Relationships are hard. There’s no way around it. No matter if they’ve been a partner for years or if it’s the first date, relationships can take some getting used to.
Humans are social creatures, so it’s normal for us to want, or even need, a relationship.
However, there are times where the relationship can become unhealthy.
It’s hard to see the true colors of the situation sometimes when in a relationship. After all, the saying is, “It’s hard to see the red flags when you’re staring through red colored glasses.”
That’s why today we’re covering 15 signs that you’re in an unhealthy relationship. Make sure that you stick around till the last pointer, it’s a big one.
Number 15: Your partner shows signs of extreme intensity.
Being intense can sometimes be a good thing, sure. Intensity is a great thing when someone wants the attention of it.
However, too much intensity can make it feel like someone is walking on eggshells around the person they love.
Intensity can be good in smaller doses, but mainly, if the person that they are with is super intense all the time. It can become a heavy emotion to deal with daily.
Number 14: Your partner shows signs of possessiveness.
There is a healthy bit of possessiveness in every relationship. After all, when someone loves another, they will try to protect that person they care about from other people.
Sure, other people will casually flirt with people who are taken on accident (or in some cases, on purpose).
Some couples see this as fun, or even as a challenge, and some see this as a kindness but draw firm lines.
Each relationship is different in how they handle outside attention from a stranger, but if the partner is extremely possessive, it’s never a good sign.
If they won’t let their partner go out with friends, snoop through their social media without legitimate reason, or find reason to dislike their family even, it is a very bad sign that the relationship wouldn’t, or shouldn’t, last much longer.
Number 13: Your partner is manipulative.
If someone in a relationship finds themselves constantly doing things that they don’t want to do, feeling that their emotions are invalid, or finding themselves at a crossroads with their partner that they never seem to win, it can become a serious issue.
A manipulative partner is a terrible thing to deal with, for one, and for two, it is a sure sign of an unhealthy relationship.
If they really loved their partner, they wouldn’t feel the need to become manipulative. If this is a constant point of conflict in a relationship, it’s time to go.
Number 12: Being with your partner has put you in isolation.
One of the first things an abusive, toxic person does to someone is remove them from their circle of support.
They’ll find a reason to hate their partner’s friends, family, colleagues, anyone that their partner will get close to.
In fact, they could even start an argument over some of these friends to make their partner feel like a bad person for even seeking solace with them.
Over time, the longer that someone is with that toxic partner, the more isolated they will feel.
If someone finds themselves feeling very isolated and alone and, when reflecting on it, realizes that the person that they’re with is responsible for such feelings , then it’s time to call it quits. It’s a huge indicator of unhealthy relationships.
Number 11: There’s a hint of sabotage in the relationship.
When at a party, if someone’s partner finds it the perfect time to reflect on and roll out the bad things that their partner would rather forget, it’s sabotage.
If they call when their partner is on an important work call with something that isn’t an emergency to make their partner look like a bad employee, it’s sabotage. Intentionally doing something to screw over their partner is sabotage.
It can be a hard thing to admit, because sometimes they just have that perfect excuse for it, but there is no excuse for sabotaging a partner. If this is a common occurrence, it’s a bad sign.
Number 10: They belittle you.
A partner who finds reason to make fun of and belittle their partner doesn’t really love their partner.
Sure, making fun of one another can be fun from time to time, but belittling is never okay.
Constantly belittling one another, making fun of the things they love or care about, is not something a caring person would do.
If the partner that someone is with constantly finds reason to make fun of the person they’re with, then they’re not truly a good partner.
It can be a surefire sign that they are a toxic person causing the relationship to become unhealthy.
Number 9: They make you feel guilty for doing nothing.
If the partner that someone is with makes them feel guilty all the time for not doing something with them, or even doing something that they don’t want them to be doing, it can become a very unhealthy relationship. No one deserves to feel guilty for doing what they want to do.
Whether it's a hobby that they enjoy that their partner doesn't, or something else entirely, it’s a bad thing to be constantly surrounded by that kind of negative energy. It’s one of the signs of an unhealthy relationship.
Number 8: There’s a lot of volatility in the relationship.
If someone’s partner isn’t someone that they can count on, then being in a relationship will become harder.
Being unable to rely on a partner because they’re unable to gauge how they will react is a serious issue.
If this is the case for a partnership, then whoever is in the relationship would find themselves walking on eggshells around their partner.
It’s a struggle in those situations just to remain happy, even when they’re not trying to please their partner. If this is the case, then the relationship is unhealthy.
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Number 7: Your partner keeps deflecting responsibility.
A partner who never takes responsibility for what they’re doing is a huge red flag. It’s always someone else's fault, it’s never theirs.
This isn’t only a sign of immaturity, it’s a sign of a toxic person and an incompatible partner. Someone who can’t take responsibility for their decisions needs to be as far away from a relationship as they can be.
If the partner someone is with constantly does that, then the relationship needs to end.
Number 6: There is an obvious lack of trust.
The one person who someone should trust should always be their partner. If they’re not the person they trust the most, then there needs to be a reflection on the relationship by the person who doesn’t trust them.
When there’s lack of trust in a relationship, there needs to be time to reflect on the central issue of why there isn’t trust.
With lack of trust, it could cause a lot of fights and issues within the relationship. It’s probably a good thing to step back and reevaluate whether or not the relationship is truly a healthy one to be in.
Number 5: There’s a hostile atmosphere.
There should never be a hostile atmosphere with a partner. If there is, it’s a cardinal sign of an unhealthy relationship.
Hostile atmosphere comes from lack of trust, lack of care, and lack of a lot of things that are needed in a healthy relationship. This isn’t something that someone can easily shake off.
If being with a partner makes the home environment, or whatever environment they’re in, seem bad or hostile it’s never a good sign.
Number 4: There is constant judgment.
Judgment and belittling go hand in hand.
If the partner that they are with makes someone feel like there is constant judgment, then it’s not healthy. Making sure that the person someone is with is their solace, their safe place, is important.
If this isn’t the case with someone, then they need to make sure that their partner is the right choice. Judgment from a partner that is constant isn’t healthy.
Number 3: There is nonstop narcissism from your partner.
Partners that are all about themselves are never healthy. It should never be all about one person and never about anyone else.
If someone is in a relationship with a narcissist, then the relationship easily becomes unbalanced. The person who is with the narcissist feels unseen, and they aren’t wrong in feeling that way.
Narcissism kills relationships, and if someone finds that their partner is all about them all the time and never seems to care about them, then they need to let them go. It’ll become an unhealthy relationship if they do so.
Number 2: There is never-ending drama.
Drama should stop at high school. That should be where the fights, pettiness, and other things should end. However, with an unhealthy relationship, it can make it seem like the drama is never-ending.
Someone may find that their partner is causing drama by instigating it, or even finding excuses to become involved in it by taking sides.
People don’t need to have drama when they’re adults. If a partner is constantly involved in some kind of drama, it’s a sign of an unhealthy person. And an unhealthy person leads to an unhealthy relationship.
Number 1: Your partner radiates victimhood.
It’s never a good thing when a partner is always the victim. This plays hand in hand with narcissism.
If the partner is never at fault, and it’s everyone else’s fault , it puts an unfair burden on the other partner to pick up the pieces of the person they are with to try to make them feel better.
No one can stay with and truly love a victim. This leads to an unhealthy power imbalance between two people when they’re in a relationship together.
One person feels the need to be the person who takes care of them, and the other thrives off of the emotion. It’s one of the major red flags.
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