different from what
the average friend-zoned person does is you're not just complimenting them or waiting for
a compliment or positive response back. Instead, you're setting the tone for what you want
to happen next. A normal friend-zoned person might complement their crush by saying something
like "wow, you look really beautiful today" and then leave it there and then wait for
their crush to respond with something pretty neutral like "aww thanks, it really means
a lot". But a person giving a cocky compliment might say "Wow, you look good today. Have
I asked you out yet, because I'm pretty sure I'm gonna ask you out. So where do you wanna
go grab lunch?" Only for their crush to respond with "Aww thanks, how about we go grab food
at the mall?". The difference between those two is your confidence and your intention.
When a person is friend-zoned, they tend to lack the confidence to really make bold statements
like that with their crush so, if you want to change things up you gotta be straight
and shoot with them. Tell them what you want, you want to date them. You want to ask them
out. Don't hide away from it. But don't just read that as confessing your love for them.
This is something that a lot of people do that ends up putting them in the friend-zone
so instead of just confessing your love, focus on building attraction. If you're someone
that has incredibly strong feelings about your crush, you might feel this deep desire
within you to just lay it all out there on the table, to just confess how you feel and
hope they feel the same way but by doing that, you're really just making things awkward.
You're catching that person off-guard because you really haven't worked towards seeing how
they feel about you and giving them a reason to feel that same way. I know what that's
like because I've done that before. I've befriended girls in the past that I secretly had deep
feelings for only to, later on, reveal those feelings just to get friend-zoned. And what
I should have been doing to build attraction is this. Every time I interact with them,
every time I feel like we had a deep connection or there was a moment that we shared where
the two of us are on that same page I should have said something like "Woah, this is really
weird. I'm getting this real close vibe with you and I don't know what to make of that.
Do you feel that too?". By saying something like that, you are subtly letting them know
that there's a bit of chemistry there. That you're picking up on it and you want to see
if they're picking up on it too. If they're not, they may say something like "I don't
know what you're talking about, you're just a friend of mine" and therefore you know not
to continue to pursue them but by planting that seed you're letting them see that there's
a potential that something might actually grow from this. And that's not just something
you want to do once. It's something you want to consistently do as you interact with them.
You might just want to drop more lines like that by saying "Woah, I don't know why but
I see you kind of differently now. I don't know, there's something about you that you
just look really really cute today". Saying things like that is going to help start to
plant the idea that you view them in a romantic light. It's way better to do it like than
then to just kind of unload your feelings and say something like "I've always loved
you. I've always wanted to be with you, will you be mine?". But take note, if you are going
to do that you have to follow up by asking them out. This isn't just a matter of flirting
flirting flirting and hoping that they ask you out, you need to be confident enough to
go after what you want which is pursuing an actual relationship with them. And it's only
going to happen, you're only going to escape that friend zone if you're willing to take
that leap and try. What do you think though, have you been friend-zoned by someone and
you just find it hard to find moments to flirt with them? Do you flirt with them and it just
doesn't go anywhere? Leave your comments down below and we'll talk about it. I wanna give
a huge shoutout to all my patrons and YouTube channel members. Thank you guys so much for
helping to support the channel, now what I want you to do next is to check out the playlist
over there on the side. That's a playlist on all my videos about escaping the friend
zone. You need to watch them if you feel like you're stuck in a place where you just can't
get closer to your crush. You kind of reached the cap of being friends with them and you
don't know what to do next. Watch that playlist because I think it'll be super super helpful.
On that note guys, I'll catch you next time. As always, love and peace.